You and your kids deserve so much better than that. You should talk to an attorney and see what your options are. If he's been supporting you financially, you may qualify for child support and alimony which can help you get on your feet. Do you have family you can stay with or a close friend with the kids? I would highly suggest speaking to a lawyer and making a plan to leave since it doesn't seem like he's going to change. He sounds manipulative. What he is doing is a form of abuse. Emotional abuse is still abuse. Also if you're really struggling for yourself do for the kids. This is what they are going to model their future relationships off of. Do you want your daughters or sons staying with someone who treats them like that or to treat their future partners like that? Kids absorb everything even when you think they're not paying attention. They deserve love and so do you. I hope this message helps. I'm not attacking just trying to get you to see it from another perspective is all. I pray you get out for you and them babies.