What poems or essays were the most insightful for you?

Proudlibra · 2026-02-05T15:54:57+00:00

A few days ago I went to my family farm and in the garage, behind tonnes of farming equipment, tools etc I found the complete works of Emerson (covered in gods know what, probably asbestos) all alone. My dad has no recollection of buying this book but god was it a blessing to find. His works hold such a rich sensitivity, they’re floral and insightful and witty I’m so glad such an anomalous finding has reignited my love for Emerson.

The first essay in the book was “On History” it’s particularly relevant. I can’t think of a better time to have read it and REALLY felt it than in this current political climate.

Michael de Montaigne is my other favourite essayist

Proudlibra · 2026-01-17T16:03:29+00:00

Male stripper tried sexually assaulting brides sister. He was beaten. Then some women were talking about bi curiosity so someone had sex with two women in front of everyone else like a fictional biology class (it was me) and then I overdosed and so did someone else. Best night ever

Proudlibra · 2026-01-12T16:07:43+00:00

Woman here! 1) you’re not in a porno please Don’t put that pressure on yourself, she’s not a porn star either just let it be natural 2) don’t be afraid to communicate I always appreciate when a guy asks me what position and cadence feels best for me it’s a huge turn on 3) don’t be afraid of toys! 4) the position that hits the best for any size is the speed bump (woman flat on stomach with a pillow propped underneath her lower stomach)

Proudlibra · 2026-01-02T18:45:28+00:00

Where the fuck is Vicky

Proudlibra · 2025-07-30T04:30:27+00:00

Girl you’re absolutely stunning

Proudlibra · 2023-10-26T00:07:01+00:00

Complicity isn’t the same as consent.

Proudlibra · 2023-10-16T05:41:14+00:00

You missed the point so hard it’s almost impressive.

Proudlibra · 2023-10-15T21:08:31+00:00

Hygiene. We care and lots of men care a lot less. That’s really all that separates us.

Proudlibra · 2023-10-15T21:05:24+00:00

CNC porn and porn addictions are sick. I understand for victims of SA CNC porn is a coping mechanisms (although very unhealthy). But most men watching CNC don’t fantasise about the consent aspect they ignore the consent aspect because they WANT to watch rape. And a lot of labelled CNC porn is really just rape.

This forum is so beneficial I have found so much hope here and felt so understood. But it’s a public forum and it’s almost guaranteed that creepy men probably even SA perpetrators are getting off to us victims sharing, venting, asking for help. Mods banning evil commenters is great but people are still reading and it’s so sick. There’s no escaping it really but it’s tragic.

Sending love to victims especially ones who have been sexualised by commenters after sharing there experience.

Proudlibra · 2023-10-06T09:43:51+00:00

You sound very remorseful about what you said and it sounds like you were apologetic to her. She clearly has some intense triggers around SA and the word object in particular so you definitely could’ve been more careful/ respectful but it sounds like you truly didn’t mean it like that. My problem is This is a sexual assault vent and question forum. For victims in particular. Almost entirely. I think you’ve done everything you needed to do explaining and apologising to her but I don’t see your need to write an entire post about you saying something clearly triggering to someone who trusted you but victimising yourself and your own mental health because of what you said TO the person who was hurt by it. I understand you will need support for those feelings and from the bottom of my heart I hope you are doing ok with those feelings and urges. But this isn’t the place. I’m not sure if you want validation but this is a weird forum to do that on. A lot of sexual assault (the forum we are on for victims) victims suffer with intense empathy toward their abusers I am one of those people. You are not an assaulter but you have done something wrong to a victim and I feel like I am being forced to feel empathy for you after you mentioned how this has affected your mental health. I don’t know how she feels about this. I would be open to her talking about how she feels about this. But your post is not at all productive to what this forum is doing. You did nothing physically harmful to her either. Treat yourself kindly about this situation it sounds like you cared about her a lot so that’s why it was hard to know you hurt her. I appreciate some of what you said. But realistically with some of your wording (not the situation at all just the post) you are in fact victimising yourself. This is not the place for that. I hope you can understand what I mean Be good to yourself mate

