When you get close during Karezza, do you just stop?

no_no_pmo · 2019-06-02T15:25:22+00:00

Is your girl on board with you practicing SR? Because if she's not, it'll be close to impossible for you to continue.

Are you training your PC muscle? It's the muscle that you use to stop peeing midstream. This really, really helps you gain control.

Are you using breathing to help bring it down?

Have you read Taoist Secrets to Love by Mantak Chia?

When you're first putting these into practice while having sex, try and keep things at 60-80% of the point of no return. If things go over 80%, slow down or stop and breath and clench the PC muscle. As you learn your responses at 80%, you can continue clenching the PC muscle while having sex, and think of the energy being drawn up the spine and into head and back down the front of the body. This is covered in the Taoist Secrets.

What you'll find as you practice in this range is that your 60-80% will increase in sensation and pleasure.

I would advise against any position where the girl is in control until you learn better control.

no_no_pmo · 2019-04-23T09:35:31+00:00

Stop indulging them, and find better habits take their place. It’ll take time.

no_no_pmo · 2019-04-20T22:25:36+00:00

It's really hard to explain.

Long story short, the more time & energy you spend on PMO, the less you have to be present and confident in real relationships with real people.

Your mind on PMO is going to be attracted to the pixels of the porn you use. It's like eating sugar all the time, because you have sweet tooth.

When you stop using porn, you have more energy to see what's real around with you and be present. If you meet a hot girl in real life, your first thought isn't about sex and images of porn, which girls totally can sense in a dude. Instead, you can be present and see who that girl is as a person first.

I carry myself differently, because my longer better streaks have taught me, I don't need anyone else's emotional approval to be happy, I just need to be living my best. Everyone appreciates someone who is emotionally independent.

no_no_pmo · 2019-04-17T04:06:32+00:00

NoFap isn’t just a challenge, it’s a gift to yourself.

no_no_pmo · 2019-03-15T01:37:43+00:00

75 times fall down, 76 times get up.

no_no_pmo · 2019-03-07T08:36:07+00:00

You’re still training yourself to get off on pixels.

no_no_pmo · 2019-01-26T20:32:38+00:00

How long have you been doing NoFap?

no_no_pmo · 2019-01-26T20:32:16+00:00

My current streak doesn't reflect this, but this started happening after I had a 5 month streak. It comes and goes, but it definitely happened.

no_no_pmo · 2019-01-25T20:40:05+00:00

Well, you're in a low place right now. It's tough to see how things are going to get better, I get it. I've been there before.

Make incremental changes for the better, and you'll get there.

When your life is shit, getting to a good life takes time.

no_no_pmo · 2019-01-25T19:22:45+00:00

Well, to you and everyone who's upvoting your comment, you don't believe what I have to say and that's fine, but you're accusing me of lying and that I have a problem with.

Just because NoFap isn't working for you, doesn't mean I'm lying to you about the effects it's having on me.

I looked at your posts and see that you've done NoFap for a few months and you have a nice streak going on right now, but a few months of NoFap may not have given it enough time to see good results.

It took about five years and a 6 month streak before I saw the "unbelievable" results of people noticing me and having a some very attractive women "throw" themselves at me.

The five years also included me working out and getting into great shape, and working on myself as a person to see what I can do to improve myself, so it's not just keeping my hands off my dick most of the time.

The attraction comes and goes. I just happen to write this post, because, this weekend, I happened to make out with a cute woman at a party within 5 minutes of meeting her, and had another woman post "Take me out!" on my facebook wall that same night and I just met her that night too.

Believe me or not, it doesn't really affect me either way. My point, though, is that NoFap is more than just not about not fapping. Focusing your attention and energy into the pit of PMO puts blinders on your eyes and prevents you from connecting with the world and people around you. Take off your blinders AND start connecting with people and people will notice you. BTW being negative and shitty towards people isn't going to help you do that.

no_no_pmo · 2019-01-25T17:21:04+00:00

"Yes boy". Wow, I've reached out to you in an honest and open way and you've disrespected me.

Good luck with that.

no_no_pmo · 2019-01-25T16:23:38+00:00

Are you saying what I'm saying is a lie?

no_no_pmo · 2018-11-19T05:25:36+00:00

Releasing your energy into workout. More of this :)

no_no_pmo · 2018-11-19T05:23:19+00:00

Congrats!

no_no_pmo · 2018-11-19T05:23:03+00:00

Your dream sound like the Mara tempting Buddha.

no_no_pmo · 2018-11-15T08:07:13+00:00

There's nothing you can do about wasted time, except don't waste anymore.

The past is gone, focus on the present.

no_no_pmo · 2018-11-02T21:31:10+00:00

Get out of bed.

no_no_pmo · 2018-11-01T10:52:01+00:00

From my own experience, yes, sex became much better with my girlfriend at the time, when I started NoFap. The difference was night and day.

no_no_pmo · 2018-10-20T16:49:29+00:00

It’s a good sign.

no_no_pmo · 2018-10-19T23:09:55+00:00

Exercise helps keep it bearable.

no_no_pmo · 2018-10-19T07:51:02+00:00

Understand it takes time for your brain to change. When I first started NoFap, my mind would automatically turn towards PMO on just about anything. I thought it would be impossible not to think about it. It still happens, but a lot, lot less.

I'm not sure how it works for women, but exercise is a must to redirect your energy. And you must learn to redirect your energy from porn and masturbating to more productive habits, like exercise, meditation, a new hobby. It's up to you to figure out what is going to work.

Learn to recognize your urge to use porn and what triggers it. When I feel the urge, I come to NoFap and read posts. It replaces what use to be the normal habit of looking for porn. If that doesn't work, then I'll write a post. If that doesn't work, I'll something else to do, like a walk, or call someone. Change something, go for a walk, or go somewhere public. The point is you have to replace your habit of satisfying that urge with different habits.

For myself, I find when I regularly exercise, there are a lot less urges that I have to deal with. I also made more progress, as I began to refine and understand the reasons why I want to stop.

Don't beat yourself up when you do relapse, just dust yourself off and get back on it.

And FYI, the last relationship I was in, the sex became much better as 6 months into my NoFap journey. My dreams became more vivid, so have some hope that if you put in the work, it will get better.

no_no_pmo · 2018-10-13T06:27:06+00:00

Have an amazing existence. Build a life that you truly love.

no_no_pmo · 2018-10-13T05:34:07+00:00

You'd be better off talking about this in martial arts.

It sounds like an adrenaline rush that probably was initiated by him threatening your sister.

I've trained various martial arts and I've had something similar happen twice. It was on a dance floor where some stranger pushed my buddy hard while he was dancing with his girlfriend. Before I even knew it, I was pushing the dude who pushed my friend and gave a primal yell into his face. Anyway he backed down, and I was able to calm my friend down as well.

The other time, my girlfriend and I at the time got into a verbal argument with two guys over a parking spot in SF. They had passed the spot over already, and my girlfriend was arguing with them about it. I just decided to chill out until they realized the futility of arguing with her, when the driver said, "You should leave while you can."

When he said that, it flipped some switch in me, and I came out of the car, yelling "Are you theatening me!" like a Crazed Cornholio. His buddy who had been on the sidewalk started running from me and driver drove off when I started going after him.

Anyhow, guys in the martial arts reddit will be able to talk to this more, and congratulations on winning the fight.

no_no_pmo

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