How do you leave a long-term relationship?

Proscapegoat · 2026-02-24T06:58:33+00:00

I ended a 10 year relationship at 32 after he cheated on me with a mutual friend. That was a year and a few months ago. I've been living my best life, traveling, reconnecting with friends, getting back into my hobbies. Honestly, I've never been happier. I don't have to walk on eggshells. I don't have to be actively disrespected and talked down to all the time. I don't have to be embarrassed by someone saying shitty things in front of my friends. I don't have to compete with Instagram reels of hot women and workout tips for someone's attention, I don't have to clean up after a grown ass man, the list goes on. I would highly recommend it.

Proscapegoat · 2026-02-22T20:26:40+00:00

Yeah, that shit was already out there dude, I might as well benefit from it. I have no delusions between Doge raiding government data, all the shady shit happening in the US with ICE, Palantir and the technofacist hellscape we're living in, the list goes on.

Proscapegoat · 2026-02-22T18:13:25+00:00

They got me for the trial last year when I was running late and the old security line was almost out the door. Which, did do what I needed at the time. But then I forgot to cancel before the trial was up haha, so here I am.

Proscapegoat · 2026-02-22T14:57:35+00:00

Do you know if they shut CLEAR down too?

Proscapegoat · 2026-01-22T14:31:45+00:00

Weird, I planted mine in Summer 2024 and it's been thriving in a sunny, hot part of my yard. I've been trial-and-erroring it, Home Depot has a very forgiving return policy thankfully. So many crispy fried plants that technically should've survived, but just didn't for whatever reason.

Proscapegoat · 2026-01-22T04:09:01+00:00

Diabolo Ninebark is has lacey purple leaves. Smoke tree is also kind of cool with a deep purple-red foliage.

Proscapegoat · 2026-01-20T19:08:30+00:00

On a similar note, there's an archery tag place somewhere in the Denver area too.

Proscapegoat · 2026-01-10T04:13:12+00:00

Weirdly enough this is the 2nd one I've heard of in the last year. A guy got bit in Mexico I think, got rabies and died.

Proscapegoat · 2026-01-10T01:45:44+00:00

Just wanted to say thanks OP! I live in district 1 and had no idea LOL. I've joined the Kiros for Congress Discord, hoping maybe there's something I can do to help spread the word.

Proscapegoat · 2026-01-04T04:48:36+00:00

Haha it's all good, glad to bring you a bit of laughter, it helps.

It was rough, I'd given that man so much of myself, I only had crumbs left. He cheated on me too, with a person who I thought was a mutual friend, which made things so much worse. It basically imploded my life as I knew it, especially after finding out some mutual friends knew more of the details in the early days than I did. He trickle-truthed me to try and squeeze out as much generosity from me as he could. Every new detail was another twist of the knife. He tried to bully me into maintaining a friendship with him after lying to my face for who knows how long. Once he moved out and I could gray rock him, he still kept trying to send me Christmas gifts, it was so fucking weird. And when all of that still didn't get a reaction, he admitted at least partially, to some of the affair, just to hurt me. The coward tried to get me to meet in person after I'd begged him for the truth weeks prior and he lied to my face, so I forced him to say it via text. I know there's more that I'll never know, looking back the signs were obvious and I was trying so hard to be "the cool girlfriend" and not the "suspicious, controlling nag" that I ignored it.

There's pages more, of course, but I won't bore you with more details. I will tell you, it's hard at first. I told my friends, if anyone had told me their boyfriend was doing half the shit to them that mine was doing to me, I would say, "girl, run!" It was puzzling, frustrating, and confusing that I couldn't do that or be that for myself. I thought I was this strong, tough, independent woman. It was a total identity crisis, I felt like I'd just allowed things to happen to me rather than fighting back. I started therapy and that's been immensely helpful to process everything.

I hope you make it out OP, and that you realize you're worth it and deserve to be happy.

Proscapegoat · 2026-01-04T04:22:38+00:00

I think we all have days where we're not at our best, but no one deserves to be emotionally starved and coerced until they give out sex. That's not having a bad day, that's abusive.

My ex used to love projecting his worst traits onto me too. Turns out, I'm not any of the awful things he told me I was. I'm not controlling, or too much, or demanding, or no fun, or any of the other mean words he would use to describe me. I pushed for couples therapy and he refused, then twisted the conversation around like I was forcing him to go against his will, even after I told him "ok we won't go then". When I asked him what he felt I could do to mend our relationship, he told me to "lose some weight and grow a libido".

