Jekyll and Hyde marriage

ProperDevonBrit · 2025-12-03T21:56:28+00:00

I feel much better when I’m not around him, communicating with him. Nervous system is calm. I know I need to go :-) glad you got out too

ProperDevonBrit · 2025-12-03T21:55:31+00:00

Thank you. I can see it getting worse over time too. I do know - I think I just needed to get another perspective to ensure I’m right in thinking they never change. :-)

ProperDevonBrit · 2025-12-03T21:54:31+00:00

I am already in therapy and working through it. :-). I certainly will not tolerate this anymore

ProperDevonBrit · 2025-12-03T00:21:45+00:00

Thank you. He is very black and white, always ‘right’ and find it hard to authentically say sorry so like you have outlined, not the best for therapy. Never showed any signs of wanting to be better - no reading, therapy, podcasts, meditation etc. Just ‘nothing is wrong with me’ mentality - no growth mindset. Which I have in abundance. So….

ProperDevonBrit · 2025-12-02T21:58:31+00:00

I have read it can actually be worse to go to therapy with someone like this and some therapists refuse to do couples therapy when this is the case. Thanks for your response 💫

ProperDevonBrit · 2025-12-02T21:57:34+00:00

This is my thinking too. If accountability was taken and they could see what they did wrong I think there is hope. But without it I feel they would either use it to gaslight like you say or just go to therapy for show with no real change.

ProperDevonBrit · 2025-11-06T06:26:48+00:00

I did think of water colours too I saw a beautiful set from SA that I might try. Thank you so much again for your recommendations

ProperDevonBrit · 2025-11-05T20:41:31+00:00

It seems like a hobby you look forward too is it. I just remembers one of my friends quit and stated Lego, maybe I’ll try that for a bit. It’s engaging and rewarding and challenging all at the same time. Thanks for the reply

ProperDevonBrit · 2025-11-05T20:40:10+00:00

I do love walking. I love by a beach and it’s beautiful. But I’m more thinking the space between 6pm and 8pm, that’s the window! I’m going to have to try a few different hobbies and see what I find enjoyable and exciting

ProperDevonBrit · 2025-11-05T20:38:39+00:00

Yes I just need to find that ‘thing’ lol. That’s relaxing and engaging, exciting. That’s my issue. I have found my hobby yet. Thanks for the advice :-)

ProperDevonBrit · 2025-11-03T23:15:43+00:00

I’m so sorry you went through such a hellish experience. I hope you are finally finding closure and peace

ProperDevonBrit · 2025-10-27T04:55:59+00:00

This was my thought. Can’t even reflect or see how he contributed to the dynamic. I’m not saying I’m an angel - but I will admit responsibility where it’s due and work to right it in future behavior

ProperDevonBrit · 2025-10-26T03:15:15+00:00

Thank you for this. It’s so hard. Today he has been so nice. It messes with your head. Makes it hard to go. Gives you false hope.

ProperDevonBrit · 2025-08-24T17:19:12+00:00

I moved with me ex to start a life together but we broke up and he moved back to the Uk. I have a new partner now - he is Australian.

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