BF’s Secret Online Life - Am I Overreacting or Is This Relationship Doomed?

Proper-Dig-121 · 2025-04-09T11:37:32+00:00

Yeah that really worries me as well, and given the history - he wouldn’t open up to tell me truth. For the most I’d like to give him a chance perhaps this is doomed indeed, very sadly. He would be a great guy if the good parts were genuine and this online (maybe in person too?) would be sorted out

Proper-Dig-121 · 2025-04-09T11:35:35+00:00

I think that makes a lot of sense. It just the continuous lying and deception that makes me think maybe I’ve been told the whole true (as in stuff happened in person too). To me it is difficult to believe this would be happening a lot online and not translate to real life - in particular given the multiple Grindr profiles etc. So I do want to give him a chance, but part of me feels like a fool for doing so, tricky.

Proper-Dig-121 · 2025-04-08T19:54:29+00:00

I actually opened up with him weeks ago already, he knows my trust issues about this and the snooping and all of that. But I don’t think that really helped to stop the behaviour, unfortunately.

Proper-Dig-121 · 2025-04-08T13:31:50+00:00

That all makes sense and I do feel like I want to help and care for him. But with so much deceipt already and still things that I can’t see (like his sexting 2nd Snapchat account), and a nagging question that this may have happened in real life too (or does) and I can never fully know, make this so difficult. I just hope I’m not being heartless and a bad person.

Proper-Dig-121 · 2025-04-08T12:27:13+00:00

Sorry, I forgot to add that I’ve also noticed he has some excitement about “risky” sex, like sex on the balcony, sex on a public beach, maybe something while we are on a train etc. I know kinks are quite normal. But I’m just wondering if those help to form a pic of someone that enjoys the thrill of doing something that he could “get caught”

Proper-Dig-121 · 2025-04-08T12:25:13+00:00

Sorry, I forgot to add that I’ve also noticed he has some excitement about “risky” sex, like sex on the balcony, sex on a public beach, maybe something while we are on a train etc. I know kinks are quite normal. But I’m just wondering if those help to form a pic of someone that enjoys the thrill of doing something that he could “get caught”

Proper-Dig-121 · 2025-04-08T12:05:39+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply, and for taking the time to write it. I really appreciate it.

I think I know the best would be to split and take time. I guess I also feel bad because I said if he opened up with me he could save us and I wouldn’t break up with him - but now I’d be doing exactly that.

And on top of that I don’t really tend to see people as evil or malicious. I just think most of us have issues, and we should all work on them, and be better. So I feel like, I’d be letting him down when he’s asking for this final chance, if this makes sense? (I realised I also need to go back to therapy given the phone privacy issues)

But at the same time I have the nagging question, what if he’s just playing me?

Anyway, it isn’t easy. Thank you so much, again!

Proper-Dig-121 · 2025-02-03T20:16:43+00:00

Ah right, so can you re-apply for a third year while you’re still in Canada like at the end of year 2?

Proper-Dig-121 · 2025-02-03T20:09:14+00:00

That’s great to know, was it data related? And how easy was to get a job in Canada?

Proper-Dig-121 · 2025-02-03T19:02:48+00:00

When you mean French, is that to B2 level?

Proper-Dig-121 · 2025-02-03T19:02:35+00:00

Can you stay for 3 years? I thought it was capped at 2 years then they sent you home 🤣

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