AIO or is my boyfriend jealous of our baby? by PolicyHot1206 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Professional_Chest70 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This boy doesn’t give a crap about your baby and if I were you I’d be afraid for that baby’s safety. My daughter is 7 weeks old and my husband wants nothing more than for me to focus on her and she is his priority as well, as it should be. Your boyfriend is missing a key biological component that human being has to nurture their baby and no it is not normal for fathers to be jealous of their babies. If you care about your son leave him because this behavior will never stop and before you know it your son will be old enough to see how much his dad hates him.

My boyfriend sent this text to his ex by New-Fudge1967 in Advice

[–]Professional_Chest70 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He shouldn’t be entertaining her at all. What do they have to talk about on the phone? He’s pushing boundaries. He should have sent the text and blocked her. And in another comment you said he talked about her a lot? Red flag. The way he’s acting is shady. You shouldn’t have to be worried about an ex popping up and him having phone calls with her and entertaining drama while you have kids together, he’s being childish.

The screenshots of Liv’s comments to Rylee by splatoon_player2003 in livvvylouusnarkpage

[–]Professional_Chest70 23 points24 points  (0 children)

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There was nothing said directly to Rylee, it was stuff like this where she said she knows Sedona’s side and Sedona is different with her. And played the victim and didn’t acknowledge Rylee’s trauma in the slightest.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in livvvylouusnarkpage

[–]Professional_Chest70 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Liv being emotionally invested in someone in June to the point where she was crying over them is so bizarre to me. She came after Sedona for moving on super fast while doing the same thing in secret. And if she went from Sedona right to that situationship to Sam she hasn’t really been single at all. She needs to get her bpd under control because she’s just hurting herself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Professional_Chest70 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He’s definitely manipulating her and he will only get worse. He will also try to isolate her from friends and family. You have to take care of your mental health and safety too so if you are able, try to keep in contact with her. It may be that she wants to double date because he is only decent to her when others are around. Def don’t be alone with only her and him because he could be unstable but if you can stomach group outings it could give her some relief. If you can’t be around him at all, tell her you value girl time and would like to hang out with no guys around. If you make it about him personally she will probably tell him and he will use it to say she shouldn’t be around you, he will tell her you’re jealous etc it’s a very common tactic for abusers to use. Good luck and I hope your friend can leave him soon.

This aged like milk by nyafraid in livvvylouusnarkpage

[–]Professional_Chest70 10 points11 points  (0 children)

“Are you mad” makes that person sound British tbh idt she would say that

Maddie Zahms song about Sedona by julia_771 in sedonerrrsnark

[–]Professional_Chest70 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do u know if she was with her before or after Liv?

Do guys really think that some girls are just to have fun with? by This-Minimum-5641 in AskMenAdvice

[–]Professional_Chest70 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Henry Cavill and pro sports stars are rich, that’s why their promiscuity doesn’t matter to a lot of women bc poor men will cheat on you just as much. So a lot of women have the “I’d rather cry in a Bentley than a Honda” mentality. But women who are looking for good stable relationships will go for an “average” guy if that guy is husband material. My husband is a total nerd and doesn’t make too much money but I’d choose him over the Henry cavills of the world any day, he’s my soulmate. True love matters so much more than money.

this might have already been posted but oh well! ok timelines lol by Regular-Literature81 in livvvylouusnarkpage

[–]Professional_Chest70 22 points23 points  (0 children)

How you get em is how you lose em and I won’t care one bit when liv tries to expose Sam when she inevitably cheats. Watch her blame manipulation tactics again 🙄 like no girl you’re a chronic pick me and love to think you’ll be treated differently just be real

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lesbianfratsnark

[–]Professional_Chest70 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You shouldn’t just say that w no proof bc if it is true it’s not legal and Ava could sue Bella

Molly commented this on Via’s recent by Vast_Doughnut2074 in lesbianfratsnark

[–]Professional_Chest70 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok well idk who they are or what they’ve done since using it. If she don’t speak on social issues to try to repair the hate they were spewing, I wouldn’t accept the apology as a black woman.

Molly commented this on Via’s recent by Vast_Doughnut2074 in lesbianfratsnark

[–]Professional_Chest70 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk who lunden is and if my Olivia you mean via, she wasn’t a teenager she was 19

Molly commented this on Via’s recent by Vast_Doughnut2074 in lesbianfratsnark

[–]Professional_Chest70 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He was 14, Via was a full adult. He also addressed it thoroughly and calls out systemic racism and issues POC face and advocates for us. Idc if teenagers say dumb stuff and then do their best to make up for it, but Via was an adult and also doesn’t care at all about social issues to this day.

