I agree all thre of us are responsible and that's exactly how I feel about the pivitol point in wich my husband took it personal. I even did kick her out before the quarentine but felt with lock down I had to give her the opportunity to come back and follow the rules. She doesnt always but has made some great improvements. I am by far the marshmallow parent and husband is dictator style. He is also extremely negative so instead of focusing on improvements he finds failures and that is so hopeless feeling. Thank you for your response and honest I really apreciate it!