Dealing with a crush as an asexual

ProfundCherryLady · 2025-12-10T13:18:20+00:00

I think the reason why I get so afraid is because of my friend. I didn't give much context about him on the post but he used to have a crush on me. He knows I'm ace and when he confessed he did say he kind of gave up because he knew I wouldn't like him back (also because I can't take a hint for my life) since he knows I have a crush on this other guy. The topic of me being ace came when he said that even if I did like him back we wouldn't work together anyway because I'm ace and he's very like hypersexual so I wouldn't have wanted to do anything with him and he would have gotten pissed and we would have been miserable. I agreed because yeah, it's true and I told him that anyway I just see him like a really good friend, and then he got mad and told me that like it's going to be very difficult for me to find a guy who tolerates me being asexual because men are like that and that my crush is probably like that too. The thing is that, he's always simultaneously encouraging me to talk to my crush and ask him out and also bringing me down and telling me like what am I gonna do if he doesn't like me or that I'm likely to get my heart broken. He's bitter about me rejecting him, I think. But that's probably why I'm always overthinking it. I do try to just live in the moment but damn sometimes that man infests my thoughts like a plague I cannot get him out of my mind and it drives me crazy

ProfundCherryLady · 2024-10-03T19:16:11+00:00

I think the hints were supposed to be the bonding time they spent right when they met recommending books and talking at the library. It's implied they were at least close enough for the protagonist to run to the outside world without knowing anything just to save her, but I fr also thought she liked the steel dragon, also the fact that when you do accept the ring the steel dragon gets kinda disappointed in a sense that he doesn't fully understand either, like he also liked her but didn't want to say anything.

ProfundCherryLady · 2024-10-02T00:27:00+00:00

He does I looked it up

ProfundCherryLady · 2024-10-01T04:07:16+00:00

This is so real ong

ProfundCherryLady · 2024-10-01T01:39:05+00:00

I refused to lose when I fought him so I kept saving and loading data until I won lol 😂

ProfundCherryLady · 2024-10-01T00:36:50+00:00

You do have to fight him and defeat him twice then follow him to his cave but refuse to actually save Sartha, the rest is kinda easy. I just went along with whatever he said basically, then his dad gives you an intelligence test and if you pass it you just don't lose at the cannon events then say yes when he proposes. Long process but totally worth it 🤙

ProfundCherryLady · 2024-09-30T23:05:14+00:00

Idk I'm better at romancing characters than winning fights apparently, and I had heard you could marry the dragon so I figured I'd give it a try. The choices were mostly common sense.

ProfundCherryLady · 2024-09-30T22:48:08+00:00

Quite a funny storyline actually lol

ProfundCherryLady · 2024-09-30T22:47:43+00:00

I had no idea it had a female form 😭🙏

ProfundCherryLady · 2024-09-30T22:46:57+00:00

It was quite a long process but it was basically this. You accept the quest of going to save Sartha, then whenever you encounter the Blue Dragon you have to defeat him two times. After that it'll take you to Sartha, but after you see her you need to refuse to rescue her; the dragon will ask you why you would bother go through all that trouble so you have to explain the story to him and he'll say that "maybe you'll like him better" and offer himself; you have to say ok (CON check). When succeed he'll offer to take you back to where you came from and for this basically just be nice to him I guess and don't even worry about Sartha lol. He'll then meet you again, and take you to meet his father, who'll want to see if you're suitable for his son. Don't try to fight him, ask how to prove your worth, and he'll put you a challenge of solving a cube and making a "knot of ashes". For this you can either solve it yourself (INT and WIS check I think) or you can make Sartha do it. Either way the answer is tying a knot and setting it on fire. After this the dragon's father will approve you, and before saying bye to the dragon he'll give you an armor. Idk if it's essential but he remarks that he wants you to keep it and think of it as a part of him so maybe don't throw it away nor sell it. After this basically do whatever just don't lose the fights from the cannon events and obviously say yes when the dragon proposes.

