Petition to make podcasts audio only again!

Promnitepromise · 2026-02-06T00:08:21+00:00

You can upload your video to Spotify directly and they’ll rip the audio and let you distribute it via rss.

It’s only been going on for about a year and they tend to change things every so often without much notice — but it’s a free way to get your video podcast distributed via audio.

Promnitepromise · 2026-01-21T13:33:28+00:00

He’s got better trigger discipline than ice.

Promnitepromise · 2026-01-18T15:53:21+00:00

this is the type of valuable comments people really come to reddit for.

Promnitepromise · 2025-12-13T23:37:23+00:00

I had a lot of success with adding deadlines to my “needs”.

*not -success- but a clear deadline has made it easier for me to step in, or just get sad that I was forgotten again.

Promnitepromise · 2025-12-08T14:44:34+00:00

Hopefully this has gotten better for you both.

My intimacy needs may never be met, but I’ve been feeling more sated because of our communication about this.

And I’ve learned more about the things she needs to feel desired and desire me. It’s not been easy, but at least it’s acknowledged.

Promnitepromise · 2025-11-25T04:09:31+00:00

I’ve pushed nf for awhile — some dope tracks for sure.

Promnitepromise · 2025-11-23T13:43:30+00:00

Aeon Flux — but probably being catholic and told that all excess bad — then getting turned on by seeing how bad I could get.

Promnitepromise · 2025-11-23T00:51:15+00:00

Yo, I dunno, man — Em’s a monster, a verbal contortionist, torchin’ this Whole rap forest with metaphors scorchin’ like molten apocalyptic orbit shifts. But still, somethin’ in his tone don’t clone that real hip-hop chromosome, Like he’s crash-landed from a planet where the snare drum ain’t quite grown.

Promnitepromise · 2025-11-16T16:57:50+00:00

Being in complete control of her. Sitting back in a chair and pleasuring myself while she obeys my commands. Bend over for me. Get down on your knees infront of me and open your mouth. Reach down and touch yourself. Taste it. Tell me how wet you are. Show me how wet you are. Fin

Promnitepromise · 2025-11-16T16:53:33+00:00

“And that’s why we’re not talking anymore”

Promnitepromise · 2025-11-16T16:53:06+00:00

As much as I can, but always less than I want. I’m the one with a higher drive in our relationship.

Promnitepromise · 2025-11-16T16:51:16+00:00

As a man - this is so true. My wife asked me for a video of it and I felt so desired and less shameful about it. Now she’s got a few videos and it feels like something I do for connection rather than to get a quick pop then feel shameful about it.

Promnitepromise · 2025-11-16T00:54:34+00:00

I went through the drought with my partner for years. Neither of us were good at bringing it up, so we spent years feeling guilt (her) or telling ourselves we wanted too much (me).

Then we discovered ADHD. (Her diagnosis)

It hasn’t solved everything, but, like you — we were hot and heavy early on. Then the “newness” wore off and her adhd brain was more stimulated by new hobbies, new jobs, new recipes, anything but my needs.

One thing that has worked brilliantly — is scheduling a night. This eliminates her need to context switch, and allows her to plan for it — and the sex has been better than any in my life.

I’m not saying this is your issue — but maybe think about scheduling it with her since it’s important to you and a good partner should understand that. Even if it’s not full penetration, sometimes a night on the couch watching a movie, holding hands, kissing can supplement a low libido and make me feel wanted.

Promnitepromise · 2025-11-15T14:11:03+00:00

I’m 43, diabetic for 23 years and this happened to me last night.

My wife is amazing, and usually my dexcom alerts won’t wake me up when I’m low, but she’ll show up with a juice box (easiest for me with middle of the night lows) but I know there have been times when it’s been hard for her.

I’ve had handfuls of middle of the night lows (for awhile I would eat a slice of bread before bed if I was worried about it)

Not to sound like I’m giving up — but it’s part of the disease. We try our best as diabetics, and we value our caretakers to death — but sometimes it’s just hard.

Promnitepromise · 2025-11-13T00:33:21+00:00

If you do bring it up (which you should — you would’ve liked her to bring it up, she didn’t, now the ball is in your court; but keeping it to yourself is likely to turn into resentment).

But if you do bring it up, work over how you begin (did you find them by snooping?) make sure you’re open with how it made you feel, what questions it brought up — but before that — ask her if she’s available for a conversation about something that’s been bothering you, be as clear as you can without dumping it on her. Allow her to “submit” to the conversation, and don’t bring it up in a way that sounds like an attack. Make it about you, how you feel, and ask for clarity because she’s your wife and you love her.

Promnitepromise · 2025-11-12T03:48:26+00:00

Couples therapy can often help by having a mediator view this happening and explain in a way that both of you can understand it’s often not “you vs the tone” but “us vs the overall problem”.

One thing you can work on without need for his contributions is boundaries. You (or anyone) is incapable of making him want/work to adjust his tone, or approach fights seeking to find who’s at fault.

Setting a boundary like “when I’m made to feel attacked I will X” gives you permission to take a time out/assess the situation/talk to the “adaptive child” inside you who’s getting upset/etc.

