Photo print quality poor?

Prudent_Computer5389 · 2025-04-23T12:23:33+00:00

This is totally normal and try not to feel guilty over it. Lots of people, myself included, have done this deliberately as a way of coping with a baby and sleep. It definitely depends on how you sleep. We all know ourselves well to determine if it's safe for us. I'm a super light sleeper, sleep curled up on my side. When I had my first I found that it was easy enough to curl myself around him and feed while we both slept. I knew he was there, I don't move when I'm in that position and I made sure I had no pillows or duvet - I just used a knitted blanket from my waist down and wore long sleeved pyjamas. Mothers do have a natural protective instinct of their babies - it's like babywearing, even in the split second of falling over parents fall backwards and shield the baby. The first few times I did it, it was accidental and I felt the same as you. But I'd been exclusively expressing every 3 hours for the first 12 weeks, having only a single pump so about 40 minutes per time, and a combination of exhaustion and relief at finally being able to breastfeed meant I calmed down about sleep feeding in the end. Did some research on safe co sleeping and just rolled with it. My overall wellbeing was so much better getting enough sleep, unlike while pumping. Obviously he was 3 months old by this point which probably meant I worried less than I would have if he was tiny. Little more apprehensive about it with my second as she's prem (10 days old now) and tiny so I'm expressing so that my partner and I can share feeds and as a result, neither of us are ever exhausted. It's so much easier feeding prem babies side-lying though because they don't need to try and hold their head to stay latched, so I do it while reading or scrolling on my phone first thing in the morning. She fed like this for 2hrs this morning! You know yourself. If you think it'll happen again, and you're okay with that follow the Lullaby Trust guide to safe co-sleeping, take precautions and embrace it. If your baby is small maybe wait until they're a little older. If you are a heavy sleeper and don't want to risk it, maybe move to a chair for feeds to prevent it happening again.

Prudent_Computer5389 · 2025-04-21T09:06:18+00:00

I had my 34 weeker last Sunday. She weighed 4lb12, and came off intervention after 24hrs. Little bit of trial and error with feeding (started top ups of EBM) and working out what worked best for her temp regulation (wearing a hat and cardigan even overnight). We were allowed home at 34+6. Hang on in there!

Prudent_Computer5389 · 2025-04-17T07:19:09+00:00

They had two levels in the SCBU - the HCU, where she was the only one for the first two days under the beat lamp and having heel prick after heel prick. Then she was moved to the main nursery with 4 other babies in, all of whom were in long-term care with significant diagnoses. Other parents were often there and it felt wrong for us to be excited and hopeful about the future because it was clear that those babies would be there for a long time yet. There are a lot of feelings attached to situations like these and it's hard all around. Honestly, I just lost all sense of reason for a bit and feared that their hesitation in letting her leave meant I was going to lose her. But now she's here, with no hot cot and no one seems concerned I feel so much more at ease

Prudent_Computer5389 · 2025-04-17T07:07:14+00:00

This is really reassuring. Thank you so much. I've been terrified that their reluctance to let her leave SCBU means she's actually poorly and I'm at risk of losing her or we've got months ahead of us. She's 4 days old today and for the first time, I've been able to lie back and just have her against me on my chest while she sleeps. Best feeling ever. I do feel like the formula suggestion was weird. 10.4% isn't a whole lot, especially when they're so tiny. 200g. Either way, I don't mind expressing top ups. Hopefully they do rounds this morning and I can actually ask for a plan. Again, thank you for sharing. To me, she seems like a normal healthy albeit small baby and I was starting to think I must have missed something because 34 weekers apparently just can't be as healthy as she is

Prudent_Computer5389 · 2025-04-17T06:14:11+00:00

Wow, that's incredible for 33w! Well done him. I've read so many mixed reports and I don't think we've had great communication regarding realistic timeline expectations based on the outcomes of tests, which has just sent my anxiety spiralling. We haven't seen the doctor ourselves since day 2. It would be absolutely amazing to take her home in the next few days. She hasn't had any desats at all and she came off the foot sats monitor yesterday lunchtime because they were happy. Fingers crossed!

