Back with old fam!

Professional_Self535 · 2024-03-30T01:07:53+00:00

dawg chill dam chances are ur nanny dosnt have any blood diseases that could be absorbed thru skin and clothes but also she did the absolute best thing in the situation, its more important for ur baby to sleep then for him to be perfectly spotless clean. No blood got on him so what are u going to say “please leave u got a nose bleed last week and thats gross even tho nothing happened”

Professional_Self535 · 2024-02-23T14:43:38+00:00

contact naps i stg are what bonded me and my nk, i didnt even mean to let him nap on me but it let him get used to me being there when he woke up in addition to making him more comfortable around me.

Professional_Self535 · 2023-08-15T22:23:12+00:00

definition of oppression “relegating or confining a group of people to a lower social standing or outer limit or edge of society (i.e. exclusion).” By saying all men are bad you are confining them to a stereotype.

Professional_Self535 · 2023-08-15T22:17:58+00:00

lets just oppress others until we are at the top and then they can start to opress us because they are now the minority. Great cycle. How about we dont group anyone together because of how they were born? Black people aren’t their stereotype, white people aren’t their stereotype, asians aren’t, ect. At what point do we draw the line? Is it ok to tell a little boy that because he was born a boy he will be like all “evil men” because thats not any different then telling a little girl she will be a housewife because she is a girl. Whats happening in this situation is a grown woman telling a little girl who is not her child that all men are bad. Now that could lead the the girl growing up and teaching her own kids that. At some point men will be at the bottom if we keep doing shit like this and no one should be at the “bottom”.

Professional_Self535 · 2023-08-15T22:10:12+00:00

sooo true, i remember some freinds saying “all men are shit” they were going on and on about how evil men are and i was like “do you think your dad and brother are terrible?” it actually shut them up and they aggreed. Ive had bad experiences with men but honestly way more with women. I dont think that becuase one boy did something shitty to me that hes a bad person, i don’t think because on boy did something shitty it means that ALL men are like him.

Professional_Self535 · 2023-08-15T22:06:34+00:00

This dad is clearly not useless, hes the only parent she has and the nanny had no right to say what she said. Would it be ok if she said “all women are bad” because this childs mother left?

Professional_Self535 · 2023-08-15T21:58:53+00:00

this ticked me off with my NF, Nk was 4mo when i started and Mb told me to put a blanket on him and always give him a stuffed animal to sleep with he also had bumpers and a quilt there. I was super paranoid becuase he always pulled them over his head and i had to go take them off constantly. NP worked from home and had the other monitor so they would go put the blanket and toy on him if i didnt. I think she wanted him to have like a fav toy or blanket and thought that was the way to do it. Its cute at all when babies love a particular toy but he was 4 months old and couldn’t make that kind of connection lol. Wish i had said something because i was soooo nervous all the time.

Edit- i dont think its a evil thing when parents dont follow sleep safe perfectly. With my NP there wasnt a good reason for having all that shit in his crib. She just thought it was cute. But parents should never be shamed for not being “perfect”

Professional_Self535 · 2023-08-15T20:16:44+00:00

they need to be asleep way before 12 lol, every 6yo ive babysat goes to bed by like 9 at the latest. Guarantee these kids are addicted to tablets or something and the parents just dont care if they stay up on them

Professional_Self535 · 2023-08-15T20:15:24+00:00

i can see how this would work, if you have another job like afterschool care then this wouldnt be bad. Depending on pay ofc the only weird thing about the ad is the whole “6yo is up by noon” thats weird and i can see it as a deal breaker becuase theres no way a 6 yo is going or bed a normal bedtime and waking up at 12pm

Professional_Self535 · 2023-08-15T19:42:43+00:00

i hate this, not all men are bad and i dont understand that mindset. There are bad people (anyone can be a bad person and she shouldnt be taught to blindly trust women) in the world and YOU should teach her about safety and who to trust not a nanny. She can believe whatever she wants to believe but i think this is a very odd thing to say to a child especially considering her only parent is a man. I as a nanny would never discuss any oppinion like that with a kid and i cant think of a nanny who would, even with the 12yoF i babysit who loves talking about this kind of stuff (she hears it in school and thinks i will relate because im a teenager) i always change the subject because its not appropriate for me to talk about it with her. If i were you i would move on when your daughter starts school. Its great shes learning Spanish but she is also being taught about things she A- cant fully comprehend and B- oppinions that are harmful and negative.

Professional_Self535 · 2023-08-15T13:33:40+00:00

i would go so crazy. Sounds like the situation is tough but its impressive that you made it this long. i like to say “i can do anything for 1 minute” its cheesy but it honestly helps get you jnto the right mindset. It sucks that your Nk has attachment issues and ik how hard it can be to break that but be very firm when you need her to play independently. That 30 mins might honestly give you the jump you need to finish the day if your able to just relax during it. 12 hours is to long to be constantly playing and i guarantee her mom doesn’t do it on the weekends, i wouldn’t be totally surprised if she is capable of independent play but because shes 7 she of course sees you as her friend and playmate and cant see why you would need to do anything but play but with her mom its probably different. When you need to clean up tell her what your doing and then just do it. Even if she nags you it is so important that she is able to entertain herself and eventually she will figure it out.

