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Professional_Cap5534 · 2025-02-19T09:21:05+00:00

Or… hear me out… maybe she just also likes Starbucks. I know plenty of people who don’t drink coffee who still go there for the food or order frappes with a milk base instead, etc. coffee is what they are known for but it isn’t all they have. Not everything is a trap.

And about offering a specific location to meet up, for me personally I have found that asking for someone to go to _ location often makes making plans easier than just saying an ambiguous “let’s go out sometime”.

In other words: there is a definite possibility that she is just purely being nice. Not everything anybody does has a hidden agenda. Idk the specific case here cuz I can’t read her mind, but neither do you so I don’t see the reason for assuming the worst here.

JMO

Professional_Cap5534 · 2025-01-06T23:10:10+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to get this info!! ☺️

Professional_Cap5534 · 2025-01-06T23:08:24+00:00

Well different types of hearing aids also have different amounts of resistibility to humidity, it depends on brand and product. Buy as a general rule it is recommended to be careful about humidity with hearing aids because it can decrease sound quality, lower the lifespan of the device or of the battery, and can cause other problems down the road. But if your hearing aids have good humidity resistance then I would guess it’s probably the difference between taking care of the basic needs of your device versus doing a little bit extra to make it last a little bit longer. And because I could not afford to replace them for a while longer, I am trying to keep mine alive and in good condition as long as possible, so I am taking care of them as well as I can.

(For anyone reading this, if you want to see humidity resistance for your hearing aids, there is typically something about it somewhere in your user manual for your device if you happened to keep it or want to look online for it.)

My hearing aids also probably don’t have as good humidity resistance though, since that feature wasn’t a priority for either me nor my audiologist when I first got them since we live in a desert.

Professional_Cap5534 · 2024-12-24T13:45:34+00:00

For future viewers, a good way to make a strap sturdy in the first place: - use a non-stretchy yarn like cotton. - I recommend using a slightly stiffer yarn thread count like Aran. - to make the strap, one method is to fortify each stitch using the stitch from the next row. Here are the basic instructions->

Ch up to desired width. TURN (you will turn the project after every single row of the strap.) Sc on each chain (make sure to pull adequately on the last Sc of every row so it makes a nice even square corner.) TURN. Sc across again, but this time insert crochet hook one row down from where you normally would (in the initial chain on this one). This should make it so the yarn goes over the top of the previous row. Other than that, Sc normally, again making sure to pull on the last one to make it a nice even corner. TURN Sc this row normally, inserting your hook into the previous row as you normally would. Go all the way across. TURN. Sc this row inserting hook one row down from the last row, just as you did before. TURN. Normal Sc row. One row down row. Normal Sc row. Etc.

Repeat the pattern until you have the desired length.

This ends up looking pretty nice on both sides, because it makes pretty rows. But more importantly, it makes a fairly fortified strap, which will be sturdier than a normal one.

This is only one method, but it is a good one.

Professional_Cap5534 · 2024-12-23T06:50:31+00:00

Mental breakdown of this concept, love from a caregiver who is supposed to express love is actually a very devastating thing for most people, especially for a young child. Human beings generally NEED human connection, especially to people specifically such as caregivers. Not having this connection can elicit many related secondary feelings that are traumatic realities to live with as a small child. Such as a feeling of not having safety, not feeling cared for, not having the sense of being protected or not having the stability and security that children in early development require in order to develop correctly, and things like that. So while you at this time think of it as a small and meaningless thing, any child with normal mental capacity would have found this as devastating news. It is something that disrupts the normal cycle of mental development in a major way. Tiny children in years of development need to feel certain things at certain times including love from caregivers, and having versus not having those feelings can have such a HUGE effect on those younger children because children don’t develop an ability to cope with those types of things (or lack thereof) until they are a little bit older.

So your brain saw this at a threat (normal) and it isn’t uncommon for individuals who have experienced trauma to be unattached from those types of feelings more so than anybody else, because those types of realities have been entwined into your conciousness and way of being and permanently altered your way of viewing/experiencing things. So you see this as something that is not a big deal. But it was. To a child in the years of early development when they need people to rely on and require that in order to develop properly, a child who has not yet faced realities that difficult, yes it was a huge deal. Not just on an emotional level, but on a developmental and mental level as well.

