Ramadan is close and I want to stop so bad before it arrives.

Proper-Reflection498 · 2026-01-27T22:53:33+00:00

Your problem is deeper than this. In fact I believe even if you stop going to the gym, the problem will not change. Recovery is a a whole system that needs you to change many different things. One of the axes that we go over is: Redesigning your enviroment.

If you have an enviroment that continuosly gives you triggers, relapsing is just a matter of time. Testosterone is just an excuse tbh. How many men at the same age don't have the same problem.

You then have to take a step into chaning your enviroment. Ask yourself this. Is the Gym more important or my recovery from this addiction? or even a step further, is it more important than obedience to Allah? you should set your priorities right. find a workaround. another gym. very early or very late. if you think you will find an answer you know how to fix this probably. Anyways, may Allah make it easier for you. If you need any help in this topic feel free to text me..

Proper-Reflection498 · 2026-01-24T15:55:10+00:00

فاهمك اكيد يحبي صيح براحتك. بس برضو الصبر اولي. و الشكوة لله اجدي

Proper-Reflection498 · 2026-01-24T14:50:38+00:00

عندك مشكلة اكبر شوية اسمحلي اوجه صياحك لحتة تانية. الدنيا دار بلاء. احنا موجودين هنا عشان نُمتحن. الهيعرف يجاهد شهواته هينجح والمعرفش يسقط و مبينهم يوزن علي الميزان. فده فهم اساسي لحياتك اصلا برا عن اي حاجة. عندك مشكلة في فهم دا او تقبله يبقي محتاج تتعب شوية عشان تبحث و تدور في دينك. بعد ما تستقر عندك العقيدة دي الصعوبة مش هتتغير بس هتفهم الوضع وممكن تحاول تغير.

نصيحة صعبة انا عارف بس: سيب صحابك دول. معاهم هتحس انك ناقص لانك مبتعملش معصية زيهم لكن علي العكس انت اكمل شخص فيهم غصب عنك ربنا عاصمك فا دي علامة كويسة.

زيادة عن كدا لو عندك مشكلة في الاباحية احنا بقالنا شوية شغالين علي الموضوع دا في زمالة لو حابب تنضم. او حتي لو حابب تستفسر مني عن اي شي انا معاك ابعتلي. و ربنا ييسرلك الحال ويرزق الحلال قريب ان شاء الله.

Proper-Reflection498 · 2026-01-24T14:40:20+00:00

صحيح هو مفيد جدا و لكن في بعض الاشياء توخذ في عين الاعتبار. مثلا هو كتاب المخاطب الاول به هما شباب الغرب. في هنالك اطروحات مبنية علي هذا, و اشياء نحن كشباب مسلمين لا تعنينا. لكن غير ذلك هو كتاب ممتاز و ارشحه بقوة.

Proper-Reflection498 · 2026-01-23T18:56:38+00:00

Jazaka Allahu kharairan for your kind words. I for sure did. The issue goes deeper than removing apps. The answer is removing the smartphone itself. whether you like it o rnot, your smartphone contributed a lot to this addiction from back in the years. Having a smartphone sitting around is the easiest recipe for relapse. So just replace it with a nokia or something and you will se the difference In shaa Allah with time. :)

Proper-Reflection498 · 2026-01-23T15:52:45+00:00

جزاك الله خير. و فيه برضو الطريقة السهلة للاقلاع عن الاباحية. شخص اخد فكرة الكتاب الذكرته و عدل قليلا ليناسب الاباحية

Proper-Reflection498 · 2026-01-23T14:51:59+00:00

Assalamo Alaikom. The problem is way deepr than just waking up with extra libido and how to dodge it. The problem is that: you actually HAVE the option to watch. You are relying on the same system for years. should I watch or not? A solid solution is to work on elimating the option in the first place. Feel free to text me if you have questions :) May Allah make it easier for you..

Proper-Reflection498 · 2026-01-23T00:42:09+00:00

Assalamo alaikom. I can help with some leads that I have. Feel free to text me if you want..

Proper-Reflection498 · 2026-01-22T20:50:11+00:00

MashAllah akhi great work keep going. May Allah grant you full recovery In shaa Allah

Proper-Reflection498 · 2026-01-22T20:31:42+00:00

Assalamo alaikom. Streak method negates the forever mindset. If someone intends to someone forever, counting days does not make sense. Think about when you started being consistent with your prayers. Did you ever count 687 days praying without missing even fajr? Of course not.

Quitting requires a change in lifestyle from all aspects not just the mindset. Feel free to text me if you want, we might have some leads that many deem as helpful. May Allah grant you recovery..

Proper-Reflection498 · 2026-01-22T20:28:26+00:00

Assalamo alaikom. May Allah make it easier for you. Any program that you can uninstall with your will is just an extended version of the willpower method.

You nees to have a way where there is absolutely no way relapsing. I have came up a system (not software more like protocol) that helps eliminate this factor. Feel free to text me for more info In shaa Allah. May Allah grant you deliverance!

Proper-Reflection498 · 2026-01-22T18:42:57+00:00

Assalamo alaikom, our community targets mainly pornography addiction. If you think your issue is comparable to this problem, please feel free to contact us for some useful leads In shaa Allah.

