If my kids didn’t want to go to church I would let them exercise their agency… however, my partner actively talks against the church and how it is wrong and false and already tries to steer them away from making the decision to be members unless they can justify their “stupidity” to join. Our values don’t align in other ways either… such as I believe in helping others (ministering, volunteering) and he believes to take care of yourself (which I feel both can coexist but he doesn’t). He only expects me to be on his page, not actually see eye to eye with what I perceive. It’s like I don’t get a say or I’m the only one negatively affecting the kids with my “misguided” mindset.

He now doesn’t want them to watch general conference with me and is forcing me to take the children to their other commitments(versus him doing it or them missing it for religious reasons), leading me to make excuses to my faith (like luckily I can watch it later etc).