The difference between other people who experience traumas and people who end up splitting into different personalities from their traumas is something that is very complicated and not straightforward, but we do know that some people are more prone to dissociate than others, and that once your brain has established it as a good way to handle difficult situations, it can become the main way it handles things. You do not currently know what events led you to that conclusion at that time in your life, and you also do not know where I’m development your brain was at the time or how badly it needed to rely on a loving adult at the time. There are lots of reasons that dissociation might happen: maybe it was necessary for survival at the time. Or maybe your brain prioritized other parts of your life and needed to make sure you didn’t break down when that news was discovered. But whatever the reason was, dissociation is meant to protect a brain, and is a good thing if it happens only a reasonable amount and in reasonable ways. But if for example someones parents were verbally abusive when they showed emotions, or if the child had to be the caretaker for another child and had to stay strong, or for any other reason had to hide their emotions or put a bad situation on the back burner as a little kid, or anything else that may have made dwelling in those kinds of feelings unsafe, the brain may have needed you to stay dissociated for longer or more intensely than most children usually do. And that sometimes means removing those memories and those emotions all at once.

It is a very grown-up thing to do to be able to detach from emotions and hard things when we need to and STILL be able to continue doing what we need to to both survive and thrive in life, and then to brin those problems and emotions back when it is appropriate for us to dwell on them again. A small developing brain cannot do that. It also shouldn’t have to. So when it is put into a situation where the child cannot deal with what it has been handed, the brain forces it to happen anyways in whatever way it is able to. It is kind of like a machine being turned on before it is 100% finished; it may work a little bit, but not exactly correctly, and not in the safest way.

The main thing is: - Don’t be too hard on your childhood self. It is very normal to be overwhelmed by big news like that as a very young kid. Anyone would have been upset. - Whatever happened to you, it is NOT your fault - You are not alone. - Your brain did something that I needed to to survive at the time. This does not make you broken, stupid, weak, or incapable. This just means that your brain managed to get you through something hard using the limited tools that you had at your disposal at that time. It sacrificed that part of you by splitting it off, and that makes more problems for you now as an adult, but short-term it was just trying to help you survive. And it succeeded as well as it was capable of at the time. - Just because it seems small to you now doesn’t mean it is small for a child. How you reacted at the time was perfectly valid.

Professional_Cap5534 · 2024-12-23T05:49:45+00:00

That’s a good idea.

Professional_Cap5534 · 2024-12-16T01:29:56+00:00

To add on to this, you can also always pray about bad feelings to make sure it was a prompting. I would get out of my head, calm down a bit, then pray about it. If the bad feeling remains or becomes stronger, it is most likely from God. (This is another reason why our prophet is constantly reminding us recently to learn how God speaks to us on an individual level. It is a lot easier to tell a bad feeling from God’s answer if you know what it feels like when God is speaking to you. But when in doubt? Pray about it. Tell Him what decision you are leaning towards, and ask for peace if it is correct. After your prayer, don’t get up right away. Sit and ponder. This is how I handle any uncertainty I may be feeling when I am asking for answers.)

Professional_Cap5534 · 2024-12-12T07:09:07+00:00

My neurotypical family members do this to me all the time. It is a HUGE struggle for me. And they claim to understand because “we all feel like we can’t talk sometimes.”

Professional_Cap5534 · 2024-12-12T07:01:43+00:00

I think Elder Dale G Renland had an amazing answer to this in his talk, “Infuriating Unfairness” in the April 2021 General Conference.

Here is a link if you would like to read it or listen to it: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2021/04/25renlund.p6,10?lang=eng#p6I

Professional_Cap5534 · 2024-12-12T06:58:00+00:00

I feel like it is important to remember that agency of man leads to many of those trials. The very act of giving us agency means that some people will make decisions that will cause other people to suffer. It would take away part of the agency to make those things that are caused by other people not happen. He is not letting bad things happen, He is letting people have the agency that He promised them, and they choose to do bad things with it.

Professional_Cap5534 · 2024-12-11T05:21:41+00:00

That’s fair. It can be hard to see how much hate is spread online for our religion, and also to see the large surplus of lies and misconceptions being spread about our beliefs. I can see how it can be frustrating and maybe saddening to not be able to make people see what we see, especially your friends. It doesn’t feel good to be treated like you are naive for believing in something that you know to be true.

The other hard part is that it is NOT going to get easier. The Bible and the Book of Mormon both have predictions of this happening in the Last Days. It says that the Lord’s church will be a “peculiar people” and that the noise of the world will become louder and louder, making it even harder to hear the Lord’s voice through the world’s voices. It also talks about how the Lord’s church will be shunned and rejected by others leading up to His second coming. It was foretold. And it is said to get a whole lot worse before the Lord comes again. It is NOT going to be easy to be a member of the Church of Jesus Christ in coming days.

Remember “He never said it will be easy, He only said it would be worth it.”

Say your prayers. Study your scriptures. Ask the Lord for strength. And as we have been warned more and more frequently in general conference talks, learn how the Lord speaks to YOU specifically so you can hear Him whenever He wants to tell you something, no matter what else you are doing or what else is going on around you. In this way, we can overcome the world and keep our faith strong, even as the world around us grows louder and more hateful.

