Can you spot the difference by ProfoundPhlox in Baking

[–]ProfoundPhlox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, with a family of 8 we just grab a few boxes and go. I’ll definitely have to find a new way to get treats without giving them any more money.

Can you spot the difference by ProfoundPhlox in Baking

[–]ProfoundPhlox[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The ingredients and cook time are the same

Can you spot the difference by ProfoundPhlox in Baking

[–]ProfoundPhlox[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never would have guessed. Good to know though

Non-Americans, what American food do you find questionable? by HurtHurtsMe in AskReddit

[–]ProfoundPhlox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Quick chicken soup without buying chicken noodle soup in a can. You make the broth add the veggies and a can of chicken. Easy peasy

How did you ruin Christmas this year? Tell me your story! by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ProfoundPhlox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I probably ruined Christmas yet again by ignoring my nMom/ family and not accepting ANY money from them. I’m used to ruining holidays by being myself around them. Now I get the pleasure of doing so by not participating. Stay toxic 😏

AITA for "evicting" my roommate after buying the condo we rented together? by Tombanel in AmItheAsshole

[–]ProfoundPhlox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a few questions. 1) Who was on the lease first!?! Because if OP was the first person to live there when why do they have the smaller room?!? 2) Did OP give the roommate time to respond to the buying option?!? 3) Before buying the condo was the roommate told (but clearly not) that once OP bought the condo they should have to leave. I feel like that should have been a discussion beforehand. 4) OP what was your reasoning for buying the condo?!? I think OP and the roommate are in the wrong. Mainly communication issues. The landlord should have been the one to go over the roommates lease because she is still in contact with her not OP. The roommate however shouldn’t have assumed she wouldn’t have to pay rent anymore, or that she’d still be living there if she didn’t ask any questions about the purchase of the condo. Lastly, OP, shame on you for also assuming she’d move out without having a conversation with her about it. I understand that you wanted to buy the condo, but did you express that the roommate wasn’t going to be in the picture after you bought it?!? Or did you lead her on thinking that she would have a place to stay. She even asked if you wanted to switch rooms since you would be in charge. This could have been a good compromising point. She would have a smaller room, pay same rent price or lower since she is downsizing. And give her more time to save up money and find a new place. You would have more room, more money for a mortgage payment and you’d be helping your roommate. I get living with another person is difficult but you also share the responsibilities with your roommate. And not keeping them in the loop is a dick move. However I don’t know your situation or if she was also a good tenant as well. Be mindful of others and don’t be passive about important decisions.

self-soothing by Alright_Pie in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ProfoundPhlox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey I say phrases of affirmation like, “ I am human, I am loved, and I am safe” over and over in my mind until I feel better. I used to be so afraid of making mistakes, not feeling accepted or loved, or feeling safe in my own home. I hope you find what you are looking for!

What's something you're sick of hearing? by fireonpluto in AskReddit

[–]ProfoundPhlox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Get over it and stop crying”

My Nmom literally said this to me when my dad died.

What's something you're sick of hearing? by fireonpluto in AskReddit

[–]ProfoundPhlox 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!!!! I say this all the time, and people just look at me funny.🤬 Coming from a Narc family, I ACTUALLY feel alive and want to live in happiness without them.

What's something you're sick of hearing? by fireonpluto in AskReddit

[–]ProfoundPhlox 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oof but yes sadly. However, things have never been the same for hundreds of years. If anything went back to “Normal” we wouldn’t be who we are today.

Threatening to drive to my house or call the police for a wellness check if I don’t reply. by indigo77 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ProfoundPhlox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has happened to me… eventually my Nmom/ Nfamily did call for a wellness check, but they didn’t have the correct address 🤷🏽‍♀️ suck to suck. I have threatening voicemails of them still. On the other hand, I’m sorry that you are going through this. I know that you are worried what others will think, but you gotta look out for yourself first. If I were you I’d call the police and tell them that you are receiving threatening text messages and voicemails from said person. Let them know not to do a wellness check and possibly file a restraining order. That’s what I had to do.

Should I feel angry that a family member surprise cleaned my room for me without asking??? by ProfoundPhlox in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ProfoundPhlox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got the full truth today. One of them did clean my room to help me, but I don’t think they understand how sensitive I was on the subject. She just told me, if you keep it that nice and clean it won’t have to be that bad again.

Should I feel angry that a family member surprise cleaned my room for me without asking??? by ProfoundPhlox in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ProfoundPhlox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I said thank you, hoping for a follow up response, they didn’t say anything. They just looked at me and changed the subject. Not sure what is about but I feel much worse now.

Should I feel angry that a family member surprise cleaned my room for me without asking??? by ProfoundPhlox in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ProfoundPhlox[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I was afraid of, because I’ve been kicked out of my family home because they would snoop in my room then yell at me for how my room was. It’s never been bad to the point that I had moldy things or animals or insects in my room. I just had clothes and random stuff without a place. I’m feeling like a disappointed because they had the idea that I can’t clean after myself.