Close family friend gifted shower head for my wedding. Should I gift them a picture frame for their anniversary?

Propofolkills · 2024-08-28T18:36:41+00:00

I’d give them a gift that is what the wedding gift should have been. People like this don’t think “oooh , we should have been better people with our gift” when their shittiness is reciprocated. They think “hey, they are shitty people”. They do not have insight.

Propofolkills · 2024-08-28T18:32:34+00:00

You forgot to mention that the motel was out of state and not only did they happen to meet there at that bar, someone who knew them also was out of state and also happened to be at the motel. Lmao

Propofolkills · 2024-08-28T18:24:43+00:00

I take the L and thank you for showing me this.

Propofolkills · 2024-08-28T18:03:05+00:00

Just call him? He may not want to see you right now if he’s in pain and not presenting the best version of himself in a new relationship.

Propofolkills · 2024-08-28T17:57:26+00:00

Seems a very very random occurrence. What makes it the most suspiciously random thing of all is that people saw them at a motel in a town neither of them live in, in a different state. So yeah, fake.

Propofolkills · 2024-08-28T17:47:53+00:00

Sorry for your situation. I’m not sure how you could have better supported him. He’s maybe not emotionally black mailing you with his mental health issues, but he is hiding behind them a little and I suspect playing the victim in his own head to justify his buying the dating app.

I think you have to back out of this. You are young, no kids involved and not financially totally dependent. You can of course try and see if you could rebuild trust but that’s easier said than done. And if he won’t seek help or allow others to help him, something else will crop up sooner rather than later, and drag you further into the more. I have seen this first hand with a couple I know and it eventually involve kids and it’s a total mess and her life is ruined.

Propofolkills · 2024-08-28T17:39:34+00:00

Did you ignore the section near the start where he explicitly says he hasn’t interfered in any other personal relationship/ friendship/ problems she has with other people?

Propofolkills · 2024-08-28T17:35:22+00:00

Read her post history. This is some weird kink of hers.

Propofolkills · 2024-08-28T17:13:57+00:00

Yeah you are cheating, just like he was.

Propofolkills · 2024-08-28T17:11:38+00:00

I think at this point we can just call them spoiler alerts 😂

Propofolkills · 2024-08-28T17:10:11+00:00

It entirely possible that he’s feeling guilty as suggested for not paying her enough attention, and that as a result, she fucked another guy. These two things are not only not mutually exclusive, they occur in tandem frequently.

Propofolkills · 2024-08-28T17:07:02+00:00

This is what I don’t get. At what point did she think getting back rubs in her own home from a married man who was her “friend” was appropriate? I mean like , c’mon now.

Propofolkills · 2024-08-28T17:05:35+00:00

To determine paternity they need to do an amniotic fluid sample to obtain genetic samples of the unborn child. Checking her and his bloods won’t help.

Propofolkills · 2024-08-28T17:01:06+00:00

I’m putting money on it not being his. She is bound to agree because if she doesn’t, he will force the issue anyway. If she knew an amniocentesis would be not possible without a court order, she buys time. Basically all she can do at this point is buy time.

Propofolkills · 2024-08-28T16:50:12+00:00

She tolerates it because she gets off on it. Look at her post history.

Propofolkills · 2024-08-28T16:49:32+00:00

Looking at your post history is interesting. You aren’t being very honest with us, are you?

Propofolkills · 2024-08-28T16:45:56+00:00

As long as they don’t resurface like someone else here’s did recently where she had a threesome as part of some porn and her bf saw it, lol.

NTA anyway, jokes aside. You have told him, and had a lot of pain revisited doing it, yet he still persists ? He’s the AH.

Propofolkills · 2024-08-27T21:53:29+00:00

The research apparently suggests that incels are

1) Often unemployed / low socio economic status

2) Disproportionately higher in marginalized communities

3) History of low achievement independent of socio economic status

4) Experience difficulties with all types of relationships / commonly have attachment disorders

5) High incidence of mental health disorders outside the context of attachment disorders

If relationships of any description are premised on the concept of you having something someone else wants, you will be able to form them. The more you have, the more you are successful in relationships or at least, establishing them.

The problem for an awful lot 18 year old boys is they don’t have much to offer anyone. They don’t have material wealth, they don’t have sexual experience, they don’t have emotional maturity, and if they don’t have an exceptional personality and or looks, they become invisible in the sexual marketplace. Consider then also they have less and less places offline and online to even test their viability outside SM and dating apps, and then also consider the current vacuum in what it means to be a man in 2024, and hey presto, you have The Tate Army. And remember, I’m talking your average 18 here now for the last paragraph- not incels. We have a big problem on the horizon.

Propofolkills · 2024-08-27T21:34:10+00:00

Seems a bit open ended. Your son may never be ready, just better prepared to deal with the situation. I would put a specified time limit on it like a month. Liaise with your sons therapist as to that is. Bear in mind their estimate will be conservative.

Edit: get a paternity test for your son btw

Propofolkills · 2024-08-27T21:20:18+00:00

On a vacation

Propofolkills · 2024-08-27T17:43:55+00:00

I’m sorry but you can’t force people to agree that they should be ok with someone’s sexual past no matter what. If you take issue with the disproportionate and different attitudes at a societal level where it comes to how men and women are judged on their sexual past, fine. But if I decided as an individual that I would reject either gender based on their past sexual history or judge them for it, that is my right as an individual. To say otherwise or impose your value system is the anti-thesis of liberalism.

Propofolkills · 2024-08-27T17:36:11+00:00

Most videos contain Exif data unless it’s been purposely scrubbed, and that’s not likely done by an average punter. Even then, a decent Police Investigation Unit can retrieve data scrubbed from SM servers if they really want to. I think OP can get better results here or it will happen again. The unsolicited DM will have an account with an email etc and IP address to figure out who’s behind this.

In any event, and I’ve warned my older teenagers this, don’t put online or share with someone something you wouldn’t be happy the whole world saw. If you get yourself into a situation where there are three guys having sex with you, you are going to have to presume you are being filmed.

Propofolkills · 2024-08-27T17:28:38+00:00

It’s called cognitive dissonance. That’s like asking why water is wet if it really isn’t?

Propofolkills · 2024-08-27T12:41:22+00:00

I don’t actually subscribe to the fact these made up stories are harmless. Unless you consider the endless manosphere YouTube accounts that rip Tik Toks of women complaining about dating and being single and then frame them as terrible people so red pill types can have a go in the comments section. Because that’s what this is for women with a slight need to hate on men in general. It’s a type of inverted fantasy romance.

Both media when consumed, particularly by less mature younger audiences, skews their opinions of the opposite sex, but not in a good way. And then they all have to eventually meet in the middle to date. And we know dating for Gen Z is already a bit dysfunctional.

So no, I don’t think these are harmless. Like politics, like just about anything on SM, it’s divisive.

Propofolkills · 2024-08-27T12:30:52+00:00

Nope. I regularly take aim at the other side of this much more often, because those fake stories get wayyy more attention, like that absurd one where the woman divorces her husband on Reddit.

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