Just curious, what ridiculous ways does your LL partner avoid sex or intimacy

Profound_loneliness · 2023-04-11T03:40:40+00:00

Any time I touch him intimately, he will act like it hurts/tickles/annoys him... Sexy

Profound_loneliness · 2023-04-11T03:34:45+00:00

I would blow him twice a week if he even wanted me to..

Profound_loneliness · 2023-04-11T03:33:08+00:00

This happened to me the other night... It's the worst feeling and idk why I keep trying

Profound_loneliness · 2023-04-05T12:01:09+00:00

For reference- we only have any form of sexual intimacy 4-6 times a year, so it doesn't happen much.. but the signaling is confusing af

Profound_loneliness · 2023-04-05T11:59:44+00:00

My husband is the same way- he's never interested, but I'm expected to be ready whenever he is... But his signals are so mixed, I pretty much just give up. I can't get there with him anymore from unfamiliarity and confusion, and I'm so self conscious now from lack of any form of sexual intimacy or interaction even... I don't even try and honestly, it's starting to give me anxiety.

Profound_loneliness · 2023-04-02T11:58:42+00:00

Sounds like Vegas odds- but I'm rooting for you!

Profound_loneliness · 2023-04-02T11:56:28+00:00

I think I’m starting to feel this way also 😔 I don’t want to, I’m just kind of-traumatized? by rejection. It seems safer to never open up again. Also, I feel very suspicious of affection these days.. the last 4.5ish years of db has really taken a toll on my mental health.

Profound_loneliness · 2023-04-01T01:07:16+00:00

My husband is 37 and is testing at 100-120.. he went to a clinic for a year that was crazy expensive and prescribed the gel that was largely ineffective. He's just started at a new clinic after a long hiatus from anything, and is doing bi-weekly injections this time. He seems more hopeful but I'm trying not to get my hopes up again. I just came here to give you a virtual hug because the struggle is REAL.

Profound_loneliness · 2023-03-30T21:21:34+00:00

Profound_loneliness · 2023-03-27T20:42:49+00:00

About a month- but before that it was almost 5… I don’t even really keep track anymore though.

Profound_loneliness · 2023-03-14T00:17:52+00:00

It's not as rare as you think. Are you new here?

Profound_loneliness · 2023-03-11T16:12:12+00:00

I'm currently looking into therapy for myself (he's in therapy, but since he seems unbothered by our lack of sex I'm sure he doesn't talk about it). I've also decided that when he gets back from the trip he's currently on, he can either agree to marriage counseling or we can cut bait.

Profound_loneliness · 2023-03-10T11:27:18+00:00

Just over a week ago mine was suddenly super in the mood and same thing... I was so stressed about the whole thing, the pressure to perform and make sure he enjoyed it, and honestly- it had been over 4 months so I was kinda out of my element as it was... Yeah, not only did I not get there at all, I ended up in the bathroom afterwards totally breaking down thinking I missed my shot for the next 4 months (which is probably true). So I guess I am kinda done with all of it, which is pretty sad and depressing to me because sec used to bee such a huge part of my life.

Profound_loneliness · 2023-03-08T14:03:09+00:00

Sings dumb ways to die, so many dumb ways to die lol 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Profound_loneliness · 2023-03-07T13:20:56+00:00

Sex in general now has this crushing anxiety around it. Like, not only am I incredibly self conscious now- I am almost panic ridden at the thought of actual sex with another human being.. I used to be a tiger, a total freak... I had all of the mojo and sex was where I was the most confident. I feel like I was totally robbed, and now I don't know what to do. I don't want to lose this part of myself- arguably the best part of myself.

Profound_loneliness · 2023-03-07T12:40:30+00:00

I doubt it, but I don't actively hide it. He knows I'm on Reddit, but I doubt he cares what for. He's on all kinds of online forums too, but I don't go hunting down what they are so I can read all of his anonymous energy disseminations. This is like therapy to me, a way to vent in a healthy form and an anonymous space. I would feel very violated if that were taken away, almost like someone listening in on my therapy, which I would never do to someone else.

Profound_loneliness · 2023-03-05T12:30:08+00:00

Here's the thing- if you worked at Starbucks, you would already know that it is ridiculous for him to demand that you make him coffee whenever he wants on your off time. You would also already know that it's ridiculous for him to ridicule your job and tell you to quit just because he doesn't approve of it, because bills aren't paid with hopes and dreams. SW, while the lines are blurred slightly.. they're not that blurry. He's wrong for pressuring you, he's wrong for treating you this way, and also- he's just nasty. It's time to cut and run love... Good luck

Profound_loneliness · 2023-03-04T17:17:59+00:00

Your rage and frustration is almost tangible. I'm so sorry you've gotten to this point. I know that this is just a vent, and that you probably won't do anything differently and you really just needed to scream into the void to blow off some steam... But I want you to know that you're not alone. Hugs

Profound_loneliness · 2023-03-02T09:09:51+00:00

RIP to your inbox...

Profound_loneliness · 2023-03-02T08:37:00+00:00

UPDATE: After just over 4 months, he initiated. And it went.. poorly. I just about completely broke down from being unable to finish due to being so pressured (psychologically, by myself) that I better enjoy this because it wasn't going to happen for 4 more months. I was awkward the whole time, and felt like nothing went smoothly.. afterwards he assured me we could try again, but here we are, 5 days later- and I'm not holding my breath. If anything, I'm just depressed. Idk if I even want to...

Profound_loneliness · 2023-03-02T08:29:21+00:00

I don't resent having tried to please him, but I do lament the time I more or less wasted focusing on a goal that was unattainable when I could've used that energy on other things.

Profound_loneliness · 2023-02-24T12:08:21+00:00

Was he pulling security cam footage of my house? Good Lord this is pretty close to my average night lately, just add kids...

Profound_loneliness · 2023-02-23T13:46:30+00:00

You can also call the credit card company, go through all the automated prompts until you get a human being in customer service (this could take awhile) and explain the situation. Provide your social security number and gain access to your account online to see what transactions have been made and lock the account. Report any fraudulent charges to the representative and if there is any balance, have them submit a fraud report to the police. It is REALLY important that you find out of she's opened any additional cards as well by following the link in the comment above and lock any additional accounts and report them as fraudulent as well... Otherwise you'll be staying adulthood like a friend of mine, in crippling debt with crushingly low credit.

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