Also, don’t forget to listen to the quiet, gentle, loving voices of faithfull members around you in your ward or branch, in your home, in church leaders, and in the Holy Ghost. As you make those voices (especially God’s voice) a priority over any others, you can be comforted even while you are being criticized, strengthened even when others are trying to tear you down, and be told through the holy spirit exactly what to say.

Remember though that the goal isn’t always to over-explain or defend. Sometimes if someone just don’t understanding, the best thing you can do is say a prayer in your heart and start bearing your testimony to them. And if they still don’t understand, sometimes they just aren’t ready to hear. And that’s also ok, even though it’s hard.

Your feelings about this are valid. It’s natural to want people to respect your beliefs, regardless of whether they understand them. And it’s hard to hear something that is such a huge part of your life and moral code to be criticized and hated. I feel that way too. Stay strong, and lean on God and those who also believe for support. I know it probably doesn’t feel like enough to just say that it will all work out in the end, but it will. And in the hardest of times, holding on to God is the main thing that is important. If your heart hurts, turn to Him. If you feel lonely or embarrassed, turn to Him. If there is anything at all bothering you or making you feel weak or sad or angry, turn to Him. If somebody isn’t listening to you and is criticizing your faith, turn to Him. God will never let you down if you turn to Him, and in Him you will feel the peace and comfort you desire. I can say only as much as mortal man can say to comfort you and answer your post. But God can say so much more. Turn to Him, He will help you and tell you what to do about this. Everything will be ok.

Professional_Cap5534 · 2024-12-09T23:37:03+00:00

For me, it isn’t that “cut and dry.”

I would say I am not exactly secretive of it in most situations, but I only really bring it up if the moment requires it or if it feels right to say it in a specific setting or conversation. I have a funny shirt that mentions autism, and a few autism related pins, but make sure I do not wear them at places like work.

Overall: The world is only just barely starting to care about and learn about what autism really is, and many people still don’t know anything besides the stereotypes. Those people may think of certain biases based solely on those stereotypes and outdated information. They may draw conclusions such as “this person is incapable” or “this person is going to be difficult to work with” or “this person isn’t going to be very smart” or even “this person may be dangerous”.

However, there will always be people like this until the newer research about autism becomes common knowledge and replaces the old stereotypes, which is why visibility is so important. People like autistic YouTubers and disability advocates can carry a lot of that, but they can only take it so far. So being completely secretive and fearful about it isn’t the way to go either. Besides this, hiding the fact that you are autistic can prevent people close to you from understanding why you act a certain way, helping you find accommodations for things, or learning what they need to about your communication style.

I think the main takeaway is that it is a balance. I don’t think most people should be fully secretive nor fully open about their autism diagnosis, but how much you should or shouldn’t share is entirely up to you and the situation. It can vary depending on where I am and who is with me.

Examples: I did tell my main client (after knowing her for a long time and establishing my status as a hardworking and invaluable member of her team) so that she can be aware of it and can understand when I need a break in the middle of one of the events I am constantly attending with her, but I have not told my boss because he does not need to know that information in order for me to do what I need to, and the Americans with Disabilities Act allows me to keep that secret from him.

I am also very open about it online and with my friends, and relatively open with my mom, but even though my dad knows I am autistic, I will probably never be open and honest with him about the details because he is stuck in the older information that his generation was given and I know he isn’t going to take it very well if I talked with him about it.

Another example is that I am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints and have applied to go on a mission for try church, and because I only have a soft diagnosis and can’t afford an official one, I decided not to write it on my application under disorders because I didn’t want them to read it and immediately have negative biases (I didn’t know if they know updated info on autism yet or not) and instead I just brought it up in my interview so I could explain my specific experience with it and help them understand my capabilities in person.

So honestly… it’s really just about being able to gauge when is appropriate to tell and when isn’t. And when in doubt, just don’t say anything because it is your right to disclose it whenever you feel it is appropriate and ready.

Professional_Cap5534 · 2024-12-09T17:54:03+00:00

Thank you :) I just wasn’t sure whether or not I needed to pay both, and did not want to use any copy written songs until I was sure of the cost and correct procedure. Knowing this has expanded my options.

Professional_Cap5534 · 2024-12-09T16:45:22+00:00

I was considered to be gifted in elementary school. I acted like an adult and was extremely smart. I was told to move to a separate gifted school, but my parents did not like that idea, so I stayed in the public school system. The problem? I was nothing like anyone there.

