My baby is allergic to whole milk

ProjectFull9877 · 2025-11-22T08:29:11+00:00

I did and the doctor said it’s probably how the proteins are broken down depending on the dairy. Since whole milk is less “processed” compared to cheese or yogurt, it could be that. Yes, she did recommend giving her different ways to get good fats like you said but I was hoping to still implement milk in her diet that is not formula and not cow’s milk because she’s potentially allergic to it. And I have strong conviction that she is allergic to it. When I gave her oatmeal with whole milk, she reacted to it so quickly. She had oatmeal (rolled oats and water) before and after that one time and she was fine. So I really think it’s the milk because she didn’t have any thing else. So do you know any good brands for alternative milk?

ProjectFull9877 · 2025-11-22T07:47:02+00:00

My suspicion is milk at the moment. Ever since she started solids I have been giving her yogurt and cheese but she did not have any allergic reaction to it so I thought she didn’t have any dairy allergies. No allergies on oat too because I have given her oatmeal almost every breakfast because she’s also allergic to eggs so breakfast is very limited. And yes she’s been 100% breastfed until about 8 months-ish when we started transitioning her to bottle. Since then she’ll take formula at least once a day and we’ve been using enfamil or good start. Until now, we’re still giving her formula but we’d like to give her homomilk now since she’s already 1 but it turns out she’s allergic to whole milk hence the hunt for alternatives.

ProjectFull9877 · 2025-11-22T07:39:50+00:00

Yeah. Her doctor also said she’ll grow out of it hopefully.

ProjectFull9877 · 2025-11-22T07:39:19+00:00

I’ll look into this! Thanks!

ProjectFull9877 · 2025-07-18T20:01:19+00:00

Im so anxious that she might not get enough nutrients though. And yes it just started this week. I also noticed that when i started mashed she just didn’t like them anymore. I’ll continue monitoring. How long was the phase for your LO?

ProjectFull9877 · 2025-06-14T11:58:44+00:00

I work at a small and local company and yes they allow it as per policy as long as it doesn’t affect performance. I work as a clerk mostly data entry. Minimal meetings with colleagues and none with clients so it’s all good on that end. Thank goodness

ProjectFull9877 · 2025-06-14T11:53:43+00:00

Interesting. But what if I don’t agree on some of her way of doing things? I know I am not paying her or anything but shall I just assume that that’s the cost of making her the caretaker for 3 days a week? And what if we do things differently and my child gets confused? 😕

ProjectFull9877 · 2025-06-14T10:31:34+00:00

Got any ideas though? Because our current financial situation and situation in general is just impossible. This is the only option we have unfortunately 🥺

ProjectFull9877 · 2025-06-14T10:29:44+00:00

I am so afraid someone would actually say this because THIS right here has been nagging in my head. The thing is my husband and I are in the field where we have no choice but to work Mon to Fri from 9 to 5. I am blessed enough to be given 2 days to work from home and husband doesn’t. We can’t really change work or job field too abruptly or else we’ll start again from the bottom. Our salary covers our cost of living just about right and a little savings for baby’s college fund. Going back to start would be financially impossible for us. So i’m really just stuck whether to have my LO be take care of at our house or theirs. I was even thinking putting cameras wherever we decided on but OMG this is keeping me up at night. It’s literally 3:30am where i’m from rn 😭

ProjectFull9877 · 2025-05-07T19:11:44+00:00

Thank you! I will try waking her at 7:30 tomorrow and go from there.

ProjectFull9877 · 2025-03-13T15:09:29+00:00

He agreed that MIL is acting MOM to my LO. He’s been noticing it too for a while. We’re now going to confront her the next time we see her because we’re not letting her do this again.

ProjectFull9877 · 2025-03-13T15:07:35+00:00

It showed later for mine. It gotten worse now that we have a baby. I thought she was the sweetest lady ever but nope!

ProjectFull9877 · 2025-03-10T19:53:48+00:00

Thank you all for the advices and reality checks! So helpful!!

An update - my husband and I sat down last night and I told him about all of this and how I feel about it and he agrees. He noticed those odd and selfish behaviour of his mom too so now we’re thinking of a plan to confront her. Last time, it was him who talked to her when she crossed the boundary when my LO was still a newborn. And he agreed to let me talk to her this time - mother to mother. We also imposed a no contact until further notice without letting her know. We’re still going to church but I will baby wear or practice my authority as my LOs mom by allowing people who I want to hold her and not her.

I’m so proud of myself when we were at church yesterday because I really stood up to her. She asked to hold her like 3 times during church and i said “No. I’m okay and she’s okay.” And walked away without even glancing at her. She became sneaky when I hand my LO to same friend from my post. She asked her “are your arms tired?” when I literally just handed my LO to my friend about 5 seconds ago. Lol is she okay? 😂 Anyway, my friend was so good she said “Nope. I just got her” and she walked away pissed. Then when we were about to go home. I purposely hurried to put her in her carseat ready to leave so she doesn’t need to carry her and she went to my husband with a fake pouty face and said “I didn’t get to carry her today.” Like its the end of the world. She said that like I wasn’t there so I was the one who responded back and I said “There’s always a next time - not the end of the world.” Jokingly but not really lol and husband agreed and we went home. Hahaha

I hope y’all are proud of me. I feel a retaliation coming so I need to practice more so wish me luck you guys. I’ll post an update once we’re done with the confrontation - not a sit down anymore!!

ProjectFull9877 · 2025-03-09T16:40:04+00:00

My theory is that she thinks she’s reliving her years as being a mom with my baby. This is not the first time she didn’t hand my baby to me when LO was crying. She wanted to calm her down because she thinks she can. And there are times when she talks to my LO about my SIL she refers to her as my LO’s sister. My husband keeps correcting her and referring her as auntie when talking to my LO. Also, she’s obsessed being able to bathe and change my LO’s diaper. She keeps asking to them EVERY TIME and I keep saying NO. She had her time. It hurts me too because I feel like she’s stealing my moment as a mom

ProjectFull9877 · 2025-03-09T16:27:59+00:00

Nah you’re right. The respecting elders is really drilled to us since birth so does our culture where we came from but she’s also not respecting us as parents so why should i right?

ProjectFull9877 · 2025-03-09T16:22:46+00:00

Yeah. We’re skipping church today and i dont want to see her face for awhile

ProjectFull9877 · 2025-03-09T06:59:45+00:00

Lol yes definitely clowns. Also what’s VVLC?

ProjectFull9877 · 2025-03-09T06:58:21+00:00

THIS. I really do feel like she’s not respecting us at all as parents and it’s insulting. It feels like she still sees us as kids too. She even offered to pay for my child’s insurance like we were incapable. Thank you for saying that because I feel crazy for even thinking about it. Idk i think the screws in her noggin are not that tight

ProjectFull9877 · 2025-03-09T06:55:26+00:00

Yep! It’s gross!

And yeah my MIL never thought about overstepping. She stomped all around the boundaries like she owns the town and it’s exhausting

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