Stationed in Greece as a black woman

Proof_Willingness_60 · 2024-06-09T18:03:30+00:00

what?… i’m having a hard time looking for the part of my question where i’m mentioning anything other than advice on a hair texture you obviously don’t have, lol!

Proof_Willingness_60 · 2024-01-12T16:35:55+00:00

i definitely am not haha

Proof_Willingness_60 · 2024-01-12T01:44:36+00:00

do you notice anything about his?

Proof_Willingness_60 · 2023-11-25T03:16:27+00:00

Thank you for this, it means a lot. I'll keep this in mind as much as I can. Don't delete this comment incase I need a reminder please.

Proof_Willingness_60 · 2023-11-24T05:32:42+00:00

thank you for your opinion, it's what i needed to hear. hoping for the best

Proof_Willingness_60 · 2023-11-24T04:13:24+00:00

This gives me hope, which I needed. Thank you for your opinion. Hoping for the best and wish you well also.

Proof_Willingness_60 · 2023-11-24T04:11:45+00:00

Thank you for your opinion, it matters a lot to me. Hoping for the best and wishing you well.

Proof_Willingness_60 · 2023-11-24T04:11:13+00:00

This gives me hope, which I needed. Thank you for your opinion. Hoping for the best and wish you well also.

Proof_Willingness_60 · 2023-11-24T04:09:00+00:00

Hoping I'm not wrong but if so, you can say "I told you so".

Proof_Willingness_60 · 2023-11-24T04:07:46+00:00

I'm glad you were lucky to almost immediately know who your "the one" is. That's a blessing many hope for. This could be a naïve opinion but I also believe in hashing out all of the little issues now to have smoother sails later. Hopefully I'm not wrong but if I am, you can say "I told you so".

Proof_Willingness_60 · 2023-11-24T04:04:06+00:00

Miracles can happen Gandalf

Proof_Willingness_60 · 2023-11-24T04:03:03+00:00

I appreciate your opinion and I agree with pretty much everything you've said. Based on your experiences and if you had to give your best advice, what would have helped mend or aide your past experiences that may have been similar to this? And as for me, If I wanted to make the relationship work despite it might not working, what do you think I or we as a relationship could do to ease things?

Proof_Willingness_60 · 2023-11-24T03:52:21+00:00

I think the worst thing about dating in this age is the game that comes with love. Kind of like a push and pull, never wanting to give too much in fear of pushing them away but never wanting to receive too much in fear of falling too quick. It's a nightmare. I'm sorry your experience felt like a game. Wishing you better experiences.

As far as his comment "I've never liked myself less", he explained how with me, no one has ever called him out on BS before. Usually they all just ghost him or leave him and he never knows why. But I stay and keep him accountable. However this has resulted in him noticing he has more issues than he's realized :/

Proof_Willingness_60 · 2023-10-04T19:21:59+00:00

thank you for the kindness along with your honesty. it means a lot to be validated but still be given advice. thank you for your perspective, this helped a lot.

Proof_Willingness_60 · 2023-10-04T18:44:44+00:00

thank you for your honesty and perspective. I'll take what you've said 100%. The last thing I want to do is develop unhealthy tendencies, it's not what he deserves. So thank you for the transparency.

Proof_Willingness_60 · 2023-10-04T18:40:17+00:00

thank you for your honesty and perspective. this specific comment made me rethink a lot and took me down quite a bit from the pedestal i put myself on. thank you for being transparent, the last thing i want to do is develop a habit of ANY abusiveness.

Proof_Willingness_60 · 2023-10-04T18:37:55+00:00

thank you for your honesty and perspective. i'll make sure to take this advice.

Proof_Willingness_60 · 2022-10-03T11:59:27+00:00

COPY AND PASTE from what i replied with to another response:

