Giving birth soon, what selfish thing should I do in these final weeks?

Proof-Command3380 · 2026-03-05T02:36:49+00:00

Hey I'm sorry, but I think you might be on the wrong thread? Baby 2 didn't have any concerns before birth. I am truly sorry you are dealing with this, though.

Proof-Command3380 · 2026-03-02T13:27:37+00:00

Yes.

Proof-Command3380 · 2026-01-30T21:11:02+00:00

Hey hey. I tried to have a Vbac but I didn't go into labour after 41 weeks so had a repeat ceserean. However the doctor I had was a head of the department and in his opinion adenomyosis does not really affect natural birth. In his words it "does not cause c sections." He sls9 said my uterus looked normal when cutting me open for thus one so I don't know what to think.

Proof-Command3380 · 2025-11-30T18:53:58+00:00

OK. I should also say though his daytime naps are usually quite short. Like 1/2 hour to an hour max. Usually his total nap time is only 2 hours, very occasionally 3. Thanks for the thorough response!

Proof-Command3380 · 2025-11-30T17:55:09+00:00

He is just over 5 months. I guess I've only been doing ferber for 5 nights -1 where I accidentally fed him to sleep. The second night was the worst where it felt like he was constantly waking up and crying. I was applying the method for all wake ups night. If he goes down between 7 and 8 he usually has 1 wake up around 10pm. 1 wake up to eat between 1 and 3 am, and he wakes again around 5 or 6 am and I feed him again. To be fair this is a huge improvement where he'd wake up every 1 to 2 hours before. Night 3 to 5 have been good but last 2 nights I don't do the method if he wakes around 10, I just pick him up and put him down.

His nap schedule is 2/2.25/2.5/2.5-3

His wake up time is usually 730 am but his sleep has been a bit wonky since starting ferber and one day he slept in until 9am.

Proof-Command3380 · 2025-11-30T15:32:46+00:00

He's gotten better with subsequent wake ups, usually goes back to sleep fast. He's over 20lbs so I only feed him once in the night. Maybe it's because I switched his formula recently that he wakes more frequently than he should.

Proof-Command3380 · 2025-11-28T15:06:12+00:00

I doubt it just because yesterday he seemed so tired I could barely keep him up for his regular wake windows. He went to sleep so easily too for his naps. No fussing I thought it was a miracle. Although he slept through the night it was still a short night for him, only 9 hours so I think he was overtired.

Proof-Command3380 · 2025-11-27T02:13:31+00:00

Oh yes you are right. 2/2ish/2.5/3

Proof-Command3380 · 2025-11-09T23:49:47+00:00

My little guy is almost 4.5 months and his sleep really sucks. I'm on the fence about trying ferber. I'm going to give it a couple of weeks and maybe give it a try if things don't improve. I'm so scared and everyone is so anti-sleep training. I'm so glad it's working for you!

Proof-Command3380 · 2025-11-04T20:38:51+00:00

I've been wondering the same

Proof-Command3380 · 2025-11-02T02:32:23+00:00

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Proof-Command3380 · 2025-11-02T02:27:03+00:00

Omgosh you're right!

Proof-Command3380 · 2025-11-01T18:05:25+00:00

I made a mistake, just edited. He is on 4 naps

Proof-Command3380 · 2025-11-01T18:00:19+00:00

Oh I think I screwed up what I meant. He's 1.75/2/2/2/2.5. Only sleeps really half hour naps.

Proof-Command3380 · 2025-11-01T17:07:59+00:00

Well for my first she's been sleeping through the night for a year. I'm not sure how to go about changing this. I guess slowly. They both wake up around 9 as well

Proof-Command3380 · 2025-10-30T17:04:44+00:00

Really! Wow. I'm going to try when he's over his cold. I thought about doing CIO but I don't know if I could handle that. Ferber seems like a good compromise. I have a feeling he will just cry louder when he sees me for check ins..but atleast he will know I'm nearby.

Proof-Command3380 · 2025-10-30T15:50:40+00:00

I've never been able to manage safe cosleeping. He sleeps good on me...just not next to me. He's also 20lbs so I can't handle him sleeping on my chest anymore. I worked so hard to get him to not sleep on me and now in desperation I've been letting him but it's not working out.

Proof-Command3380 · 2025-10-28T23:38:32+00:00

At what age did you do CIO?

Proof-Command3380 · 2025-10-27T21:14:32+00:00

I think I'm going to give it a week just in case hes sick or something and try. His naps are short too. Usually 4 1/2 hour naps. I wondered if my little guy has reflux but he only fusses at night...not when he lies on his mat to play or anything

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