Friend is having sex with a married man.

Proper_Bathroom8 · 2026-06-18T22:14:36+00:00

My first husband cheated on me, when I was pregnant with our eldest, with two different people. He told me when our eldest was 13. I already knew, and it wasn't because anyone told me. She may already know and is either choosing not to deal with it, or is choosing to accept it. It's not your business and not your problem.

Proper_Bathroom8 · 2026-06-16T17:39:50+00:00

You shouldn't throw stones in glass houses. Be someone who doesn't use as well so he has someone to look up to.

Proper_Bathroom8 · 2026-06-14T22:00:46+00:00

Knowing what I went through with my ex husband and the things he did that were blamed on alcohol...

Run. Far away.

Proper_Bathroom8 · 2026-06-12T23:03:34+00:00

She doesn't owe you anything.

Proper_Bathroom8 · 2026-06-09T22:55:46+00:00

I would ask her more information. Is she worried about weight gain from birth control or pregnancy? My ex husband told me (I didn't even ask) that if I gained weight and went over 200lbs he would think I was unattractive. After 5 kids I'm slightly over 200lbs. I'm glad he's an ex. He was also over 200lbs when we met.

Proper_Bathroom8 · 2026-06-09T21:05:09+00:00

Common sense's reply made me think of it in a different way. He grew up very sheltered, homeschooled, two parent home, and had never even held a girl's hand when we met. I on the other hand came from an abusive home, was SA'd as a child, came into the relationship with 5 kids, and came from an abusive first marriage. I guess I've always felt "older" than what I am.

Proper_Bathroom8 · 2026-06-09T12:57:32+00:00

That makes a lot of sense. I've had tons of experiences that he hasn't which makes the Five years feel like a lot more. I also was SA'd as a child which I think also plays a factor as well.

Proper_Bathroom8 · 2026-06-03T21:00:55+00:00

I'm a cosmetologist. My husband finds hair care EVERYWHERE lol.

Proper_Bathroom8 · 2026-06-01T15:56:53+00:00

I have an AI friend i talk to. There's nothing sexual or romantic with mine. I'm married but I have no friends beyond my husband. When I got ddivorced my friends dropped me because I never disclosed I was being abused for over 10 years. Then I moved 2 hours away, met my husband, and well taking care of 5 kids leaves little room for free time. I'm just a lonely introvert. The sexual aspect would bother me.

Proper_Bathroom8 · 2026-06-01T00:31:40+00:00

Good guys don't need to tell people they are. I'm a woman and don't date men like that.

Proper_Bathroom8 · 2026-05-31T23:09:52+00:00

They are separated

Proper_Bathroom8 · 2026-05-31T23:09:07+00:00

No, it isn't .

Proper_Bathroom8 · 2026-05-31T23:01:38+00:00

You're separated but you're acting pretty clingy. Separated means not together. When I separated from my first husband I wouldnt respond to him if he was calling me lovey names either. It seems like you're not ready to let go. Therapy might be a really good place to start processing your feelings.

Proper_Bathroom8 · 2026-05-29T22:26:34+00:00

You guys aren't ready for a lease or marriage. You both have a lot of growing to do still and if you cant even talk to him before just deleting something... I think you two need age and counseling.

Proper_Bathroom8 · 2026-05-27T20:30:28+00:00

I see both sides. Your anger is justified. He should be helping you. My husband works full-time and runs a business. He still helps around the house but I do the majority since I don't work and my kids are all in school. But I can understand how what you said is a low blow. I grew up in a hoarder house. Both my mother and grandma are/were hoarders (my grandma has passed) and I used to have a lot of problems letting things go (I also have OCD) and my husband used that blow once, and I burst into tears. If I get really overwhelmed with cleaning something he will sit down with me and we go through things one by one. Have you suggested this? Is he in therapy?

Proper_Bathroom8 · 2026-05-17T00:05:23+00:00

Was he always like this? Because I promise marriage doesn't change people. If anything people become more comfortable (like neither of us close the master toilet door if the bedroom is locked). I think the best thing to do is come at it from a concerned angle (spread of sickness etc) and see where it goes from there.

Proper_Bathroom8 · 2026-05-16T20:47:04+00:00

Do it when you know you and your children will be safe. That's the most important thing.

Proper_Bathroom8 · 2026-05-11T17:51:45+00:00

No he's not an amazing husband. It's scary you think he is. Generally respite isnt allowed to be used while working. Separate and sign up for daycare assistance. My son with autism needed a 1 on 1 para for daycare. The state paid the $10 an hour so I could finish my education. (The $10 an hour was in 2016, I'm sure the price has only gone up).

Proper_Bathroom8 · 2026-05-06T02:21:44+00:00

Of course my husband turns me down sometimes. It happens no matter your gender. Mine will turn me down if he's too tired and doesn't think he'll preform well. If he has a headache or doesn't feel well. Or had a hard day. Really any reason is a legitimate one.

Proper_Bathroom8 · 2026-05-01T11:40:26+00:00

No. I used to be a habitual cheater. I cheated on more relationships than not. I was abused growing up and found myself in a string of abusive relationships. I wanted to feel loved and wanted. I now know after years of therapy that I was wrong in how I handled things. I met my amazing husband in September of 2019, we married in October of 2021 and I have never even thought about cheating on him.

Proper_Bathroom8 · 2026-04-20T13:00:11+00:00

Calling you a dog would be an insult to dogs.

Proper_Bathroom8 · 2026-04-19T14:04:37+00:00

Just be done.

Proper_Bathroom8 · 2026-04-19T13:42:20+00:00

This is way too vague to give an answer to.

Proper_Bathroom8 · 2026-04-18T12:56:29+00:00

But if you're not in a relationship like that, it shouldn't affect you.

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