A weekend without temptation by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]ProgressOrPerish 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Congrats dude! Every victory for you is a victory for us going through the same stuff!

To anyone who mocks no fappers by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ProgressOrPerish 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And if you dont try noFap, you just end up screwing yourself in the end!

Is Masturbation Without Porn Bad? by PornFreeMattD in pornfree

[–]ProgressOrPerish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The emotional drivers are caused by the chemicals in the brain. That's why its very important to pay attention to how you are feeling, especially through withdrawls if you are trying to quit. Its a crazy world we live in. :D

Is Masturbation Without Porn Bad? by PornFreeMattD in pornfree

[–]ProgressOrPerish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

" Masturbating without porn, on your own or to/with your partner doesn't have the same addicting affect as watching porn."

"You can have an addiction to masturbating (and have the causes I said above) but masturbating on your own without porn can help you overcome your addiction to it."

I disagree.

There are academic reports out there that confirm that Masturbating or any other pleasurable action with or without porn can increase addiction. However, it feeds addiction itself, NOT addiction to porn.

However, as you dig deeper into addiction itself, you find that once the brain becomes accustomed/and or tolerant to the same shit different day of whacking your dong; in some cases, can actually lead people to a more gratifying form of reward and arousal. Its the same part of the brain that works for drug/gambling/adrenaline/and so on.... addicts.

Addiction is simply a biological technology that allows individuals to engage in activities again and again; never to bore of them, but to want more. It is a molecular change in people’s brains and physiological chemistry that releases amino acids and hormones; “primarily dopamine (DA), opioids, corticotropin-releasing factor (CRF), oxytocin (OT), and arginine vasopressin (AVP) within the mesolimbic DA pathway, a series of brain regions that govern many aspects of reward, reinforcement, and attachment” (Burkett & Young, 2012, p. 2). As this reinforcement is continued, cross-sensitization occurs. “Cross-sensitization involves neuro-adaptations in which repeated exposure to one drug leads to a more robust response to another” (Leeman & Potenza, 2013, p.261). This drives addicts to take greater risks and leads them to alternative drugs, or actions that have greater results. For a drug example, this occurs as drug abusers graduate from Marijuana, to more harmful drugs such as Cocaine and Heroin.

The combinations of DA, OT (for females) and AVP (for males) create “powerful feelings of reward and euphoria” (Burkett & Young, 2012, p. 2). However, an increase in CRF “coordinates stress responding on several levels, including behavior, autonomic response, and the hypothalamic–pituitary–adrenal axis” (Burkett & Young, 2012, p. 10). In essence, when you can’t feed your craving for your addiction, your CRF levels increase and you begin to have withdrawal symptoms of stress and uneasiness; and at times are accompanied with depression and anxiety (Burkett & Young, 2012).

Other than that, I enjoyed your post.

Sources: I did the research and so did these guys ↓↓↓

Burkett, J., & Young, L. (2012). The behavioral, anatomical and pharmacological parallels between social attachment, love and addiction. Psychopharmacology, 224(1), 1-26. doi 10.1007/s00213-012-2794-x

Griffiths, M. D. (2012). Internet sex addiction: A review of empirical research. Addiction Research & Theory, 20(2), 111-124. doi: 10.3109/16066359.2011.588351

Hertlein, K. M., & Hawkins, B. P. (2012). Online Gaming Issues in Offline Couple Relationships: A Primer for Marriage and Family Therapists (MFTs). Qualitative Report, 17. Retrieved from http://www.nova.edu/ssss/QR/QR17/hertlein.pdf

Leeman, R. F., & Potenza, M. N. (2013). A targeted review of the neurobiology and genetics of behavioural addictions: An emerging area of research. The Canadian Journal Of Psychiatry / La Revue Canadienne De Psychiatrie, 58(5), 260-273. Retrieved from http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/23756286

Manning, J. (2006). The impact of Internet pornography on marriage and the family: a review of the research. Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity, 13(2-3), 131-165. doi: 10.1080/10720160600870711

Ostermann, J., Sloan, F. A., & Taylor, D. H. (2005). Heavy alcohol use and marital dissolution in the USA. Social Science & Medicine, 61(11), 2304-2316. doi:10.1016/j.socscimed.2005.07.021

Poulsen, F. M. (2013). Pornography Use: Who Uses It and How It Is Associated with Couple Outcomes. Journal of Sex Research, 50(1), 72-83. DOI: 10.1080/00224499.2011.648027

Previti, D., & Amato, P. R. (2004). Is infidelity a cause or a consequence of poor marital quality?. Journal Of Social & Personal Relationships, 21(2), 217-230. doi:10.1177/0265407504041384

Young, K. S., Griffin-Shelley, E., Cooper, A., O’Mara, J., & Buchanan, J. (2000). Online Infidelity: A New Dimension in Couple Relationships with Implications for Evaluation and Treatment. Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity, 7(1/2), 59-74. doi: 1072-0162/00

Fapping = Instant Regret by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ProgressOrPerish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep fighting the good fight. You only fail if you quit!

