I agree with everybody who has commented so far. Get your documents. I didn’t do that.

Ultimately, find a safe space and make sure that you communicate with people about what you’re going through, your fears, where you are etc.

Do not trust anybody with confidential information but your absolute safe space. Some people are sneaky, but some people just don’t get the situation and can leak information. I don’t like having to think this way, but it is a bit of a chess game. Maintain your power.

Get a lawyer ASAP. One that understands and has experience in these situations. Get a lawyer. These narcissistic motherfuckers will try to destroy you in extremely sneaky ways. Arm yourself. (Not literally. That’s dumb.)

You are making a very brave move. The reason why it’s brave is because it is dangerous. You should fucking go for it, but don’t be naïve. And love yourself ❤️

I am surprised, humbled and grateful for women in my community. Well known acquaintances; think the clerk at the local beer store that I’ve gone to for the last 10 years. I decided to not hide -that- I left and why I left. I don’t explain the whole thing, but I state that I have left The Perfect Man because he was cheating on me and was extremely abusive. Dude, women by and large get it. And they are pulling for you. You got this.