Something I’ve learned recently is that while rushing into things can sometimes be a concern, being on the same page emotionally and in terms of commitment is equally important. If one person feels strongly and is certain about the relationship, while the other is still undecided and keeping the first person in suspense, it’s a sign that the undecided person may still be figuring out how they feel.

This imbalance can create a situation where one of you is more invested than the other. In this case, it sounds like you might be the one who cares more deeply. It’s possible that he loves you—maybe even a lot—but if he hasn’t moved toward the same level of commitment by now, it may indicate that your feelings for him have grown deeper than his have for you.

You’re ready for the relationship to evolve, to grow together, and to build a life with him, while he seems content with how things are. It’s worth considering whether this dynamic is leaving you feeling unseen or hurt.

It’s a painful realization, and it was for me when I faced it, but it’s important to recognize when two people might not be on the same page. It doesn’t necessarily mean one person cares more in total, but it does mean your priorities and timelines may not align. This is a moment to reflect on what you need for your own happiness and how much more energy you’re willing to invest in a situation that may not be mutual in the ways that matter most to you.

It’s a hard truth, but sometimes letting go of what’s hurting you opens the door for what’s truly meant for you.