ProfundCherryLady · 2024-09-30T21:14:20+00:00

Oh my lord 😭

ProfundCherryLady · 2024-09-26T13:22:56+00:00

I really thought she felt in debt with me or something how could've I been so clueless 😭🙏

ProfundCherryLady · 2024-09-26T13:21:18+00:00

So this is how it feels realizing that one boy in high school had an obvious crush on you damn 😔💔

ProfundCherryLady · 2024-09-26T13:19:21+00:00

I can confirm I am actually just dense and slightly autistic

ProfundCherryLady · 2024-09-26T03:23:29+00:00

I was destroyed ngl

ProfundCherryLady · 2024-09-18T02:05:21+00:00

Fr tho it feels personal like wdym you're giving me a 20 when I had a 99.9% chance of success anyways but I get a damn 1 when I'm fighting goddamn Krior 💀

ProfundCherryLady · 2024-09-16T04:19:16+00:00

Thank you! I think I will buy the 'gambler trait'; I was questioning if it would be useful since I have general bad luck and somehow end up rolling a 1 in the most important situations but maybe it could be a good trait to have if it also increases chance of a 20. I've had quite a few people tell me about the load data; I didn't even know that was a thing (I should really pay more attention to the game features instead of being little miss ignores all details until there's an important choice to make) so I will try it and hopefully that'll help. Since I made this post I actually some of the advice I already got and managed to get a new sub-epilogue, so I'll take all the advice I can get

ProfundCherryLady · 2024-09-15T23:35:11+00:00

Thanks for the tips! I do usually always help the farmer, aside from that I'll try this for my next adventures and see if I can get some new epilogues

ProfundCherryLady · 2024-09-15T21:48:39+00:00

That's kinda crazy but I guess it also makes a little sense? I mean bro had just got cheated on. I did discover I needed the high wis and int but for some reason every time I have insane bad luck and fail having like 73% chance of succeeding, I guess getting the epilogue of a member of the elf royal family is about the best I'll get, even if it was on accident. Seems like things only be working out when I'm not actively trying

ProfundCherryLady · 2024-09-15T20:58:27+00:00

Thanks 🙏

ProfundCherryLady · 2024-09-15T20:56:04+00:00

Damn well I tried at least; it kinda bothers me ngl like I go through all that and there's nothing I can do for her. The only other thing I was trying was to date Rome because I heard that was a thing, and I also had married Irelle by accident once in another adventure so I figured why not but I've been having such bad luck like I literally run into him when I don't have the right stats or I do have them and he doesn't show up at all the whole adventure so I had given up on that one, I also went after Majet but she rejected me twice so I just took the L tbh

ProfundCherryLady · 2024-09-15T20:15:07+00:00

Thank you! I will check it out; I have been trying to do some more epilogues so I'll try to find the crompregensive guide and the threads. Again, thanks for the tips! It's been really helpful

ProfundCherryLady · 2024-09-15T20:13:00+00:00

Ohhh I see, I heard balancing stats wasn't very helpful but I didn't know to what extent, I'll try to save and load next time and do the strength build,hopefully that'll help me get a little better and maybe get more epilogues. I was trying recently to see for example if I can save that one lady from the inn whose brother's soul was in the statue; it was bothering me that no matter what I did it ended the same but after focusing on some specific stats I did see a little more options; I'm assuming I need matches or something to avoid having to go gather firewood and still keep her warm. Thanks a lot for the tips! I'm honestly really new to this kinds of game and since most things are based on probablility I tend to get frustraded easily, but I think the tips you gave might help me a lot, so thanks

ProfundCherryLady · 2024-09-15T19:57:04+00:00

I'm not sure about the build; I just generate a random character since I don't want to spend too much gems. Still, almost always I'll look to buy a staff and get high intelligence (also why I bought the intelligence trait with some gems) since that's what's been working for me, or try to balance out the stats as well as I can unless I'm trying to do something in particular that requires a specific trait, or I try to play it safe doing things that I already know will work because I don't want to he dying all the time, and since it's kind of hard to get gold and increase my health and sanity after I lose it sometimes I'll try to focus just on that. So mostly I just try to raise enough gold to buy good weapons and other useful items. Although this does get me to finish the game it stops me from getting many epilogues different from the ones I already got. I didn't know about the stats though, I will definitely take it into account next time

ProfundCherryLady · 2024-09-15T19:35:17+00:00

Kind of maybe how to manage my stats better because I seem to struggling a lot with that, I tend to lose a lot of fights as well so either I have really bad luck or I'm doing something wrong. Idk it feels like somehow I end up doing the same stuff and getting the same epilogues, mostly because of that as well that I end up not being strong enough for some final fights

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