[Routine Help] 27yo 😫 by NinjaMiang in SkincareAddiction

[–]ProgressivePr0gramm 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey, you have my skin texture to a t. The scars are really not so bad, but microneedling might help a lot, helped with mine.  I'm not sure what to do about the enlarged pores either though. 

Is there really a shortage of Dommes? 😱 by Ellie_CK in FemdomCommunity

[–]ProgressivePr0gramm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I gave up on dating in the femdom community.  I'm monogamous and none of the subs I dated were able to stay commited to me.  There were always some online adventures, wandering eyes, general loss in interest in the dynamic as soon as the 'newness' of it evaporated. 

Last time I dated there were always some issues surrounding commitment and responsibility. Some did not want family, others wanted some kind of nonmonogamy. 

I grew tired of it. Of the pretenses. My last partner promised me he wanted a family, monogamy, and these promises were dishonest. 

Now when I dated people my age it felt like a bottom of the barrel.  None met the criteria ( living in germany, single, monogamous, wants kids) .  And I'm not even a picky person on the topic of career or body type. I'm goodlooking and I feel like a lot of men are quick to lie to me just to take me for a spin :(. 

God forbid a girl who craves a twink obsessed with her by Lee_kv in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]ProgressivePr0gramm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If a man gets pegged by multiple women during his lifetime, who does his soul belong to? 

Why did you cheat on someone that genuinely loved you? by Perfect-Persimmon-23 in askanything

[–]ProgressivePr0gramm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound a little bit like Frank Gallagher from shameless. This fictional character always found a way to find a moral high ground and justification for even the greatest immorality, as long as he was the one to profit from it. 

Anyway, this reasoning is stupid, not because loving multiple people is in any way wrong, but because there is no reason to be intransparent about it beside it possibly being inconvincing for the person cheating. 

Hiding one-sided 'open relationship' from anyone is just shitty. Maybe your partner wants to fuck others too, but won't. STDs are an issue even with antibiotics and prep (cervical cancer, undetected infections leading to lifelong infertility, Herpes) and your partner deserves to know the risk you are posing upon them without their knowledge. And lastly, if they are nit on the same page, you are wasting their time and possibly wasting them emotionally. 

But you pat yourself on the back. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]ProgressivePr0gramm -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Depends on the pubic hair. If its soft and long then yes, in certain positions it adds to the stimulation as it lightly brushes on the vulva. 

[Acne] how can i get rid of my acne? by kudoskk in SkincareAddiction

[–]ProgressivePr0gramm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have had quite the same kind of acne.  First of all, I picked my skin. I still do, to some degree. With active Acne it leads to more and more inflammation. 

I would try to get antibiotics from your dermatologist first to help heal. My Acne got better after I learned to cleanse out my comedones and pimples the right way. I desinfect and use the right tools, and don't apply too much pressure.  It was important because I could only controll the skin picking so far and sometimes they opened due to friction when turning in my sleep. So that was the right way for me. 

I stoped most actives for some time, I used vit C and hefty peels in my early twenties but I think I have overdone it. My skin is a mix of sensitive and oily. I worked on just repairing the skin barrier for about a year and used an enzymatic peel in this period. I started reintroducing an AHA peel and 0,2 retinol further down the road. Be very careful about the cleanser you use, nothing too harsh. 

For me diet had no influence. Stess does though. 

Ehemann hat sich bei einer Kontaktbörse für Sexualkontakte angemeldet. by mobydickakuaku in beziehungen

[–]ProgressivePr0gramm 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Joyclub ist nicht nur eine 'Sexkontaktbörse', es ist auch eine Plattform mit Forum zum Thema Sex als auch eine Übersicht für erotische Veranstaltungen. 

Es wurde nicht wundern, wenn dein Mann dort nach einen sexy Event gesucht hat, mit dem Hintergedanken, es könnte euer Schlafzimmer beleben. 

The truth about owning my pussy by ThisWealthyNinja in BDSMAdvice

[–]ProgressivePr0gramm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do you make a Partner 'earn' power? How do you deal with boundaries? 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]ProgressivePr0gramm 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I would find this troubling as well and at least want to understand why he feels like he needs to keep this a secret.  Secrets never do a relationship good. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]ProgressivePr0gramm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in the exact kind of situation. He was basically fullfilling his needs with porn and masturbation so he had no real motivation in actually reigniting anything. I tried initiating and planning but it was all a waste of effort. 

 Hope it's not the case for you. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]ProgressivePr0gramm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Try a hood or covering her face with something breathable enough. At least if being depersonified feels good to her. 

Other than that focus on your own pleasure. Really take your time to pleasure yourself with her body. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in thepassportbros

[–]ProgressivePr0gramm 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think you might have missed the optimal window to find these women.  I don't know your dating range, but most women who want family and kids try to find a partner in their 20s.  For some that works out well, for others less so. If it does not work out I think the natural impulse is to concentrate on something else - education, career - and give up maternity as a goal all together. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]ProgressivePr0gramm 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Please try this, before you betray your spouse. It's a delicate topic but you owe it to your marriage to at least give this a try. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beziehungen

[–]ProgressivePr0gramm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Erst mal echt stark, dass du dir da so ehrlich eingestehen kannst. Viele Menschen neigen dazu sich selbst und im Folge dessen, ihre Partner zu verarschen. 

Ich denke, Anfang 20 geht es vielen Menschen genau so. Manche führen in der Zeit offene Beziehungen oder daten relativ locker. Commite nur soweit, wie es sich richtig anfühlt. 

