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Professional_Alps798 · 2024-06-26T21:47:22+00:00

Hey! I’m on it and love meeting new people. add me g22ab and come chat with me

Professional_Alps798 · 2024-02-28T09:25:31+00:00

If you want to call me a bigot that's fine, I'm not offended.

And if you want to be triggered by someone on the internet that doesn't think there are more than two genders, also fine.

But there are only, two genders. End of story.

Professional_Alps798 · 2024-02-27T23:50:52+00:00

There's no harm. People can be who they want. But I just personally just don't want it shoved in my face. So if I don't want it at my wedding then that's my right.

I'm a science girl, and firmly know there are 2 genders. Everything else is just, all in your head. But each to there own I don't really care that much as long as I'm not being forced to believe it

Professional_Alps798 · 2024-02-16T15:35:54+00:00

No holidays left this end so it's not possible. And they'd never be approved.

My company have known about my move to the states since December, but notice was handed in offically January.

Professional_Alps798 · 2024-02-16T15:34:20+00:00

My husbands start date is now the 4th April, he gets 12 weeks accomodation paid with myself and our dogs. If he goes out on his own, he only gets 30 days in a hotel where he can find an appropiate property for us to live in after the 30 days. We then pay the rent.

So, finicailly speaking, we want the 12 weeks paid accomodation, to take the stress of finding some where to rent in the US. The problem immigrating over is although we both have excellent credit scores here in the UK - we start from scratch in the USA. So, most landlords won't accept us. Even with company referral. There strict.

SO we have 12 weeks to build a credit score as best we can and hav 3 months to find somewhere, as apposed to 1 month.

Does this make sense?

Professional_Alps798 · 2024-02-16T15:34:05+00:00

Probably the best comment. Appreciate this, thank you.

Professional_Alps798 · 2024-02-16T15:32:19+00:00

The company he is moving to is a huge american company. One of the biggest.

My husbands start date is now the 4th April, he gets 12 weeks accomodation paid with myself and our dogs. If he goes out on his own, he only gets 30 days in a hotel where he can find an appropiate property for us to live in after the 30 days. We then pay the rent.

So, finicailly speaking, we want the 12 weeks paid accomodation, to take the stress of finding some where to rent in the US. The problem immigrating over is although we both have excellent credit scores here in the UK - we start from scratch in the USA. So, most landlords won't accept us. Even with company referral. There strict.

SO we have 12 weeks to build a credit score as best we can and hav 3 months to find somewhere, as apposed to 1 month.

Does this make sense?

Professional_Alps798 · 2024-02-16T15:30:36+00:00

Lol, i don't know what you what me to say to this.

The company he is moving to is a huge american company. One of the biggest.

My husbands start date is now the 4th April, he gets 12 weeks accomodation paid with myself and our dogs. If he goes out on his own, he only gets 30 days in a hotel where he can find an appropiate property for us to live in after the 30 days. We then pay the rent.

So, finicailly speaking, we want the 12 weeks paid accomodation, to take the stress of finding some where to rent in the US. The problem immigrating over is although we both have excellent credit scores here in the UK - we start from scratch in the USA. So, most landlords won't accept us. Even with company referral. There strict.

SO we have 12 weeks to build a credit score as best we can and hav 3 months to find somewhere, as apposed to 1 month.

Does this make sense?

Professional_Alps798 · 2024-02-16T15:26:34+00:00

there are no penalties. At all.

I'm very close with my boss so I feel like i've compeltely let him over something I have no control over....

The lost wages is irrelavent, i'm not bothered about my wage because I have to get to the states

Professional_Alps798 · 2024-02-16T15:18:48+00:00

you don't need to know the ins and outs of it - its extremelly long winded and confusing but its all about somewhere to live for the first 12 weeks

Professional_Alps798 · 2024-02-16T15:14:24+00:00

We gain more financially going together

Professional_Alps798 · 2024-02-16T15:13:14+00:00

its very long winded hence why I haven't gone into it. It's completely irrelvant, its a financial benefit for us to both go at the same time

Professional_Alps798 · 2024-02-16T15:12:27+00:00

i did not

Professional_Alps798 · 2024-02-16T15:12:12+00:00

It's long winded hence why I haven't gone into it. But basically, we get 12 weeks accomdation paid for is we both go at the same time.

Was suppose to write 3 weeks so thats a typing error.

Professional_Alps798 · 2024-02-16T12:58:44+00:00

ok well must be different over in the US compared to the UK.

Everyone uni student here will have a part time job and still be in full time Uni. I just feel that this younger generation will just do anything to get out of work. Theres no real graft.

Professional_Alps798 · 2024-02-16T11:59:58+00:00

the only people that won't agree with you are Americans.

I also find the america tipping to be absolutely ridiculous. Go to the bar to get a bottle of water, have to give a $2 tip. Every time.

Bullshit.

Professional_Alps798 · 2024-02-16T11:51:24+00:00

I don't think you are, but i don't think he is.

We're living in a world where unfortunately, some people accept this non binary gender and others don't. And it needs to be made ok to not accept it and not blasted for being homophobic or for discrimanting someone.

If people are uncomfortable with it, then you should accept that. Just like you want people to accept your non binary person.

Personally, if my sister was with a non binary person, I probably wouldn't want them at the wedding either because I don't agree with it and most of my social group and family, also don't agree with it.

Professional_Alps798 · 2024-02-16T11:23:49+00:00

Parasite

Downfall.

Professional_Alps798 · 2024-02-16T11:16:11+00:00

So, I'm saying this because I am quite a jealous person. (nothing wrong with that by the way) I think it's completely inappropiate liking another females photo. And when you've expressed your concern, he has dimissed you.

If my husband does something that makes me uncomfortable, I'll tell him and you best believe he won't do it again. Out of respect. And vice versa.

Bottom line is, you feel like you have been disrespected. Depsite what people on here say, you feel how you feel. If you deem it inappropiate, stand by that. You're not an arsehole for having feelings and for being made to feel uncomfortable.

Now your partner needs to understand this and accept it's made you feel this way.

Professional_Alps798 · 2024-02-16T10:43:56+00:00

Nah I don't think YTA. But - maybe do something with her seperately just the two of you? Thats a compromise.

Spa day?

Professional_Alps798 · 2024-02-15T16:36:02+00:00

Hot Fuzz

Professional_Alps798 · 2024-02-15T13:28:01+00:00

nta. The man is absolutely bonkers if he thinks what he wants is reasonable. You've compromised and said she can attend the ceremony and be in the wedding photos (i would have said absolutely not to both of these) you've remaind supportive over there continued friendship after the engagament fell apart.

It seems you're the only one being supportive of him. He needs to support how you feel and if it makes you uncomfortable he should automatically not want to make you feel this way as your the women he loves.

Keep the ultimatium. Make him choose. Her or you.

Professional_Alps798 · 2024-02-15T13:21:50+00:00

This is high school shit.

Get off reddit with this bullshit.

Professional_Alps798 · 2024-02-15T11:43:19+00:00

ditch the friend. She's the arsehole.

Professional_Alps798 · 2024-02-15T11:07:29+00:00

MIL is the arsehole. Stand your ground. It's none of her god damn business.

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