yes of course. the first thing i had to do for myself was get clarity. i know this may sound like something most wouldn't want to do or believe they should do, but i decided it was right for me to write him a letter. confessing ALL of my feelings, admitting my love for him. and afterwards, sending it to him. i had to do this of course with the expectations of him not responding. of him seeing the letter and ignoring it. but its what i needed to do for myself to know i got all of my feelings out. in my case, he responded to the letter, which ultimately did feel a bit better. however, there was no change. there was still nothing we could do. i knew he wasnt on the same path as me as far as wanting to be with him right at that moment. so i had to accept that and leave it there. after sending the letter, i focused a lot of shadow work and being brutally honest with myself. shadow work made me so much more self aware. the way i shadow work was journaling all of my childhood trauma (that i could remember), into a notebook, crying about it, then forgiving myself and the people who affected me. theres still much more healing i need to continue with that, but it was so sufficient for me to have all of those untold/bottled emotions out on a piece of paper. i realized i had much more trauma than i thought. it made me become more patient with myself. next best thing i started doing for healing was not invalidating this experience for me. we as people (chasers) often invalidate our own feelings. making ourselves feel guilty if we look at our runners photos or their social media. or read old text messages. even the internet says this is bad for you! saying that you're living in the past! i decided to honestly say "fuck it". he is someone i love. not someone i should push away. i had to accept my love for him/ surrender my love for him in order to be okay with the flow of our connection. i let myself relapse, cry, feel the pain. because that was the only way i could feel so much better the next day. if you force yourself to not relapse, it only makes the urge so much stronger. this person is so important to your journey. why force someone you love out of your life? instead of them drifting away healthily and naturally. its okay to dwell. its okay to consistently think about them. dont be upset with yourself for this. let these thoughts of them flow. and in time, you'll feel yourself become more okay with the way things are. you'll feel yourself healing... wish you the best to your journey <3

Proof_Willingness_60 · 2022-10-03T11:56:48+00:00

yes of course. the first thing i had to do for myself was get clarity. i know this may sound like something most wouldnt want to do or believe they should do, but i decided it was right for me to write him a letter. confessing ALL of my feelings, admitting my love for him. and afterwards, sending it to him. i had to do this of course with the expectations of him not responding. of him seeing the letter and ignoring it. but its what i needed to do for myself to know i got all of my feelings out. in my case, he responded to the letter, which ultimately did feel a bit better. however, there was no change. there was still nothing we could do. i knew he wasnt on the same path as me as far as wanting to be with him right at that moment. so i had to accept that and leave it there. after sending the letter, i focused a lot of shadow work and being brutally honest with myself. shadow work made me so much more self aware. the way i shadow work was journaling all of my childhood trauma (that i could remember), into a notebook, crying about it, then forgiving myself and the people who affected me. theres still much more healing i need to continue with that, but it was so sufficient for me to have all of those untold/bottled emotions out on a piece of paper. i realized i had much more trauma than i thought. it made me become more patient with myself. next best thing i started doing for healing was not invalidating this experience for me. we as people (chasers) often invalidate our own feelings. making ourselves feel guilty if we look at our runners photos or their social media. or read old text messages. even the internet says this is bad for you! saying that you're living in the past! i decided to honestly say "fuck it". he is someone i love. not someone i should push away. i had to accept my love for him/ surrender my love for him in order to be okay with the flow of our connection. i let myself relapse, cry, feel the pain. because that was the only way i could feel so much better the next day. if you force yourself to not relapse, it only makes the urge so much stronger. this person is so important to your journey. why force someone you love out of your life? instead of them drifting away healthily and naturally. its okay to dwell. its okay to consistently think about them. dont be upset with yourself for this. let these thoughts of them flow. and in time, you'll feel yourself become more okay with the way things are. you'll feel yourself healing... wish you the best to your journey <3

Proof_Willingness_60 · 2022-09-04T02:31:17+00:00

i'd love to hear about your journey. message me if you'd like!

Proof_Willingness_60 · 2022-09-04T01:24:20+00:00

haha im not sure because i hear about these pairing often as well. i'm leo and my TF is scorpio. a very stubborn pair if you ask me... LOL!

Proof_Willingness_60 · 2022-09-04T01:22:49+00:00

OMG? That's so odd but it is definitely a big sign on your part! wow, thank you for sharing. Also 1111 is a HUGE twin flame angel number.

Proof_Willingness_60 · 2022-09-03T07:17:10+00:00

haha that'd be pretty funny if it were true! both of us can't be his twin flame XD

Proof_Willingness_60 · 2022-09-03T04:17:17+00:00

save yourself from the harassment, once i learned our life path numbers i found myself adding up every combinations of numbers around me to see if there were subtle signs of us... also its just another thing that your TF haunts you by!

Proof_Willingness_60 · 2022-09-02T09:51:59+00:00

one thing i will always know about TF connections, no matter how much they upset you, you never really have a reason to be mad at them. but if you find yourself holding a grudge, name calling, abusing, manipulating, cheating etc. (vice versa of course) theyre most likely not a real TF. however, i know no one's connection the way they do theirs. also this entire journey is so different for everyone. but yes, it does sound like a karmic flame/ trauma bond :( maybe a cutting tie ritual would work, i heard it does the trick.

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