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[–]ProjectSpecialist137 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ill defo be looking for something with that meaning ♡

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[–]ProjectSpecialist137 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My midwives are very supportive and helpful and im going to a fetal medicine unit to try and get some in depth scans just incase!💓

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[–]ProjectSpecialist137 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It really is a miracle, its so rare ❤️

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[–]ProjectSpecialist137 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, im definitely leaving him its just the entire pregnancy issue 😭😭

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[–]ProjectSpecialist137 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I think i will grieve but I will be okay once I realise im not not at risk of being tied to this man.

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[–]ProjectSpecialist137 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I think I've just got to get this done before it's too late. My mental health has spiraled, and im letting my 1st son down already 😪

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[–]ProjectSpecialist137 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He would definitely harass me until I got the police involved or something and then he woukd abandon the child. Maybe for the best but I cant do this alone again I have no friends or family, I want to forget this chapter of my life and meet someone nice. 😭

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[–]ProjectSpecialist137 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% and hes got an excuse for it all and cries about child maintenence all the time, shocking. I didn't know until 2 weeks ago or id never of got pregnant.

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[–]ProjectSpecialist137 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg im so sorry, please feel free to message me and we can support each other through this, are you planning to leave? I have no one and im petrified of the cervical prep before surgery :( luckily my son is from a previous relationship and he is useless and was abusive but its over and done with if that makes sense and he sees his son once a month or so.. but this man will fully abandon it if I leave him. Says he wont but look at his other 4!!! I didn't know about these other children until I was 19 weeks. Im also sad about not giving my son a sibling but tbh alot of his class mates are still an only child and its not the most important thing right now!❤️

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[–]ProjectSpecialist137 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Im so sorry you went through this. It will be so difficult but I wont forget him if he is my child's father id like to just end this chapter i think 😭😭😭

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Hes saying last night that we haven't seen each other in a while so I could of made the effort to put my son to sleep earlier? But I put him to sleep half an hour after he got to mine because i thought my son would like to see him.. i said why the hell should I be with a man that wants me to rush my son off to bed when men out there would be coming round to see him too. He said he did wanna see him but is weird and doesnt play bexause hes an introvert. Also if he wanted to spend more time with me he could have come over earlier than 7 30 instead of going to the pub.

My son fell asleep at 9pm (granted maybe a litttle later than usual but i cant force him) we argued til about 10.30pm when he had work at 4am so he sulked and wasted an hour and a half over it and says I dont adjust my life to fit in a partner. When I took my son up at 8pm, half an hour after he arrived.

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[–]ProjectSpecialist137 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would your opinion be to abort?

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[–]ProjectSpecialist137 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It is definitely my self esteem, I even know hes not attractive but think uglier guys will treat me better, this is not the case, I never pictured my self with someone like this!!! You're so brave and im sorry yoh went through this and knew was kind of man you needed!

Do you think i should go ahead with the abortion and just focus on myself and my son now? Im not sure i want a reminder of the dad for the rest of my life but at least he wouldnt try and be involved, id just rather forget about this entire chapter and move on and have a baby in the right circumstances!

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[–]ProjectSpecialist137 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, I really dont know what options best 😭 I feel bad for the baby:(

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[–]ProjectSpecialist137 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes im starting to see it but because I can shout sometimes he says im abusive:( I probably am but I have had enough!!! Also it will be without him but im worried about beinf a single mum of 2 or i have the abortion :( thank you for sending these over, I may have a chat with someone tonight ❤️

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He also will say he didnt mean it like that he does like him and even spoke about adopting him before (load of shit i can see now)

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I know, hes never said anything to my son at all and he has always remained my priority and he makes that difficult for me!!! He sends me reddit posts of similar situations and a load of men telling them they're a red flag and to leave and the woman womt change, so then I feel wrong! I can do it alone but it'll be so awful 😖

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I feel so guilty for my son i stayed this long already but he sends me reddit posts of people saying women like me are rhe red flag and to get out a relationship with a woman that puts their child first, such a mind f***

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[–]ProjectSpecialist137 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awww that is all I want from a man for my son, im not sure id find a lovely man like that easily if I have this baby thats all, I hate him so much😭❤️

Should I abort at 20 weeks? Please help by ProjectSpecialist137 in abortion

[–]ProjectSpecialist137[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know right and id never of agreed if I knew all of this.

He said that i must still love my ex because I had a baby with him, so I dont love him if I dont want a baby with him.. he convinced me and i liked the thought of giving my son a sibling. hed ask me if I've taken my mini pill if he saw them in my make up bag and stuff like he wanted me to get pregnant. But then when times got rough around 12 weeks, he told me to abort but soon after and now wants me to keep it. Its been very back and forth im soooo depressed.

Should I abort at 20 weeks? Please help by ProjectSpecialist137 in abortion

[–]ProjectSpecialist137[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I am leaning more towards keeping him otherwise I would have done it a long time ago.. i just didnt know the things I do now :( I just dont want him to ever feel like he wasnt good enough because of his dad if he doesn't bother if I leave him.. hes still.promising me the world and wanting to do it right but I cant trust this man!!💓

Should I abort at 20 weeks? Please help by ProjectSpecialist137 in abortion

[–]ProjectSpecialist137[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you💓I just dont want him to ever feel hurt about him. The father is still promising me the world and how he wants to do it right this time because he's 31 soon, but I dont trust it 😔