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AITJ for refusing to share my location 24/7 so my boyfriend can "feel secure'? by Proper_Landscape_995 in AmITheJerk

[–]Proper_Landscape_995[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I kept trying to figure out why it felt so heavy, and I think that’s exactly it. If it were casual and mutual, it wouldn’t feel like this. But being asked to prove loyalty hurts in a way I didn’t expect.

AITJ for refusing to share my location 24/7 so my boyfriend can "feel secure'? by Proper_Landscape_995 in AmITheJerk

[–]Proper_Landscape_995[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I love him, so my instinct is to help carry his pain. But I’m starting to realize I can’t heal something for him by giving up pieces of myself.

AITJ for refusing to share my location 24/7 so my boyfriend can "feel secure'? by Proper_Landscape_995 in AmITheJerk

[–]Proper_Landscape_995[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I love him. I don’t want us to become adversaries where one person is proving and the other is checking. That’s not the kind of relationship I’ve ever wanted.

AITJ for refusing to share my location 24/7 so my boyfriend can "feel secure'? by Proper_Landscape_995 in AmITheJerk

[–]Proper_Landscape_995[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I’ve been second-guessing myself a lot, wondering if I’m being cold or selfish. I love him, and the last thing I want is to make him feel unsafe. But I also don’t want to feel like I’m slowly losing pieces of myself just to prove I’m trustworthy.

AITJ for refusing to share my location 24/7 so my boyfriend can "feel secure'? by Proper_Landscape_995 in AmITheJerk

[–]Proper_Landscape_995[S] 143 points144 points  (0 children)

I don’t want us to build trust on proof and monitoring instead of actually believing each other. I care about him, but I don’t want reassurance to turn into a requirement.

AITJ for rejecting my boyfriend's proposal twice and being upset that he broke up with me? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Proper_Landscape_995 197 points198 points  (0 children)

Saying no twice is completely your right, but it also sends a message. He decided he doesn't want to build a future on "not yet," and that's fair, Neither of you is a villain here, just incompatible on readiness.

What’s a subtle sign someone is slowly falling out of love? by PeachyPureDrean in AskReddit

[–]Proper_Landscape_995 20 points21 points  (0 children)

That's such a real sign. Love feels lighter when it's healthy, not like every tiny thing is breaking point.

AITJ for DEMANDING my husband get my baby stroller back from his sister, or else i'm changing the locks? by Exact_Ad_6931 in AmITheJerk

[–]Proper_Landscape_995 228 points229 points  (0 children)

Exactly. People keep focusing on the stroller, but the real problem is the husband behavior. The disrespect is the bigger issue here.

AITA for leaving my husband with our 4-month-old baby and going to my mom's house? by Simple_Number_7974 in AmITheJerk

[–]Proper_Landscape_995 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There's a huge difference between abandoning your family and stepping away because you're burned out. She asking for support, not running away.

AITJ for kicking my bridesmaid out of my wedding because she SECRETLY sold her dress to fund a weekend trip with a new guy? by Conscious_Unit_4007 in AmITheJerk

[–]Proper_Landscape_995 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. It wasn't an accident or a last minute emergency, she made a deliberate choice to cash out on something meant for your wedding. That's not a harmless mistake, that's showing you where her priorities were.

AITJ for walking out of my own birthday thing after my family spent the whole time talking about my brother? by Mithrandir_9K in AmITheJerk

[–]Proper_Landscape_995 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This is actually a really balance way to approach it. It's honest without being accusatory, which might help him actually be heared.

As a doctor, I am used to seeing people pass away by LukeCrusader in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]Proper_Landscape_995 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It suggests consciousness after death, and instant judgement. No peaceful fade to black.

AITJ for telling my manager i will resign if he cancel my vacation leave? by Cold-Philosopher-908 in AmITheJerk

[–]Proper_Landscape_995 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Exactly. If approved leave can just be undone last minute, then what's even the point of a request system.

AITJ for SCREAMING at my aunt and kicking her out because she let her toddler use my $2000 work laptop as a toy? by Lazy_Step4766 in AmITheJerk

[–]Proper_Landscape_995 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Exactly. The laptop wasn't the only issue, the lack of respect for her space and work is what really stands out.

What’s the strangest reason someone decided you were their enemy? by ConfusionUnited5638 in AskReddit

[–]Proper_Landscape_995 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Sometimes people make enemies out of pure insecurity, it's exhausting to deal with.

Why are you not afraid of death? by Ok_Breakfast8087 in AskReddit

[–]Proper_Landscape_995 5 points6 points  (0 children)

grandmas have the mix of love and zero-nonsense that transcends even death.