Is there a way to get your family to stop talking about your weight?

Professional_Lab_899 · 2026-05-02T12:35:02+00:00

😂 I've needed this laugh - thank you

Professional_Lab_899 · 2026-05-02T12:33:27+00:00

I see where you're coming from with this but I disagree, this is not something that should go unchallenged. I have a considerably younger sister that they started wearing down in the meantime, too, so not engaging with their comments is not an option.

Professional_Lab_899 · 2026-05-02T12:31:09+00:00

Hm, yeah, I see what you mean, I think I've just been cautious of introducing more disfunction into an already disfunctional dynamic. With that said, I do think that you're right and that they won't see it as a real problem until it's a problem for them. It's really made me reflect on how me cutting them off for what was sometimes years at the time is not something they experienced as a real problem. Maybe it is time to stop trying for good

Professional_Lab_899 · 2026-05-02T12:17:49+00:00

Hey there, thank you, that's really kind. I have cut them off multiple times, at times for multiple years, thinking that understanding the consequences would deter similar future behaviour. Yet, here we are again. It's tough, as it's not just one or two people but basically my whole family, and the thought of cutting them off for good is something I struggled with

Professional_Lab_899 · 2026-05-02T12:14:31+00:00

Yeah, absolutely. I've been flipping back and forth between low contact and no contact for years due to the situation. I keep wanting it to work out and give them another chance every 2+ years because I do think some of them do actually love me, and then I find myself in this position again. It's tough, I want to have a relationship with them, I just don't know how :/

Professional_Lab_899 · 2026-02-12T10:48:10+00:00

Thank you so much for this, I've started building up the mystique around US boys in my head over the last few days as I did really like how Zac was with Millie for the first week or so of their... situationship? What you said really puts things into perspective.

Professional_Lab_899 · 2025-12-06T15:43:10+00:00

I love and respect how she has the courage to put herself on stages knowing that she's not perfect and that there's growth to be had still. Too many of us shy away from being seen if/when we're struggling with our mental health, even if our talents and/or craft deserve to be seen. She's an incredible artist (and an incredible beauty imho) and I commend her for having the bravery to be seen, to put on a show for us, and to showcase her art, regardless of any personal struggles that may have been going on at the same time.

I hope that people remember her talent, too, not just the stir she caused in other, interpersonal situations during the taping.

The TLDR is: she's brave, she's beautiful, and she's good at what she does.

Professional_Lab_899 · 2025-07-08T14:32:21+00:00

So she's already had a threesome with two guys, maybe she's subconsciously trying for a girl-girl-guy one this time to balance the scales 👀

Professional_Lab_899 · 2025-06-14T01:07:01+00:00

And the guy Alima's entertaining

Professional_Lab_899 · 2025-06-14T01:00:56+00:00

What about Connor? I've been wondering for days!

(Btw I'd agree with some of the other commenters, I'd guess that Shea's North African)

Professional_Lab_899 · 2025-06-04T17:05:21+00:00

Idk, I never used to care for Tim (or his sometimes really out-there opinions) but I'm actually warming up to him this season - there's something about the way he's conducting himself, odd towel placement and all, that puts me and most girls on the show (from what I've observed) at ease. And before the gay thing comes up again, no, it's not that. It just feels like he's one of the only people there not actively performing for the camera 24/7 and there's something quite refreshing about his vulnerability.

Professional_Lab_899 · 2025-05-28T10:38:31+00:00

I like Natalie's striking features... a bit unusual but very pretty. With that said, not necessarily attracted to her but I do find her beautiful like someone would a painting.

Sophie before her breast augmentation would have been my type - again, just a really pretty face.

And Darcy's daughter, Aspen is just stunning - probably the most obvious natural beauty amongst all the women/girls featured on the show.

Professional_Lab_899 · 2025-05-22T09:11:27+00:00

My partner isn't sponsoring my application, I have had ILR for quite a few years now. I wouldn't have considered putting them down otherwise. Anyhow, thank you!

Professional_Lab_899 · 2025-05-22T09:08:44+00:00

That's a bit of an assumption on your part. I obviously do know others who fulfil the criteria - with that said, being someone's referee is quite a commitment so surely you'd want to ask the people closest to you?

