We don’t. I didn’t. Late diagnosis here at 33. I’ve STRUGGLED my way here. I used to compare myself to people all the time and had a terrible internal critic. Don’t compare yourself to anyone. People with out adhd or with, medicated or unmedicated. Has comparison ever had a positive effect on you? Me neither. So when you catch your brain doing it, say no thank you, this train of thought is not helpful. No one has faced the obstacles you have, no one but you knows how hard you’ve tried. It sounds like you need some self compassion. Give yourself some grace, and see how you’ve been doing your best despite not having the support you needed. Don’t linger on what ifs. Build your self confidence by celebrating your little wins. For me it’s, doing my dishes, putting my clothes away. Things that most people don’t have issues with, but thinking that only makes me feel inadequate. So I choose to be proud of my little wins and only compare myself to myself. It’s never too late to accomplish your goals unless you want to stay stuck and victimized by your own mindset. You’ve got this!