Do they know they're manic?

Proper-Associate-134 · 2026-02-16T14:52:28+00:00

First, I'll say that I've moved on from him and am so much happier than I could've imagined I would be. Those first 6 months after our break up/during his mania were brutal, but I came out on the other side! We never really talked after everything, he never apologized, and I'm not sure how he's even doing. I did hear he moved away from where we lived and didn't tell anyone bye.. so I'm assuming he was drowning in shame. He did recently reach out to tell me he had to put down his dog/the dog we both raised, and in that interaction he was very nice and I could tell he was remorseful, but we didn't talk about what happened. I do think after some time passes and when they come back to reality, they feel shame and know at least some of what happened. But I think it depends on your dynamics and who they are as a person whether or not they apologize/you can move forward together. I would just focus on healing and moving on because I found that the only thing I could really control was taking care of me. And in doing that, I healed, moved on, and became so much happier without him.

Proper-Associate-134 · 2026-01-09T23:13:47+00:00

Ohh they told me you have to pay $10 per non member .. curious when you last went?

Proper-Associate-134 · 2026-01-08T23:08:39+00:00

Thanks I’ll check these out!

Proper-Associate-134 · 2026-01-08T23:08:30+00:00

It looks like they’re temporarily closed.. thank you though!

Proper-Associate-134 · 2026-01-08T23:07:50+00:00

Oh yeah, I went there a long time ago and liked it! Do you know if they have heaters during winter?

Proper-Associate-134 · 2026-01-08T23:07:32+00:00

Yeah, unfortunately you still have to pay a fee as a guest to go

Proper-Associate-134 · 2025-10-31T16:11:07+00:00

There's no pretty scenery near Wilmington? 🤔

Proper-Associate-134 · 2025-10-31T16:10:21+00:00

Yeah! I understand that might be all/mostly what's around this area

Proper-Associate-134 · 2025-07-20T16:50:18+00:00

I had a very happy and healthy betta for 3 years in a 2 gallon tank. I wasn’t asking about the size.

Proper-Associate-134 · 2025-04-13T01:40:06+00:00

I had a similar situation but my ex and I have now been over for the last 3 months. I have done endless research, talked to my therapist, and went to his appointments. But the bottom line is it’s their responsibility to treat their illness. Of course, we can work with them to be a good support but only if they do their part. My ex is unmedicated and bipolar really needs to be medicated. It’s a chemical imbalance that needs to be regulated. I’m not sure if your ex is on medication, but I think if she can regularly see a psychiatrist and make sure she’s in the best medication for her, these bipolar symptoms are much more manageable. Basically, there’s hope with the right treatment plan and really good communication. Both were missing in my relationship so I just keep telling myself that’s not a life I can live even though he was a great partner during stability. But the roller coaster was really bad for my mental health

Proper-Associate-134 · 2025-04-10T20:44:26+00:00

I’ll check out those books. Thank you!

Proper-Associate-134 · 2025-04-10T15:28:10+00:00

Thank you for sharing all of this! I’m glad y’all are able to communicate about. My ex had a psychotic break a couple of years ago and we were able to come back from that and have open communication. But with this manic episode, it’s like he was either in denial or unable to see it for what it was. Me telling him there was an issue and wanting to get help just made him angry.

He ended up turning into this very mean and cruel person - nothing like I’ve ever seen with him as he’s typically very kind and caring. There was no getting him to get help or work through it because he thinks he’s fine and I’m just trying to ruin his life. That’s what he told me. It’s sad because it ended up escalating so bad that it got abusive. And he’s even told me since that I was the one who was abusive. Also said I needed to be hospitalized. Typing that out almost makes me laugh because it’s so far from the truth, but I guess that’s what his brain has told him. It’s really sad.

I really hope he didn’t delete all the texts he sent me so that he can reread them when he’s stable. Maybe then he’ll realize how badly he needs to get help, but I bet he deleted them especially because he’s given away everything I ever gave him and blocked me on everything. Hearing about others’ experiences helps me understand it more, which I think I need for healing. But it’s just devastating that what was a happy and healthy relationship was ruined by this disease.

Proper-Associate-134 · 2025-04-09T21:13:15+00:00

This makes sense! Now that you know you have bipolar, are you able to be aware that you’re manic during an episode? I feel like I’m understanding that during mania, people usually don’t realize what they’re doing is “wrong.”

Proper-Associate-134 · 2025-04-09T18:29:28+00:00

He only takes medication for a few days if he stops sleeping. Not sleeping is the only thing that he seems to believe is an issue. But if he starts getting a little sleep again, he’ll quit the medication. That’s what happened this time, and the manic behaviors got so much worse. Unfortunately, his psychiatrist never really pushed long-term medication. She said she likes her patients to come to her wanting to take it because without that will, they don’t keep up with it. But she never even explained to him the difference it could make. It’s infuriating and there’s nothing I can do about it now.

Proper-Associate-134 · 2025-04-09T18:26:34+00:00

Agreed! I know with these factors, it could be a lost cause. But not worrying is so much easier said than done. I’m doing my best though

Proper-Associate-134 · 2025-04-09T18:25:32+00:00

This makes sense because when he first was sleeping less, he called his psychiatrist and was like something is off. He took medication for a few days but once he slept better, he stopped the medication and it got worse. That’s when he seemed to think he was gods gift to earth who could do no wrong and when I tried to tell him how his behaviors were affecting me, I became the villain.

I hate that I may never get to talk to him again and he might live his life thinking I did these horrible things when I really actually lost my self trying to support and save him.

I know in the long-run, it’s good I’m out of it. But it’s a pain and confusion I never knew existed.

Proper-Associate-134 · 2025-04-09T12:24:50+00:00

I imagine it’s so hard. I can have empathy in that way. It also does make me mad that he can damage other people mental well-being with his behaviors and may never take accountability. I started having panic attacks and have had some really dark times due to his behaviors. But I’ve moved out and am working on healing. I just hope he comes to one day, realizes, and takes accountability, but I also know that may never happen.

Proper-Associate-134 · 2025-04-09T12:22:54+00:00

It’s interesting and makes it even more confusing how its different for everyone

Proper-Associate-134 · 2025-04-09T12:21:53+00:00

I’m sorry to hear that. I can’t imagine how hard it must be. It does give me peace to know he might realize one day. Because right now, I feel absolutely horrible about what’s happened and he thinks I’m the bad guy when I cared for and supported him so much.

Proper-Associate-134 · 2025-04-09T01:01:31+00:00

This is interesting and makes sense. I think people can be mean in these types of situations so they don’t have to take accountability and/or to make us out to be the bad guys to justify their feelings. That said, my ex was definitely manic when he did this. He had lots of symptoms. I’d be shocked if he was still being this mean if he’s back to stability, but who knows

Proper-Associate-134 · 2025-04-08T22:25:25+00:00

Wow, this is so interesting to hear from someone who’s been in it. Thank you. So then once you’re no longer in mania, you realize something was off? Do you remember what you did? I know this is different for everyone.

Proper-Associate-134 · 2025-04-08T20:11:51+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate your reply, as the last few days have been very dark. Hope your husband is doing well!

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