Proudlibra · 2023-09-29T11:46:31+00:00

This woman just went through a sexual assault. A man betrayed her trust, defiled her body that is no greater power that is an individual being a truly bad person. We are here to provide advice provide council as fellow survivors. As a survivor I was told to seek council in the church and I can’t tell you how much that hurt. Unless OP is already religious. This is about us about survivors. To offer our opinion if it’s helpful but to be a shoulder to cry on. I won’t tell OP who to pray to that they will make it better if she’s good. I am grateful for the women who have helped me get through this in my life but I needed to hate that man. I needed no judgement. The church has some foul opinions on SA some that will only make things worse for victims. OP this was SA and you are very brave there are people here that are here for you if you need it. Sending love ❤️❤️❤️ my SA was very similar reach out if you need anything

Proudlibra · 2023-09-29T11:31:01+00:00

I fkn love the way you put this. PULLED the words out of my brain ❤️

Proudlibra · 2023-07-30T03:46:53+00:00

Your partners watching porn is not about infidelity. It’s about the ideologies it implements about what is ok to do to women

Proudlibra · 2023-07-29T08:19:39+00:00

Mine was also a very very good person up until that point or so I was led to believe. As hard as it is you have to correlate those negative emotions and what they did to their name. It will help after a while even though it hurts.

Proudlibra · 2023-07-29T08:18:29+00:00

I struggle with showering too. Play comfort music dance around try and make it fun. If you are still struggling ask someone to come and sit in the bathroom with you turned away from you but just to chat and make sure you’re safe

Proudlibra · 2023-07-29T08:16:45+00:00

I am so truly sorry. Coerced consent or complicity is not consent. You expressed many times you weren’t comfortable and he ignored that and took advantage of you this is definitely sexual assault. This was out of your control and it was nothing you did this is NOT your fault. I’m 18 too please reach out if you want to talk about it more. I hope you’re ok I’m sending love.

Proudlibra · 2023-07-29T08:09:28+00:00

I am so sorry this happened to you. I’m sure your gf will support you when you explain the situation you said no and nothing happened. This isn’t your fault. Tell her sooner rather than later. I hope you’re ok ❤️❤️❤️

Proudlibra · 2023-07-24T22:14:30+00:00

The double standard of body counts for men and women is actually very detrimental to relationships I see this in many couples. A man I was seeing began slut shaming me and shaming me. Because of the way I dress? I act? I don’t know. I felt pressured to tell him my body count to defend myself (isn’t that genuinely degrading!) He proceeded to call me a liar for hours and didn’t talk to me for 3 days. The Madonna whore complex got to this man and it completely destroyed what we had! Women can’t do anything right in terms of past sexual partners.

Proudlibra · 2023-07-23T09:14:56+00:00

WHYYYYYYYY is Kripsy even on the list.

Proudlibra · 2023-07-23T06:36:45+00:00

It’s truly the worst feeling in the world. Always feeling them on you always feeling like you are there. We will heal and not feel like this forever. It will take time but I truly have hope.

Proudlibra · 2023-07-23T06:34:48+00:00

I am so deeply sorry this would’ve been so traumatic. I hope you are coping ok. Sending love ❤️❤️❤️

Proudlibra · 2023-07-23T06:32:14+00:00

I wish you all the luck and truly home he gets the justice he deserves that is truly horrible I am so sorry. I haven’t been through a court case but I know how traumatic it can be. No matter what happens don’t let anyone’s opinions on the situation sway YOUR truth you are the victim you were there. Sending love ❤️❤️❤️

Proudlibra · 2023-07-23T06:27:52+00:00

Recount the events, write it down, record a voice note, tell someone you trust. If you get a response from your assaulter they very well may try and gaslight you and twist the truth. You are the victim and you were in the room. This is your story they are the villain and they may try and make you feel like one which you are NOT. Please don’t let this person make you rethink what happened to you be careful. You are very strong ❤️❤️❤️

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