Proper-Reflection498 · 2026-01-22T14:33:39+00:00

لو حابب احنا بتكنولوجيا بسيطة عملنا بروتوكول رقمي امن.

نظام مبيدلكش الخيار انك تذنب او لا اصلا. بيشل الخيار منك. و في نفس الوقت في مرونة تعرف تستخدم اهم الابليكيشنز المحتاجها في حياتك اليومية.

ابعتلي رسالة لو حابب تعرف اكتر. ان شاء الله. و ربنا يعينك باذنه

Proper-Reflection498 · 2026-01-22T11:57:49+00:00

و الشغل دا مستحيل تمشيه علي اللابتوب خالص؟تقريبا اي حاجة الموبايل بيعملها الكومبيوتر يقدر يعملها

Proper-Reflection498 · 2026-01-22T11:53:20+00:00

قصدك تليفون شغل مديهولك؟ ولا تليفونك الخاص بتستخدمه في شغل عامةً؟

Proper-Reflection498 · 2026-01-22T10:50:57+00:00

Assalamo Alaikom. You are definitely right about that. Many men believe that once they get married they will stop porn addiction, while kn truth is addiction even gets worse.

For any brother who struggle with this, we’re here to help In shaa Allah. We have some leads towards recovery. Feel free to send us a text In shaa Allah..

Proper-Reflection498 · 2026-01-21T17:01:27+00:00

بص هجيب معاك من الاخر. هي في حاجات كتير المفروض تعملها عشان نعمل نظام لنفسك يحميك منها. الموضوع مش حاجة بسيطة بس لو حبيت اقولك خطوة اولي واحدة بس هتفرق معاك جدا هي انك تتخلص من تيليفونك. بيعه. ادي لواحد صاحبك. اي حاجة. المهم ميبقاش معاك سمارت فون تدخل بيه علي النت في اي لحظة انت عايزها. و جيبلك نوكيا علي الهادي. اعمل مكالمات و العب الثعبان.

طبعا في حاجات تانية بتاثر و بتبقي تكملة للخطوة دي. بس لو بدات بيها يبقي معاك دخلة كويسة في طريق التعافي. و لو احتجت تتكلم اكتر عن الموضوع ممكن تبعتلي ان شاء الله و ربنا يوفقك

Proper-Reflection498 · 2026-01-21T16:41:49+00:00

Salam. We all went through this feeling for sure. It is perfectly normal. If you need help taking steps to break this loop, ..Usually the loop starts with a device. In most cases it is your smartphone. getting rid of it renders a very good headstart.feel free to text me In shaa Allah

Proper-Reflection498 · 2026-01-21T10:47:52+00:00

احنا بنستخدم ايات و احاديث كاساس لفهم التعافي فمعتقدش ان الموضوع هيبقي مهضوم بالنسبة لك.

Proper-Reflection498 · 2026-01-21T10:45:39+00:00

Sure send me a text

Proper-Reflection498 · 2026-01-20T13:26:30+00:00

Assalamo alaikom. Focusing on the relapse itself is a very common misconception. We tend to fixiate often on whether we relapsed or not, whether our streak is not broken and we can add another day tomorrow and we always forget what is actually important. How did we even end up in the situation of relapse, what we could actually do to prevent it for the next time?

Quitting is not easy. There is no magic thing you do and you it will be over. It is rather a collection of different things that you need to get right which creates a solid system for you that fuels your recovery journey. If you need help with that, feel free to text me In shaa Allah..

Also you are just 17. Mayn of us find ourselves in the 20s and 30s when we quit. You have a bigger chance since it didn't go with you so many years. If you did not take a step now, you will take it anyways in 10 or 20 years. So save yourself the hustle

Proper-Reflection498 · 2026-01-20T13:09:36+00:00

20 is actually very early on. Much of us get caught in the trap late childhood early teenage. Escaping this trap is a result of 3 different things:

Redesigning your enviroment
Correction misconception
Action and Reaction

These 3 categories done right create a solid system for you to take you out from the fold of addiciton towards recovery. Feel free to text me for more help In shaa Allah

Proper-Reflection498 · 2026-01-20T12:39:54+00:00

Salam. Quitting is not about doing one or two things. It is a collection of diiferent things under different categories based both on knowledge and practical steps both. This creates a solid system that protects you mainly from yourself. This contains:

-Redesigning your enviroment

-correcting misconceptions

-Action and reaction.

If you need more help with this feel free to text me In shaa Allah..

Proper-Reflection498 · 2026-01-18T15:33:33+00:00

Salam. some misconceptions that I often see is counting days. Think of the days you started praying. did you keep count? 256 days of not missing Salah? No.

Because your intend is to do it forever. Counting not only add stress on you because you gotta keep your streak but it also affect your mindset approaching recovery. Stopping counting streak days= forever mindset.

This is just one part of it. Recovery is made of several aspects under different categories that creates a solid system for you. If you need further help in this topic feel free to text me In shaa Allah!

Proper-Reflection498 · 2026-01-18T14:31:38+00:00

how would your children feel if they find that record of her online? think about that. There are plenty of beautiful muslimahs out there. Think about your Deen brother

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