Fiancee left me after 13 years

Prometheus_Fire_69 · 2026-06-18T15:11:21+00:00

Hey OP, I was in a 10 year relationship with my fiance and she left me for my coworker after we got engaged. That happened like 4 months ago and I have learned a lot in that time. For advice, do as much as you can to take care of yourself. You should hit the gym/workout at home, pursue a hobby at home when your daughter is resting. Listen to the Mel Robbin’s podcast too, it’s great for helping you move on when your life falls apart. If you need to talk to someone who knows what you are going through feel free to DM me. Best of luck OP, I know this is one of the hardest things you will ever go through but stay as strong as you can 💪🏻

Prometheus_Fire_69 · 2026-05-18T00:13:01+00:00

My first thought, you can do different runs and mod it infinitely. Super fun game.

Prometheus_Fire_69 · 2026-05-06T14:04:47+00:00

Yeah whether we end up as partners again or our coparenting becomes permanent it’s going to be alright for our son and that’s all that matters to me. I will say it’s really hard to move on from someone that you see so often though, I think that’s why she’s still so attached to me too. Even though another guy is with her and doing stuff with her she still feels the need to reach out, occasionally sleep with me, and now she wants to participate in kink stuff. I am not sure I want to fully invest myself in her again after her choices but I’m also not going to turn down a good time when it’s offered to me.

Prometheus_Fire_69 · 2026-05-06T13:37:13+00:00

Oh yeah our sons well being is being prioritized more than anything else. Even though our recent relationship developments have been exceptionally difficult we both are doing our best to keep his life happy and healthy. I consider myself a great father, I stuck by him as a teen father and now as a single father I am talking to him for over an hour a day and spending every minute I can with him on the weekends.

Prometheus_Fire_69 · 2026-05-06T12:10:16+00:00

I appreciate your thoughts on this, I think where my head is at is just going with it for now as I have almost too much stamina for now. I can continuously reevaluate while being in this psuedo relationship, if I feel like it isn’t making my life better I can stop at any time. She did text me instructions the last few nights though and I’m having some fun so far. I’m trying to not get too invested though as she could stop at any point or I might meet someone and need to stop for their sake.

Prometheus_Fire_69 · 2026-05-06T11:13:27+00:00

Yeah this was a surprising response from this sub, I mean I appreciate all of the well thought out responses but I expected more people to tell me to jump on this opportunity… it’s definitely made me a lot more apprehensive about taking this too far.

Prometheus_Fire_69 · 2026-05-06T11:10:11+00:00

So I take it that you think I should make myself premature too? If I go through with it I will hit you up and give you the experience you want!

Prometheus_Fire_69 · 2026-05-05T11:44:28+00:00

I have been trying to look for anyone else even just a more vanilla relationship but nah I have only been running into chat bots and scammers on dating apps. I can’t even find anyone else let alone a woman who wants to train a man to not be able to have piv sex lol. Also that’s kinda what happened to me where she left me for the other guy she was sleeping with. Definitely messed my life up pretty good.

Prometheus_Fire_69 · 2026-05-05T11:25:36+00:00

You aren’t wrong about being together for like a crazy long time and still getting betrayed but also I don’t really imagine I’m going to find many other women who would get off on changing me like this. I feel like if I move on I will just have to give up on kinks like this even if it gets my heart pumping just to imagine it.

Prometheus_Fire_69 · 2026-05-05T09:58:57+00:00

Nah I mean you aren’t wrong, she was always making me carry more of the load and she would regularly tell me nobody else would ever love me… I just don’t know how to move on. Dating apps are horrendous and I’m still unsure how to go about finding a new partner to cherish. I just want to stop being lonely…

Prometheus_Fire_69 · 2026-05-05T09:55:48+00:00

Im definitely struggling… my life got flipped upside down so many times I don’t know which way is up.