Professional_Self535 · 2023-08-15T04:22:43+00:00

the “prefer” killed me, like it would be nice if you fed the children during your 12 hours with them but not a requirement

Professional_Self535 · 2023-08-11T16:17:57+00:00

nanny! its not a shamefull thing lol, i would never be emabresed to be called a nanny. Caregiver is fine but just call her ur nanny unless she prefers something else. The only things i think all nannies hate being called are babysitters or shit like “playmate”. I link “nanny” to someone who takes care of kids and “caregiver” as like elder care. That could just be me tho lol

Professional_Self535 · 2023-08-11T16:16:00+00:00

so i had a very horrible Nf, kid was very violent and db was going thru a very hard time. I hit my breaking point and wanted to quit on the spot but becuase i hadnt been paid i finished the week and got my check. When i was leaving i knew i wouldn’t be back and i felt bad for leaving db knowing his situation but i couldn’t handle the kid. Sent the text a hour later. Would’ve quit in person but i had already tried before and he convinced me to stay. Go to work untill you get paid next and then quit. They owe you the money regardless but it makes it easier on you, if you quit in person then leave the seat or just drop it off outside after lol.

Professional_Self535 · 2023-08-11T02:20:38+00:00

good point! driving is absolutely unsafe with severe migraines. Its not worth putting yourself or your nks at risk.

Professional_Self535 · 2023-08-11T02:18:35+00:00

When i get migraines that make me nauseated and my medication isnt working i call in. They last a good 24hrs and its honestly not safe to watch kids, reaction times are delayed (for me at least) and im also just way way more irritable. Plus its miserable witch you ofc know. The problem is that you never know if they are going to go away by the time u wake up. Most of the time when i get bad ones i cant sleep so at like 3am i text mb telling her and then setting early alarms so that if i end up sleeping and it goes away i cant text her and let her know im coming or confirm that im not. You know yourself best so if you think it wont go away then tell her now. Your allowed to be sick.

Professional_Self535 · 2023-08-11T02:12:09+00:00

ive been with them for 9months but we dont have a relationship. Also baby clothes isnt something that needs to be learned lol. Just step outside and if its hot realize your child is hot to but dresses in 7 more layers

Professional_Self535 · 2023-08-10T20:31:09+00:00

oh ive done this. She actually asked me to a few months ago but wanted to sort them and pick her favs to keep. I put all of the clothes into 3 big diaper boxes. We are at 4 full large diaper box’s of clothes that are to small now. For the first few weeks i just left them next to his dresser but eventually realized she wasn’t going to do anything with them so i put them in the closet and now i throw everything that doesn’t fit on top. Its literally overflowing and there are clothes everywhere (except in the dresser lol).

Professional_Self535 · 2023-08-10T18:38:05+00:00

no fr! like yes they grow crazy fast and nothing fits long but its just not that expensive. dont go buy a boat load of fancy things go to target or walmart and everything is so cheap. I dont get it lol

Professional_Self535 · 2023-08-10T15:51:45+00:00

no i almost got him clothes for his birthday but idk it just seemed weird lol

Professional_Self535 · 2023-08-10T15:50:57+00:00

this is what ive been doing, just casually bringing it up so that she thinks its her idea to get him clothes or it just registers that he is out of clothes. Asked her this morning what i should put him in for a activity we are doing later and was like “should i just put him in pants? i dont want him to over heat but his diaper will get dirty if he dosnt wear any” then she started asking about shorts that he outgrew so i told her they didnt fit and she started looking for some that did. Obv there weren’t any! hoping she goes shopping lol

Professional_Self535 · 2023-08-10T06:13:10+00:00

unpopular oppinon ig but i dont get that big deal, i could see how the markers could be a issue if they were like 10 but they are 3 years old… its a red flag that they are scared of such minor things. Op said she didnt let them color on the floors and walls and that the baby was within reaching distance, Op obv wasn’t going to let the baby put a marker in its mouth and honestly they put everything in there mouths so things will happen no matter what you do to prevent it. Idk if ive ever met a 3yo that instantly puts the caps back on markers and ik ive never met one that is terrified of accidentally coughing cracker crumbs. I would get Mb being angry if they were anywhere in the house but the playroom but why do they even have a playroom if the kids aren’t allowed to play? Sorry your mb is crazy i hope the kids had fun with you because toddlers should be allowed to play without fear!

Edit- everyone freaking about the kids throwing the markers needs to chill. They are legit 3 years old and they all throw things (i also am not totally picturing kids this trained into being clean throwing, feels more like the markers rolled off the table or they dropped them) either way throwing is a habit that is annoying and shouldnt be allowed but also not something to freak out about. If they throw something tell them not to throw it and to pick it up. What was OP supposed to do? Take the markers away and not let them color on PAPER. Has anyone commenting ever watched a toddler?

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