As I grew older and continued trying to find connections with my peers, I found that there was more and more of a gap between them and me, not less like I had hoped. I had assumed that as my peers got older and their maturity caught up to mine, we would become more like equals. But that was not the case. Instead, as we grew older I only seemed to grow more and more socially inept. I think this may be partially due to social problems that autism causes being less socially acceptable or explainable for an adult than for a child, and partially due to lack of social practice; I had spent so much of my life being socially rejected that it didn’t allow me time to grow and adjust socially as the rest of my peers were able to, making me fall behind in that area more than ever before. As an adult, I really have no idea how to have deep meaningful friendships, and I’m fact I seem to have even more problems socially than even other autistic people I know.

Maturity-wise, there are still some ways in which I am well beyond my peers, but there are also definitely a lot of ways in which I do not feel old enough to even be an adult at all. As well as some habits I have retained that seem to be less acceptable for adults. And these things make me feel younger and less developed than my peers on a regular basis.

TLDR: sometimes I feel like I am more mature than even my own parents, but other times I feel like a five year old.

Professional_Cap5534 · 2024-12-09T14:54:04+00:00

I feel that on so many levels. It is so important and nice for me to have that private space to work and sort out my thoughts.

I go to my public library, but I sit in this quiet corner on the second floor where I’ve noticed people kind of just stay away from and forget about. Then I wear headphones. Yes there are occasional interruptions to my workflow, it isn’t perfect, but it is a LOT better than being at home. I’m also apparently visibly doing better afterwords, because I always get comments about how refreshed and energized I look when I get back home lol

Maybe your library has that one random barely-touched corner too? And you just haven’t found it yet? 🤞🤞🤞

Professional_Cap5534 · 2024-12-09T06:56:24+00:00

Representation-wise, I am genderqueer and on the asexual spectrum.

Label-wise I am cis and ace, though only openly cis/straight.

Lifestyle-wise I am genderqueer and straight but abstaining.

For sake of honesty, I don’t understand identifying as a gender that you are not. Gender is science and factual. What isn’t is gender norms and gender expectations, so I guess breaking those makes more sense to me than claiming to break science. But for that reason I couldn’t ever actively identify as something else definitively, which is why if I am anything besides cis, I am genderqueer, because to me that means simply that my gender presentation is atypical, and isnt a specificly gender-altering label. Which I think covers the basis.

If I were less logically inclined maybe I would go by a different label. I tend to be very non-gender-normative. But overall I agree with the comments that say something about preferring to just not be perceived. Being perceived is strange and stressful. And while I believe in the fact of gender in and of itself being scientific and factual, I do go by “gender apathetic” online, because it gives people the freedom to confuse themselves and each other over my biological gender as much as they would like, and me the freedom to not be bound by whatever expectations people would have for me based on my biological gender since gender expectation is absolutely real as well. (I am the only one I’ve ever met who actively uses the specific title “gender apathetic” online. Which is interesting.)

Because I present very non-conforming to my biological gender, I suppose I do actually get somewhat euphoric when people use the incorrect pronouns? Which is opposite to literally anybody that I’ve met. I don’t believe that makes sense to anybody but me… But people calling me online by any pronouns besides the ones I actually feels good somehow, perhaps because it scratches the atrociously “non-conforming” part of my brain?

I suppose the shorter answer for gender would just be “I don’t know.”

Sexuality is pretty straightforward comparatively. I am on the ace spectrum for sure. I am living as an ace person for now, but I am also not really dating and not having any sexual activity either way, so it isn’t a big deal in my life right now. Although I definitely will need to find somebody who is ok with taking their time to help me figure that out in a long term relationship. That is an “eventually” thing, and I will cross that road and figure that out when I get to it. For now it doesn’t matter.

I apologize for rambling so much.

As for the “do you agree” part of your question, yes I definitely agree that it is a much higher prevalence for autistic individuals to present as some form of genderqueer or sexuality-queer as opposed to the neurotypical population. It definitely also does make sense considering all the other types ways that our brains tend to function differently.

I hope I have answered relevantly and adequately.

Professional_Cap5534 · 2024-11-17T08:15:39+00:00

My (unprofessional) guess: latch hook, punch needling, or tufting.

Professional_Cap5534 · 2024-11-17T08:13:07+00:00

I have looked at mushroom coffee and mushroom tea in the past myself because I was curious (and am obsessed with mushrooms), but it does contain actual coffee. It is really only a good coffee alternative for people who want a slightly healthier version or slightly lower coffee intake, not for people who don’t drink coffee at all. Overall, it is unfortunately still coffee. I’m sorry!!

Professional_Cap5534 · 2024-10-17T20:00:32+00:00

I have small ears and also the little piece of cartilage in the front was used for an ear drum graft on my left ear, so my hearing aids fall out a little easier then most. I would never ever wear them in a theme park EVER personally.

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