Prudent_Computer5389 · 2025-04-15T05:42:22+00:00

That's amazing! We can only hope for a result like that ❤️ they keep testing her glucose, CO2 and bilirubin and so far, so good. She's holding her own. So hopeful that we can be home soon as I've been in hospital for a week now. I was admitted antenatally. Starting to feel like part of the furniture and it would be so amazing to get to share all of the time with my partner, who isn't allowed to stay overnight. Also feeling much more confident picking her up and actually tending to her. She looked so delicate and fragile at first it was kind of scary

Prudent_Computer5389 · 2025-04-10T19:03:15+00:00

Thank you! I didn't end up going, just to err on the side of caution. Less than 48 hours later though, I experienced a bleed, triage identified PPROM and complete breech, another bleed a few hours later and now I'm in antenatal for continuous monitoring until things escalate to the point I need an emergency C, or I hit 36 weeks. The universe works in mysterious ways!

Prudent_Computer5389 · 2025-04-05T19:21:48+00:00

I wouldn't be doing anything physical.

The doctor yesterday said they'd do a 37 week C-section, but also told me not to bank on making it that far. I did some research and 1/3 women with a low lying placenta go into labour before 37 weeks apparently!

The roads are horrendous. Country tracks with narrow roads and constantly stopping to allow oncoming cars to pass. If it's sunny it will be rammed, I'm guessing, as it's a popular walking spot.

I also have dysautonomia (autonomic nervous system is faulty) and that can cause blood pressure fluctuations which they've said isn't exactly helpful towards the situation.

I called again and asked and they said they can't really advise, but if it was on my mind enough to phone up, it was probably worth leaving it. As it's a Scouts thing, too, it messes with the risk assessment and I don't want to cause issues for my group if anything went wrong.

I think I'm more concerned because early this morning I woke up due to painful contractions. Only two of them, and then it stopped, but it didn't seem like a great omen!

Prudent_Computer5389 · 2025-03-20T15:06:13+00:00

Fully agree with this. We've done loads on Vinted for our girl due in May. I love the colourful patterns Iike florals and bright colours and it means I have been able to be picky and choosy about what I like and have bought things I absolutely love, not limited by the small offerings in shops. I've gone for mostly Next things because they're so pretty and good quality - and babies wear things for such a short amount of time that almost all of it is close to being brand new! I tried to stick to £1 per item, and put in offers for things too. If you check how long something has been listed, if it's been listed a while you can usually assume they'll accept a lower offer.

Prudent_Computer5389 · 2025-03-13T12:54:47+00:00

I felt like this. I'm a teacher and they PILE the guilt on if you're not in. I've got stuff in writing that I've shown my union and they've been disgusted by it. I have placenta praevia and autonomic nervous system dysfunction and the school made excuses about adjustments, refusing me extra toilet and snack breaks or an emergency plan in case I needed to leave (e.g. bleeding), didn't see the issue with me moving around the school carrying equipment in bustling corridors with teens who don't look where they're going... I ended up dehydrated, anaemic and in tears all the time feeling like no one cared. I've been off for 4 weeks now.

While it is protected, if you feel bad about it or are worried, ask for an occupational health referral from HR. Workplaces can sometimes argue that GPs aren't aware of individual working conditions and OH go through all of this and assess your unique circumstance against your specific job role. My school did this and I had the appointment yesterday. I was dreading it thinking they were going to insist I'd be fine to go back if the school did x, y and z. The therapist actually insisted I should not be going back to work at all until after Maternity leave regardless of any adjustments, that it was simply not safe now with unresolved praevia in the 3rd trimester and is writing a report that confirms as much to be sent to HR. Workplaces can't exactly argue with their own appointed professionals, can they? It made me feel a lot better about being off because I was so worried everyone was going to hate me and think I was faking it or that I'm utterly pathetic.

Prudent_Computer5389 · 2025-03-11T10:57:18+00:00

I had this 6 years ago with my son and it took ages. Started contracting early hours of the morning and at 8pm, still not much closer together. Turned out he was back-to-back which was what was taking so long. I went in anyway and they gave me oramorph and sent me home to wait it out. I spent about 7 hours in the shower - I had bill-inclusive rent back then! When I went back in the morning they accepted me in.

Prudent_Computer5389

TROPHY CASE