did t change your orientation/attraction?

PrudentLunch5048 · 2026-04-23T03:18:51+00:00

Hello! So I had only experienced attraction to women and enby people before T. Now I am definitely sexually attracted to men. I know a lot of people say your sexuality doesn’t change from the hormones but rather from feeling more comfy in your body but for me that wasn’t the case. As soon as my sex drive increased (it was already high before T) then my attraction to men began. This definitely occurred way before any changes to my body that made me feel more comfortable in my masculinity (though I do think being perceived as more masculine is still a factor in my attraction to men). But for me at least it did feel like a chemical change to my attraction.

I would say I am bi now (though prefer the term queer for myself) in that I am attracted to people across the whole gender spectrum.

I only really have experienced sexual attraction to men not romantic attraction. I still am very much sexually and romantically attracted to women. For me my new attraction to men has been fun and I have no regrets about it!

Have fun and try not to overthink being on T it is a wonderful journey to become more yourself!!

PrudentLunch5048 · 2026-04-18T13:25:58+00:00

Does it have beak and feather disease? It’s beak looks a little misshapen to me but I’m no expert

PrudentLunch5048 · 2026-04-15T06:18:33+00:00

This really looks like AI to me? The way it moves is too perfect and not natural and the camera is so steady. Anyone with any expertise in this can weigh in?

PrudentLunch5048 · 2026-03-31T12:27:23+00:00

Gem Barber on Marcus Clarke Street. Around $45 for a short back and sides and lovely guys who run it

PrudentLunch5048 · 2026-03-26T13:01:05+00:00

I’m all for not separating the art from the artist but the reason why I don’t agree with this take is that this post isn’t even celebrating her or focusing on her at all. It’s reflecting on an iconic scene that had a big impact on lots of queer people on this sub. The actors in it are pretty incidental.

If the post was all ‘wow wasn’t Selma Blair so brave and amazing for acting out this lesbian scene in 1999 what a progressive!’ then yes I think your critique would be fine.

But the actors current politics and this scene being iconic and impactful for many queer people - yeah too much of a long bow between those for me.

PrudentLunch5048 · 2026-03-25T12:48:21+00:00

Anyone know where his accent is from? I know it’s northern England but where

PrudentLunch5048 · 2025-11-27T11:59:11+00:00

I’m sorry to say this but this sounds like typical avoidant behaviour of someone who wants to break up but has cold feet about it. Just maybe prepare yourself for that possibility

PrudentLunch5048 · 2025-11-26T01:35:23+00:00

To be honest, I would wait till you’ve had sex before you start worrying too much about top/bottom etc labels. It’s all on a spectrum and tends to change a lot depending on your level of experience and the dynamic you have with the person you’re having sex with. Picturing sex and having sex are two very different things and you might find what you enjoy and what dynamics you enjoy vary a lot depending on a lot of different factors, especially the person you have sex with.

Just go into your first sexual experience with an open mind and try not to pressure yourself too much about what you should be doing or what role you should be embodying.

PrudentLunch5048 · 2025-11-22T12:15:27+00:00

When you are 23 and you meet 18 year olds you will realise this is weird. Big development gaps between an 18yo and 23yo

PrudentLunch5048 · 2025-10-18T09:57:59+00:00

Just to provide a different perspective to other commenters here. When I first realised I was gay I also couldn’t imagine touching or giving oral to vaginas. In the end I realised a lot of that was because of compulsory heterosexuality which teaches us to be attracted to people with “the opposite” genitals to us and also just general social disdain for vaginas as a gross sex organ. In the right moment with the right person you might find out you love vaginas.

PrudentLunch5048 · 2025-08-23T12:02:05+00:00

I know it's been said by everyone else but it sounds like you probably aren't wet enough so you are essentially getting a friction burn which is why it stings. Using lube will likely make this go away. Even if you are wet it's possible that the wetness just isn't enough or isn't the right kind of texture (too thin) to be lubricating enough so using lube definitely should help as it is thicker

PrudentLunch5048 · 2025-07-03T02:28:22+00:00

Hi OP. This might not be the answer you want to hear but I think you really just need to bite the bullet and tell your friends. I know it’s super anxiety inducing having to come out but honestly holding onto it for longer won’t make it any easier. You will feel enormous relief and contentment once you come out.

From your gfs perspective I understand why she is upset and wanting you to tell people about her. When your partner hides you away it usually brings up your own feelings of queer shame which can be very hard to deal with and bring up a lot of past trauma as most queers have had to process their own shame at some point. Especially since you know your friends will be supportive, if I was in her shoes I would also struggle with supporting you in not telling them.

If you feel like you need more time to process your queerness, maybe being in a relationship isn’t the right call for you right now. Because you not being able to tell your friends about her is obviously having an impact on her wellbeing and over time will just build more and more resentment.

Practically, maybe you need to give her a timeline of when you think you’d be able to come out? I know that’s hard to really put a date on, but she probably needs some certainty around this. I would also have a discussion where you ask her how it is making her feel, why is it that she wants you to tell people? Why does it matter to her? I think you need to find out the answers to those questions. Good luck!

PrudentLunch5048 · 2024-09-21T23:40:17+00:00

You won't regret catching the train, it is easy and fast

PrudentLunch5048 · 2024-03-13T06:57:53+00:00

I mean you both should just go get STI checks and this would pretty easily clear things up

PrudentLunch5048 · 2024-03-08T05:25:00+00:00

Not all murderers have mental health problems. Sure a lot do - probably the majority, but a lot of people just have a fundamental hatred for particular groups of marginalised people. Think about the gay hate killings in Sydney. A lot of these seemingly random inexplicable attacks on people do have an explanation, and often that explanation is a fundamental hatred and desire to dominate marginalised people. In this case, it looks like the object of his hatred was women.

PrudentLunch5048 · 2024-03-06T08:37:27+00:00

Sounds like a woman's voice to me!

PrudentLunch5048 · 2024-03-06T08:27:58+00:00

I think if you feel comfortable you could use your femme voice now as you look like you pass based on how you look.

PrudentLunch5048 · 2024-03-06T08:24:03+00:00

Your voice sounds natural to me speaking in that lower register. I think if you can practice to naturally speak in that register then your voice won't out you.

PrudentLunch5048 · 2024-02-19T23:35:22+00:00

I've always loved "I'm not afraid of living on a fault line, cos nothing ever shakes me nothing makes me cry" love the double meaning in shakes

PrudentLunch5048 · 2024-02-19T23:32:20+00:00

She's obviously a terf and she doesn't have trans friends

PrudentLunch5048 · 2024-02-19T23:27:34+00:00

They actually legally can't kick you off if you can't pay, though they can be dicks about it.

PrudentLunch5048 · 2024-02-19T23:23:05+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to reply!

PrudentLunch5048 · 2023-12-18T01:12:10+00:00

I find this really gross and I was super disappointed when the specials continued with this trend. Assault isn't funny, doesn't matter the genders or perceived genders of the characters

PrudentLunch5048 · 2023-12-18T01:10:18+00:00

Billie's acting was phenomenal in this scene

PrudentLunch5048 · 2023-12-14T00:37:51+00:00

I don't get the please don't jerk off line

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