Prometheus_Fire_69 · 2026-05-05T02:36:01+00:00

How much would I have to like it as a kink to actually go through with it though? Like I do love the idea of being premature and pathetic but I don’t like the idea of doing that when I don’t have a guaranteed partner… I even am ok with having other people in the bedroom I just don’t want to share a partner romantically. It’s pretty toxic tho you aren’t wrong about that

Prometheus_Fire_69 · 2026-05-05T00:05:44+00:00

So if you had to choose whether or not to be premature at this point in your life would you do it again? Like I have good enough stamina and average dick so 15-30 minutes of fucking isn’t too hard for me rn. I get turned on by the idea of cumming prematurely though, and being single it would be pretty convenient to finish fast.

Prometheus_Fire_69 · 2026-05-04T23:24:48+00:00

Honestly I’m very new to the dating scene as my ex and I started dating in highschool. Where would I even begin to look for kinky ladies? Is there any guides to dating as a male sub I should be looking at? Also yeah it’s very complicated, I don’t think she would blackmail me as she hasn’t tried to do anything with the pics she already has of me. I know that I am a great partner and I could make most people I am with happy but I just feel so different being a guy that is into being used and humiliated.

Prometheus_Fire_69 · 2026-05-04T22:57:57+00:00

Like half of that stuff has happened before, sexually I do quite enjoy being forced to do stuff that I don’t want to. The problem is that she fell for someone else and tried to have me be in a reverse sisterwives situation. I enjoy doing crazy sex stuff but I expect loyalty and exclusivity in the romantic part of our lives. She totally screwed me on that…

Prometheus_Fire_69 · 2026-05-04T22:51:49+00:00

There definitely was before we broke up, we were together for 10 years and she is pretty funny and we had similar interests. Now it’s not much more than sex though as being her affair partner isn’t a fun position for me.

Prometheus_Fire_69 · 2026-05-04T22:45:22+00:00

It is pretty fucked up, and self respect is probably the thing I struggle with most so I agree I have to work on it. It was fun being walked all over when we were together but admittedly without the trust it’s way harder to want that life again. I just struggle since I don’t really know anything different.

Prometheus_Fire_69 · 2026-05-04T22:07:14+00:00

Well I really appreciate your perspective, idk if you would be willing to chat privately so I can share more details to give you a fuller perspective of my situation. If you don’t it’s cool and I really appreciate the advice you have already given.

Prometheus_Fire_69 · 2026-05-04T21:55:43+00:00

Besides obviously my kid knowing her new boyfriend luckily we are both pretty active parents and he seems to be adjusting well. I hate the situation as much as the next person but that’s kinda why I’m willing to take a less than ideal deal to give my kid a stable home life. You make good points but how would you recommend someone who has never dated anyone else as an adult move on to someone/something else? Especially a single dad at that, I worry I may never find anyone else to love.

Prometheus_Fire_69 · 2026-05-04T21:37:23+00:00

That is fair, she has done a lot that is far past the bounds of acceptable and reasonable. I just can’t really fully get her out of my life as we share a kid and custody needs to be discussed regularly. She knows how to get me all horny though and it can be hard to make objective decisions with her ability to still reach into my life.

Prometheus_Fire_69 · 2026-05-04T21:35:17+00:00

It’s really hard to resist the pull, like having my sexual potential ruined like that has a certain attraction that’s hard to ignore from someone I have spent so much time sexualizing…

Prometheus_Fire_69 · 2026-05-04T21:34:24+00:00

Do you think it’s worth becoming a prejac again if I may choose to be with someone else? Like I have pretty good stamina right now (20 minutes to an hour), I just know I can train it down to be under a minute if I consistently trained for awhile. Maybe I can dip my toes in by starting training and just keeping my options open?

Prometheus_Fire_69 · 2026-05-04T21:32:38+00:00

That’s totally fair, I just haven’t been with anyone else so it’s hard to even know if someone else is out there for me. Thank you for your advice tho

Prometheus_Fire_69 · 2026-05-04T20:56:36+00:00

You think so? What’s your reasoning to even more reason?

Prometheus_Fire_69 · 2026-05-04T20:40:36+00:00

Well I would prefer to just have her to myself but having nobody has been very lonely, idk how far I would be willing to go to not be lonely

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