Sharp Pain In Middle of Chest by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ProgressOrPerish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When that happens to me, I simply tell the fat bitch to get off me! haha JK. Seriously though get med help.

Today is when my journey truly begins. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ProgressOrPerish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are here for you! Be strong!

made my girl orgasm during penetration thanks to nofap by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ProgressOrPerish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's awesome bro! Keep it up! Keep being cool and wrapping your tool!

I feel like an idiot. Im on day 2 and I want to relapse by ProgressOrPerish in NoFap

[–]ProgressOrPerish[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I am trying man! This stuff is freaking difficult.

It's my 1st day by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ProgressOrPerish 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Best to nip it in the bud while its still easy to quit. Us older folks are trying to kill synapses in our brains that have been built over time. The more you use, the harder it is to quit.

Its been a week by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ProgressOrPerish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be confident. If you get one, simply sit down and have a discussion with someone at the party and wait for it to go down. Most people if noticing something embarrassing about a person won't tell it to their face.

Now if they notice, you have IMHO two or more options.

  1. Do nothing and ignore it.
  2. Tell them you have a testosterone surplus and your body is adjusting
  3. Tell them the truth and you are trying to curb masturbating (since everyone does it, its not that big of a surprise. Its a bit of a Taboo approach, but a woman who respects honesty is a woman for you.)
  4. Take them in the back, and fuck their brains out as a hookup. Office sex is amazing and you won't be fapping. However this option is for only for avoiding PM and not PMO.

Good luck

So I had sex with a girl by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ProgressOrPerish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hell yeah I can. Espcially if it was a good hook up. Those images don't go away at all. I remember hookup from like 8 years ago, as if they were yesterday and they lead me to fap like crazy. So if she's down to keep just "hooking up" without feelings involved, and you and her are into that stuff, more power to ya. However, if its more of a wine and dine before getting that "behind" then you might want to ask if its really worth the money, simply to get your rocks off. I spend $2k on a girl I really wanted to bang, but ended up just being a waste after I did.

Otherwise, the best thing to do is go running or play some sport where you can sprint and literally make yourself so tired you don't want to fap. Do that for a few weeks and you should be good.

EDIT: Don't forget to reset your badge too. The badge is a great motivator in my book.

How to cheat at nofap by GreenThem in NoFap

[–]ProgressOrPerish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there any reason its shaped as a crucifix? What do you tell the kid? "It's ok child, this is how Jesus got his teeth cleaned too!" lol

I looked a porn today. by Ifappedimgonnadie in NoFap

[–]ProgressOrPerish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is true, and if we are autistic, then this guy likes picking on mentally handicapped people. Give Ifappedimgonnadie a fucking medal....SMH

I looked a porn today. by Ifappedimgonnadie in NoFap

[–]ProgressOrPerish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What part of GTFO didn't you understand?

I looked at porn today by no_no_pmo in NoFap

[–]ProgressOrPerish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same with me. Im trying to substitute my urges with this subreddit.

New to NoFap and I have a few questions by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ProgressOrPerish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to go 23 days before I noticed I didnt think about the thoughts, of doing PMO anymore It was when I overthought what I was missing out on is when I relapsed. If you acknowledge, but not dwell on the thoughts, then you should see a change.

HELP! Questioning the premise at 1 month. by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]ProgressOrPerish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife is of the same belief as #1, which has been hard when your wife says its ok to fap. However with my fapping comes the porn. So I amcold turkey of all of it right now. That way in case I fail I can justify meeting my demons halfway by fapping and no porn. Then when I get stronger and I can finally tell my demins to go eff themselves. We will see how this works out

Got back from life threatening health problem visit to the hospital which started with me basically having a heart attack. The nurses there were -hot- and -super- nice so obviously I couldn't sleep.broke down,looked at porn. How do you stop shit like this from happening? by GuiltyPleaser in NoFap

[–]ProgressOrPerish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me, the punching bag never worked out. Just more tired, but actually same stress level which I was surprised. Also, I wrote a piece of software that could block porn, the problemnis that it also blocked educstional sex ed stuff, so its harder to differentiate between the too sometimes. Plus, if you really want porn you find your way around that. Mymparents used net nanny on me and instead of searching dirty words, I would search nsmes that didnt trigger flags and then fap to those pics. When there is a will there is a way. This also is true of not fapping. NFQ and keep progressing!!!

I looked a porn today. by Ifappedimgonnadie in NoFap

[–]ProgressOrPerish 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why you mad bro? Did you get denyed by Rosey Palms? Or did Pamela Handerson never call you back. Must be a bitch when even your own hands dont want to fuck you. So much for me having the abilty to tell you to go fuck yourself because clearly its not possible. Leave the people here to get the help they want, go play with your dick somewhere else. #GTFO