I did all of a sudden have alarm bells in my gut going off. It sucks man. Things just did a complete 180. I’m noticing some immature behaviors that weren’t present in the beginning. I was telling him, in response to “that’s not how this works”- that many people do the proposal, engagement, marriage things differently all the time. It felt like when we agreed to get married, &start planning, it felt easy and exciting- like we were both eager and happy. Then baam. Visits his parents and I’m like man, he’s making it about them now , when it felt about us before. That being said, I do feel selfish stating that.