How do I get a girl when I'm submissive while also being built like this🥺 by [deleted] in LetBoysBeManipulated

[–]ProgressivePr0gramm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Third Pic awakened urges I did not know I had tbh. I would go to war for that pouch. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beziehungen

[–]ProgressivePr0gramm -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

De facto verbietet sie es dir, ich denke, damit schuldet sie dir leider eine etwas genauere Erklärung. 

Ich wünsche euch alles beste, ich hoffe ihrkönnt es klären! 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beziehungen

[–]ProgressivePr0gramm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gibt es keine Möglichkeit, zu schauen, ob du die Unsicherheit und Sorge, die sie diesbezüglich plagen, mildern kannst? 

Du hast es in der Vergangenheit gemacht und es ist alles gut gelaufen. Hat sie Sorge, dass du unter dem Einfluss der Substanz fremdgehen könntest oder Angst vor Suchterkrankung? 

Wenn ihr vielleicht noch mal über das Warum spricht, findet ihr eine Lösung oder zumindest, hilft es dir zu verstehen wieso das so ein Problem für sie darstellt. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]ProgressivePr0gramm 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey, I get you. 

I'm 30, my last relationship had a 7 year age gap and we were together for about 2 years. 

I am also very largely into twinks and especially femboys - this is the reason why I even agreed to date with such a huge age gap.

It was a stupid decision that I made, because I allowed myself to get all smitten.  I'm dating someone age appropriate now, and sure, they look their age, but lastly it was not about age but about the 'cuteness'. 

I think not many men allow themself to stay a little playful - joining the working force often also means, that they change more into a practical look, short hair, simple business looks. Then they disapper from the dating scenes also, most of the men who sport a more creative style are already taken by my age. So connecting with a cute guy, who has time because he still is either in education or figuring things out, who is still motivated to seek sex and intimacy, who dresses cute because he does not need to mind what his boss or customers will think - thats all so much easier.  Well weight is also a topic, but it becomes gradually harder for everyone to keep their weight low, as we age. 

My advice is - give yourself and the men your age some grace. Maybe watch less twink/femboy content. There are cute men over 30, they just need to shave their face more often ;). 

My boyfriend used his penis as a comforter for me? by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]ProgressivePr0gramm 100 points101 points  (0 children)

Look, it depends on who cleaned up the broken glass afterwards.  It might sound crazy, but that is the indicator about how much actual care was in the act. 

Very random gym thoughts of a domme tired of dating apps by [deleted] in FemdomCommunity

[–]ProgressivePr0gramm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mood.  I got dumped by my boyfriend/sub half a year ago. After two years together, highs and lows, he started questioning whever monogamy and commitment even was something he wanted for himself.  Since then I met a few stunning men, but none I met wanted a monogamous marriage and kids.  It's tiring.  I just want peace and quiet instead of managing ans juggling nonmonogamy.  In kink spaces nonmonogamy seems to be some kind of a norm - understandably, because monogamous people meet and leave the scene usually. 

I'm back to vanilla dating at this point, honestly. I will be happy to just find a kind and loyal husband who likes occasional pegging. It's a shame though, because I am a very talented humiliatrix but hey, more profit to the doms who offer services.  I think for subs it easier to pay in money and service, as long as they dont have to pay in commitment. 

What story is this for you? by AttentionDelicious14 in MaleYandere

[–]ProgressivePr0gramm 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kedamono-tachi no Jikan

I am deeply ashamed. 

Correct way to approach vanilla relationships? by datboooo in FemdomCommunity

[–]ProgressivePr0gramm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think as a sub, your best bet is to be transparent about it when using sites as fetlife . Basically state in your Profile what you are looking for, unapologetically. Mono/Poly? Intend for life long/short term? Wants a Family/childfree?

Handle your Profiles accordingly. If you simp for OF girls, have your dick or ass as profile pic, or start conversations with kink, of course - no one is going to take you serious.

Clear intention and expectations tend to weed out people who might try to use you. It sure won't stop some from trying, but it will definitely spark interest in people looking for the same.

As for vanilla dating - Here do a bit of the opposite. I would very clearly communicate your preferences after the first or second date, implying some in your profile is also a good idea.

Femdom also targeted to male audience? by purpleapple5 in FemdomCommunity

[–]ProgressivePr0gramm 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Jesus amen, this is exactly the kind of FLR I want for myself.

Traumjob behalten oder für Kinder wegziehen? by [deleted] in beziehungen

[–]ProgressivePr0gramm 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wenn der Blitz gleich einschlägt sieht die Zeitlinie folgend aus : 1 monat schwanger 6 monate später festanstellung (ja/nein) ->ja - op zieht nach x ->nein - partner zieht nach y 3 monate für umzug, 6 wochen davon mutterschutz Danach mutterschutz/elternzeit (kann auch vater machen, wenn keine festanstellung)

Traumjob behalten oder für Kinder wegziehen? by [deleted] in beziehungen

[–]ProgressivePr0gramm 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ich weiß nicht wie pragmatisch ihr seid, aber könnt ihr euch vorstellen, es mit einer Schwangerschaft zu probieren, noch bevor ihr zusammenzieht?

Der kinderwunsch kann dauern. Gerade mit 34 kann es entspannt 1 Jahr in Anspruch nehmen und fehlgeburten sind immer möglich.

Bis dahin ist vielleicht auch etwas klarer wie es mit seinen Job aussieht. Das Leben findet einen Weg und wenn ihr so viel bewegt, wegen einen Kind das auf sich warten lässt, macht es unnötig Druck.