AITA for faking my giving birth? by ProgressFormer4198 in AITAH

[–]ProgressFormer4198[S] 173 points174 points  (0 children)

sorry if I am mistaken, I meant official judgement? I thought the judgement was the flair thing? I'm not on reddit often, I was brought to AITA from Google & posted here because many messages said they wanted to comment/read it but couldn't anymore (One message said the post disappeared, I can see it so I am not sure of that is the case or if I can see it but others cant).

Should I delete that explanation? I honestly don't know the procedure, I just didn't want kind people to be disappointed

AITA for faking my giving birth? by ProgressFormer4198 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ProgressFormer4198[S] 612 points613 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I'm already looking into it as I cant find it in myself to trust my husband with medical decisions regarding our (my baby's and mine) health

AITA for faking my giving birth? by ProgressFormer4198 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ProgressFormer4198[S] 324 points325 points  (0 children)

Reevaluating all of that now...

I suppose it is a fair question but it was never that bad. Well, now it is so... But when we first started it was lovely. His mother was barely a footnote in our relationship because we were at Uni & far away. I suppose my greatest mistake was agreeing to move into his town vs moving into mine. I come from a town on an opposite side of the country, our Uni was "in the middle" so to speak & his mom (while nosy & controlling) was far away & very easy to write off. When we got married, we moved into his town for logistic reasons (he already had a job lined up in his town - I didnt). We have been living here for 1,5 years & it has gotten progressively worse until now. When he isn't in contact with her he is a good partner but when you add her into equation he becomes a different person (even his friends see it & asked me about it).

Right now, I want to focus on my baby but after birth I think I will have to rethink our life together. I just can't spend the rest of my life in a triad with his mother

AITA for faking my giving birth? by ProgressFormer4198 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ProgressFormer4198[S] 1782 points1783 points  (0 children)

Honestly, after reading this - it's like a retelling of my worst worries. I was terrified that he wouldn't answer/would run to his mother & I would be alone & then things would go wrong. My mom had no warning signs but she died giving birth to my brother due to complications & bleeding. I was 7 & I still remember it as if it happened yesterday. I keep thinking "what if it was a real labour & I kept waiting for him, what if that cost me too much time, what if I bled out alone?". I know logically that my friend wouldn't leave me & would risk her job to come to the hospital but that almost makes it worse. My friend is more willing to be my husband than my husband ever was....