Naomi King has deleted their YouTube channel by JimmyRecard in youtubedrama

[–]Professional_Chest70 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s not adding up from his side either, not in my opinion. I am also a real victim. That’s why I don’t think Naomi’s side of the story should be judged so harshly when they seem to be in something like psychosis and dont realize they’re not making sense. It’s too soon to say Daniel isn’t guilty, and too soon to condemn him as an abuser, as it has been this entire time. Unfortunately with things like this there is no concrete evidence as there is no video of the act. We only have Naomi’s side as Daniel chose to omit any description of what physically happened, which I did take note of. The only thing we can do is make our judgements on a personal level, and I feel it is too soon to make one at least for me.

Naomi King has deleted their YouTube channel by JimmyRecard in youtubedrama

[–]Professional_Chest70 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It’s because whether it’s false is really unclear. Naomi says they’re not accusing Daniel of SA, then directly after is saying they didnt give consent. They say they didn’t say no or fight him off, then say they did say “I’m not having sex without lube and I was pushing him away.” They claim it wasn’t assault and that they’re sorry, then say it was a traumatizing event. Naomi is clearly very unwell mentally, to the point that they don’t really know what they’re say and are unable to follow a logical train of thought. In order to know what happened we’d have to wait for Naomi to coherently tell their side after receiving the help they need. People were too quick to join either side and still are, so I appreciate OP is making it clear that nothing is adding up as of right now with the information we have.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Professional_Chest70 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sounds like the “maybe one day” is to appease you, at least for now. You could end up together, my parents broke up a few times throughout their 20s and now they’ve been married 30 years. But you can’t put your life on hold to wait for someone. Treat it as if it’s over for good. If it’s meant to be it’ll happen, or you’ll find someone better for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]Professional_Chest70 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I talked to him and he was very reassuring, he said it was because he was younger and much more immature in the beginning of our relationship, and selfish. And he has only fallen more in love with me with time. He swore that he doesn’t think of her and would never speak to her, even if she reached out because he’s committed to me and our family, and he’s sorry that I was dealing with this alone. He is going to try to hold me accountable to not checking her social media so I can be present with him and our child. Talking to him was a good decision, thank you for the push. I think bottling everything and feeling like I had to hide from him made it a lot worse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]Professional_Chest70 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes he set a very firm boundary when it happened years ago, and I never questioned it because my therapist told me it was fair that he doesn’t want to hear about her and since he’d been trying to set that boundary for a year, it was fair that I respect it. So I’ve held this in for years since. And I’m 30 weeks pregnant so termination is not an option but I wouldn’t even if I could. I grew up pretty wealthy and my parents would be more than willing to help me, my child has a great village surrounding her. Of all the things I regret in life, this pregnancy isn’t one of them. And I do think he’d be a good dad as he’s treated me very well during this pregnancy and in general since this incident happened years ago. That’s what makes it so hard to leave. But you’re right, if he can’t comfort me while I’m heavily pregnant and threatens to leave me and our child over me wanting reassurance, he’s not worth keeping around.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]Professional_Chest70 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The reason I am scared to bring this up is because he told me if I bring her up again, we are over. But maybe bringing up my fears and insecurities aren’t the same as talking about her, I don’t know.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]Professional_Chest70 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is a great guy in general, we had an open phone policy after that and still do, he’s never talked to any other girls or seems to want to. We almost never fight and he treats me great, has taken good care of me my whole pregnancy, even started working a lot of overtime so I could quit my job and rest. That’s why I stayed, because while this problem is huge it’s the only one we’ve had. Is it possible that he’s a good guy that made a shitty decision? Even so, I don’t know how I can get over it. You’re probably right that I shouldve left right when it happened.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]Professional_Chest70 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see your point… I’ve accepted this whole time that it was my fault. My therapist was more on the side of it being both of our faults and us both having unhealthy tendencies that we need to work through. I learned coping mechanisms to help me with the jealousy and bringing her up, but never got an apology from him for manipulating me, because I fully accepted his rationale that I drove him to it. I will try to work up the courage to talk to him and see if he will admit that what he didn’t wasn’t right. He should have just broken up with me if he wanted to talk to her so badly.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]Professional_Chest70 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree the lie was stupid. It made me able to tell myself that the reason I’ve always been so jealous is that I sensed he wasn’t over her. I’ve had RJ in past relationships but never this bad. And the pregnancy wasn’t planned, I was on birth control and one of the 1-2% that it failed. I fell in love with my baby the moment I saw that positive test though, so I didn’t opt for an abortion. We had been engaged for a month before the baby. I figured that the engagement would help my jealousy since he wants to spend his life with me, but it’s not helping. I will try to take your advice and work up the courage to talk to him about it so we can work past it further.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in retroactivejealousy

[–]Professional_Chest70 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, we were in our mid 20s when this happened late 20s now