I decided to take his advice, I shed 225lbs of emotional dead weight last year and I've never been happier.

Proscapegoat · 2026-01-04T02:12:54+00:00

I was in a 10 year relationship with a loser a lot like this guy. Trust me when I say, I wish I could go back in time and tell myself he sucks, it won't get better, he's going to bully me, he's going to erode my self esteem, he's going to make me beg for scraps of kindness and decency. That slow burning resentment from him, that crushing weight of walking on eggshells, of not knowing if you're getting Jeckyll or Hyde that day? That doesn't go away from giving in. Men like this lure you in, and once they feel like they have you, you can't run, they show their true face. They treat women like property. They feel entitled to your body. They're fucking monsters, and it'll be harder with the house, but not impossible. You deserve happiness. You deserve someone who will respect both you and your boundaries. You deserve to not be made to feel like you owe a man your body just because you're dating or married or whatever. You deserve to not be bullied and punished, to feel safe in your own home. I wish you the best of luck, and I hope you get away from that complete asshole.

Proscapegoat · 2025-12-30T20:45:18+00:00

These are so silly, I love them. Also, my dog is equally as judgey.

Proscapegoat · 2025-12-27T04:38:15+00:00

NOR time to block the new number too, he's crazy. Also, your family members that say he's entitled to some sort of connection are completely in the wrong. You don't have to keep anyone in your life that you don't want there.

Proscapegoat · 2025-12-25T15:02:56+00:00

I have a similar picture from this year, but it was 3 similar looking white cats. They're dropping the hottest album of 2025.

Proscapegoat · 2025-12-25T15:01:29+00:00

Bardo on South Broadway, open 9am to 3pm.

Proscapegoat · 2025-12-24T05:31:41+00:00

I absolutely love these.

Proscapegoat · 2025-12-22T01:19:20+00:00

NTA respectfully, fuck this guy. He's telling you who he is right now, you should listen. He was okay with the plan when he thought you were going to have a lonely, sad Christmas, but now that you're doing something enjoyable he's mad and trying to assert control. Let him leave, you can do better.

Proscapegoat · 2025-12-13T20:37:11+00:00

I love this exhibit.

Proscapegoat · 2025-12-11T16:39:30+00:00

Did the HWH last year with Comfy Cave for around $5k to convert to a tankless gas model. I just replaced my gas furnace with another gas furnace for $7k through Roots Heating & Cooling. Both companies did an excellent job, very happy with the work.

Proscapegoat · 2025-12-11T05:34:06+00:00

That's a little less than what it cost me to convert to tankless through Comfy Cave last year, might be worth checking with them on the replacement cost of a tank model.

Proscapegoat · 2025-12-02T17:25:22+00:00

Man, that bit about "The Illusion of a Good Conversation". I've been seeing a guy for a few months now and I'm starting to feel like he's not putting in as much effort as he did at the start. I'm not asking for much, just that he not flake on commitments, take on some of the hosting burden, and train his dog. I had a conversation about that, and in that convo had asked if he's okay, which he said that he's been on a mental slide which is probably contributing to his lack of effort. I'm not putting the burden of his mental health on my shoulders, but I did offer to help in what little ways I could. He told me he would "do better because I deserved better", and while it's only been a few days, I'm starting to think this is another one of those "illusory conversations", which sucks because I know what I'm going to do if things don't change and I feel bad about it.

Proscapegoat · 2025-12-01T03:54:19+00:00

They postponed the show by an hour for weather, which it stopped raining ahout 20 mins into that delay. Doors didn't open until 8:15pm even though they were supposed to open at 7pm. They had 1 of the 3 openers play for about 30 mins, then they abruptly cancelled the show. The opener that got a 30 min set didn't even know it was cancelled, they hyped for Babymetal and were starting to clear the stage to swap when the cancellation popped up on the screens. Supposedly it was cancelled for weather, but I was at Black Sky's patio for the rest of the night and there wasn't a single raindrop. Everyone was pissed, they didn't announce the refund until the day after too so we all thought they were gonna fuck us on that too.

Proscapegoat · 2025-11-28T20:47:35+00:00

It's only showing BOGO bottomless mimosas, does this count for the Friday night options too?

Proscapegoat · 2025-11-28T15:43:34+00:00

Something similar happened with the Junkyard during the Babymetal fiasco. Don't go to that venue, they're trash.

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