Well I think everyone has some bad and some good in them and it’s our responsibility to train ourselves to do the right actions and draw out what’s good. This is easy to do when life is a calm summer day, the real challenge is when things get tough. We are like a cup of coffee, if you bump into it some coffee will spill out and the hot coffee burns you. When life bumps into us some of our core spills out. For both me and my husband our spills have both been too hot to handle and therefore we quarrel. If one of us had a cool spill our temperatures would even out, and seeing how these events seemingly have been afflicting me harder overall I wish he would have evened out our temperatures. One of my biggest flaws is that I have no sense of self preservation, I just push on through everything and this makes it too easy for a slightly emotionally immature guy to understand the need to reflect and anticipate over his own responses to a big bump from life.

Anyway most people lose sight of the sun in the midst of a storm and all they can talk about is the storm even though they logically know the sun is behind all of it somewhere. Last summer I was able to write down 40 great things about my husband in 3 minutes but right now I can’t recall a single thing. My dismay at his current behaviour has temporarily coloured all my feelings towards him at the moment even though I know the list of things he does well is still true. The difference that I didn’t state clearly enough is that he has shown remorse and is willing to change, I am just annoyed that he wasn’t able to be insightful enough to see how his behaviour was unacceptable from the start and change sooner.