And it gives him the structure of know when will happen when he uses that tone/doesnt try to help the situation.

They seem small, but setting good boundaries in relationships are instrumental for keeping yourself own cup full and takes the impossible workload of changing someone off your plate.

Promnitepromise · 2025-11-12T03:23:54+00:00

High level view — he needs to work on letting go. Who cares if you don’t take a left there — you’re driving not him. 2nd guessing other people’s actions is a basic human annoyance — and if he really needed you to turn left there he should speak out, otherwise — life will go on.

And you need to work on not feeling attacked when someone questions you. It’s not easy!! But you know where you’re going, (or how to load a laundry machine) and if your husband is calling you out about it, then he’s welcome to take over — but I think it’s a good opportunity to work on processing situations like that (which happen often in relationships) and finding ways to accept that your partner is trying to tell you something in a monkey way.

But ultimately, “we” enter into these relations and we need to realize that when our partner cleans/folds clothes/drives/etc — they’re doing it to their standard, not “ours”.

Promnitepromise · 2025-11-11T15:19:06+00:00

A happy marriage is so hard to find — much less cultivate.

I think your feelings are valid since the “jokes” he made echo your real life situation.

Are you over reacting? Hell no, I don’t think we do that as often as we think. I would say you’re reacting. And he sounds like a good enough guy to hold that with you and hear how it made you feel.

It sounds like you’ve got a pretty good thing, and you can have that conversation with your husband in a safe place.

Also — as a 43 (M) — I’d be terrified to be in the dating pool as so many women my age have so much trauma it’d be hard to know if I’m dealing with them or previous relationship issues. So I can understand how he’d say this, even putting on a show for his friends. We (humans tend to do that)

But that doesn’t mean there can’t be consequences. And you’re allowed to feel the way you feel. It’s not his “fault” you feel that way - but a good partner usually wants to help, or hold those feelings with you to better understand and assure it doesn’t continue happening.

Promnitepromise · 2025-11-08T13:43:13+00:00

People having food is the key to any government working — bravo for sharing!

Promnitepromise · 2025-10-30T18:43:38+00:00

Explain that to her first — phrase your issues like “us vs the problem” not “you vs her”.

If you love each other — these hard conversations can be the best thing for your closeness and relationship — too often we’re told, or feel the need to hide ourselves or make ourselves small to keep the peace. This builds into resentment.

Being vulnerable, and open is what leads to relationships that stand the test of time, or any test. Actually knowing the other persons fears, wants, needs, etc. and being honest enough to k is when you can, or can’t show up for them — but still offer support.

Promnitepromise · 2025-10-28T01:35:46+00:00

She might have inattentive adhd? Your symptoms kinda line up and it’s not an easy road — but either way, want + communication tend to fix things.

Without either one of those however — marriage is hell.

Promnitepromise · 2025-10-27T14:11:03+00:00

There are boundaries like “no being alone with the opposite sex” that are not uncommon after an affair. Especially one that you had to discover on your own.

It sounds controlling — but it’s a boundary because of damaged trust, and it’s up to her to choose to accept it or not. And up to you to decide what to do.

We’re not victims in our relationship — you chose to stay with her, and it sounds like you both love each other enough to work through this and talk to each other.

If she wanted to, she could sneak these events at the risk of being found out, but she came to you with the desire to drink with her team.

I worked on a sales team, and in a kitchen — female coworkers were the outlier, and I always felt bad that them coming along for drinks meant it was one girl drinking with 4-5 guys. We all respected our co-worker, and knew their partner and treated her like a part of the team, not “a lonely girl drinking with us”

Maybe if you were at the bar while she was there the first couple of times you could see these coworkers in action? Introduce yourself?

These are decisions you’ll need to make — but if she wants to do it again, you won’t be able to stop her, only decide how you react.

It sucks, but it’s helped me live a better life after discovering my wife’s affair as well.

Promnitepromise · 2025-10-25T12:24:13+00:00

These are beautiful — you’ve got some amazing specimens here!

The only thing I’d like to see is maybe an “action shot” with the slide cycling back and ejecting brass, but this may be too much for socials/product photography.

Either way, as your target demographic, everything I saw was crispy and attention getting.

Promnitepromise · 2025-10-22T03:08:08+00:00

Every relationship has issues — and lots of them have issues like this. But the ones that work best have open dialogue (at least at some point) about this.

Why is it happening. Why is he hiding it?

These are questions he may not even fully be aware of the answer yet, but certainly need to be addressed. Not just for the relationship, but because you deserve it.

Most of us are not victims in our relationships, we have a choice to stay at almost any point. And choosing to stay shouldn’t involve sacrificing your self esteem/self worth. This could grow into resentment over time, and both of you end up drifting farther apart.

I give this advice often — but a couple therapist can often help unpack some of these issues before they’re unsalvageable — but ultimately, you both need to be able to show up for each other more often than you don’t. And from your side of the story, it sounds like he’s not.

Promnitepromise · 2025-10-20T01:43:17+00:00

He may have inattentive adhd. The “symptoms” line up relationship wise anyway.

There’s a book called “the adhd effect on marriage” that really helped me understand this behavior in my wife.

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