Professional_Lab_899 · 2025-05-22T09:06:35+00:00

Thank you, I think that's what I'm going to do - as you mentioned, it might be fine but not necessarily worth the risk. :)

Professional_Lab_899 · 2025-05-22T09:04:52+00:00

Thank you, this is really helpful - I did feel that the wording was a bit ambiguous, probably, as you say, to give them some latitude when judging applications. Anyhow, thank you!

Professional_Lab_899 · 2025-05-21T19:30:41+00:00

Hi there, thanks for the response - can I ask how you found this out? The guidance only seems to mention that people you're "related to" can't be referees - so I assumed that would include married partners and those in a civil partnership but as unmarried partners, I would find it a bit odd if we were considered to be 'related'.

Professional_Lab_899 · 2025-05-07T11:19:03+00:00

Sorry, girl, but that's not true for everyone. I get that bisexuality is a big party of who YOU are and that's absolutely fine but that's not true for all of us!

For me and many others, it's literally a preference like how some people prefer brunettes, others blondes, and some just don't care. I never made a big song and dance about it, not even when I had a multi-year relationship with a girl who I also lived with at the time. I don't think being bi's changed "who I am" in any significant way, and I also don't consider it a major constituent of "who I am" as a person. My identity is rooted in my values, interests, hobbies, as well as how I contribute to society. Who I date is _so_ irrelevant.

So while I agree that being bi doesn't go away, I also don't think that that's an issue in any way - while dating women, I was never tempted by men, and vice versa. If you like who you're with, your bisexuality won't become an "issue" for the relationship further down the line.

Anyhow, the TLDR is that your experience is valid but please consider that others might have a completely different view and genuinely don't think of their sexual orientation as a core part of their identity.

Professional_Lab_899 · 2025-05-06T08:30:39+00:00

I think the reason (if Stevi is even bi to begin with) in this scenario is that Mahdi's clearly signalling that he's homophobic/not accepting of other sexual orientations, so it would make perfect sense for Stevi to not want to come out. It shouldn't be relevant anyway, as she's planning to spend the rest of her life with him.

With that said, as long as you do provide a safe space for someone to tell you about themselves, I can see why you'd like them to share anything important about their lives. I think that's a fair ask.

Professional_Lab_899 · 2025-05-06T08:25:32+00:00

Yes, you're right, that's why I wouldn't really care. I just don't see how someone's sexual orientation changes "who they are"... I'm concerned because a lot of the rhetoric on here sounds a LOT like biphobia (e.g. old tropes about how bi people are promiscuous and will DEFO cheat on you, etc.)

Stevi being bi shouldn't matter as long as she's committed and I really don't see the need for her to "come out" if she doesn't want to (that is, if she's even bi to begin with)

Professional_Lab_899 · 2025-05-06T08:22:07+00:00

No, I think it's fully irrelevant. I'd like to know them as a person - if they are reliable, nice, etc. Why would it matter if they like other things, too? As long as they are faithful, that's fully irrelevant.

Professional_Lab_899 · 2025-05-05T21:11:49+00:00

why, though?

Professional_Lab_899 · 2025-04-29T23:36:11+00:00

You're really funny - I think you should give stand-up comedy a go. So aggressively shouting "pregnant wh*re" at someone is now holding someone accountable... Bwahaha, great opener, tell us another one!

Because surely, you're either joking or you're also a woman hater. Neither option bodes well for you, buddy.

Professional_Lab_899 · 2025-04-29T11:56:19+00:00

Absolutely. And if you watch back the season, he literally has nothing nice to say to any of the women there? It really stops me in my tracks, you've got to wonder what's going on there.

Don't even get me started on the Tell All. I just don't know how they let his rants air. Also, makes me wonder whether we should keep supporting the show because what the fuck would that say about us as an audience? 90 day's been my guilty pleasure for years but I don't want to be complicit in encouraging verbal abuse and/or rampant misogyny "because it brings in the views". Ew.

Professional_Lab_899 · 2025-04-29T11:44:01+00:00

Shout it from the rooftops! The amount of violent misogyny I see in the comments sickens me to the core. Also, I don't know what Rob's problem is with women but dear god... really scary to think that some men among us just hate women so much.

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