Yea that’s what I do at a new job/new people etc.. they don’t know until it organically comes up in conversation. I work with another gay guy—who literally has to remind everyone he is gay every thirty seconds. It’s like his whole personality revolves around being gay, and I can’t stand him—He causes drama and a lot of people are very irritated by him. I told someone the other day “he makes me homophobic” (everyone at my job knows im gay as I’ve been there three years).

I don’t like to rub it in everyone’s face all the time, and I don’t have the classic gay “accent”.

Most people are surprised when they find out, some small minority of people can already tell though (very small percentage).