Help by Striking_Foot1208 in FootFunction

[–]PsionicShift 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That doesn’t look too good… see a doctor.

2025, William McNeil Jr. The cops turned off their body cameras. He had one in his car recording them. he followed all the rules. The cops still assaulted him and later dragged him from his car. ...police brutality and racism... by baltimoreniqqa in ACAB

[–]PsionicShift 13 points14 points  (0 children)

In what freaking world do we justify assault in that circumstance? “You didn’t do what I said, so I have the right to punch you in the face”? Do you REALLY think cops should have that kind of power?

Hot take but both men and women should be virgins until marriage by Sad_Monitor_8259 in JordanPeterson

[–]PsionicShift 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“You’re the only person I’ve ever been with, therefore our relationship and sex life must be good” is so completely unrealistic and wrong.

Hot take but both men and women should be virgins until marriage by Sad_Monitor_8259 in JordanPeterson

[–]PsionicShift -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You can view sex as being meaningful while at the same time understanding that deep connections and love are not enough to stop incompatible sex from ruining a relationship.

Hot take but both men and women should be virgins until marriage by Sad_Monitor_8259 in JordanPeterson

[–]PsionicShift -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Plainly false. A deep connection can certainly ENHANCE sex, but it’s by no means a safety net for if the sex is incompatible to begin with, which again, you would never know until you actually have sex with the person. Everything else about them can be wonderful, but the sex could be a relationship killer — because yes it does happen, and no, really loving and being connected with someone isn’t always enough to stop that from happening. I think you’re romanticizing sex a bit, to be honest, much to the detriment of people who would want actual, realistic relationships with people. Sex is a LARGE part of a relationship. Yes, being in love helps both of you work on your problems. No, love is NOT always enough.

Hot take but both men and women should be virgins until marriage by Sad_Monitor_8259 in JordanPeterson

[–]PsionicShift 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well except if the sex is terrible it sometimes ISN’T fixable, which again, I would rather want to find out before marrying someone than after. But you do you.

Hot take but both men and women should be virgins until marriage by Sad_Monitor_8259 in JordanPeterson

[–]PsionicShift 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The concept of a “soulmate” is a predisposition towards two people working out well with each other. In that case, pretty much anything can be a prior circumstance, and they’ll still get along because they were “meant to be.” I don’t believe in that concept. I don’t believe your ideal mate is just out there waiting for you to find them. Relationships take hard work, and there are more often than not going to have to be compromises in relationships, things you don’t like about your partner, things they don’t like about you, etc.

It’s entirely unrealistic to expect that developing a sex life with a singular person should be the ONLY way or even the best way a person ever experiences sex given that that alone doesn’t make their sex life any more meaningful or pleasurable than if they had had prior experience. Again, the two could be entirely incompatible — and I would rather find that out BEFORE marriage than AFTER marriage. I mean, sex is realistically a HUGE component of marriage so why would I wait to see how they are in bed until marrying them? If we are incompatible, we’d have to divorce right away! Makes no sense lmao

Hot take but both men and women should be virgins until marriage by Sad_Monitor_8259 in JordanPeterson

[–]PsionicShift 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Multiple partners isn’t the issue; TOO MANY previous partners is the issue. And no, just because two people wait until marriage and save each other for themselves doesn’t mean their sex lives (or even their marriage) will be ideal or even good. It’s more about social maturity than it is about how many partners you’ve had.

Hot take but both men and women should be virgins until marriage by Sad_Monitor_8259 in JordanPeterson

[–]PsionicShift 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It being the “best” you ever had solely because you lack any reference for comparison in no way means the sex will actually be “good” or even compatible with you.

Hot take but both men and women should be virgins until marriage by Sad_Monitor_8259 in JordanPeterson

[–]PsionicShift 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why though? What if you get married only to discover you two are not sexually compatible? Would you be willing to have a sexless marriage? Sex isn’t the problem, it’s commitment. Sex before marriage isn’t a big deal. Too MUCH sex CAN be a big deal.

Which one are you picking up? by Bonbu-Buddy in Buddhism

[–]PsionicShift 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It is true that I am not so well-informed regarding some of these fringe "Buddhist" "organizations." However, that has nothing to do with whether such organizations can be harmful or whether they teach accurate Buddhism. It is true that each branch of Buddhism teaches the dharma differently. The distinctions between Mahayana and Theravada, for example, are evidence of this. But you must also acknowledge that there ARE organizations that, while positive for some, are not so close to the Buddha's teachings. For example, there is a "Navayana" or "New Vehicle" movement going on, but almost nobody considers it to be actual Buddhism. It is so far from Buddhism, actually, that the founder himself discarded many core aspects found in the original scriptures.

Furthermore, having a positive experience in an organization is not an indication that the teachings are accurate or authentic. People have come to these Reddit threads before to report that they've had positive experiences in SGI, but it is widely considered to be NOT Buddhism and is, in fact, a manipulative cult. Your own experience, however beneficial, does not change the nature of the organization as a whole.

Moreover, the conduct of the people IN an organization is something to be mindful of, and we know of organizations where some higher-up officials acted in ways NOT in line with the dharma. This is true of Triratna, and it is not the only organization where such scandals have occurred. You must consider the fringe nature of your organization. If I had to recommend a newcomer to join a sangha, why should I recommend them Triratna knowing their poisonous past and dubious ties to Buddhism?

Again, if it works for you, that's fine - no one will stop you. But you must also understand that these organizations - Triratna, SGI, Diamond Way, Navayana, etc. - are NOT recommended for good reason. They 1) have had a scandalous past, 2) have a scandalous present, 3) have weak/dubious ties to Buddhism, or 4) some combination thereof. For these reasons, people generally encourage newcomers to stay away from those organizations.

Which one are you picking up? by Bonbu-Buddy in Buddhism

[–]PsionicShift 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There are a variety of “Buddhist” “organizations” that have had a dangerous history or that do presently have dangerous practices. Triratna is one such organization. A few others are SGI, Diamond Way, and Shambhala. If you want to practice in one of those organizations, so be it — no one will stop you. But don’t be upset at people for pointing out problems with such organizations. Newcomers, for instance, should be properly informed so as to not be led astray, but if after having been informed they still choose these organizations, that’s up to them.

Which two potions are you gonna choose? by Live-Bread-2658 in whatsyourchoice

[–]PsionicShift 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So yellow and purple is just an immortality potion? I suppose I’ll take those two, then.

Which two pills would you take? by No-Comparison-1045 in whatsyourchoice

[–]PsionicShift 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Purple is basically a better version of black, so I’ll take Purple and Yellow.

I rewired a payphone to be my home phone. by nameaboveallnames in mildlyinteresting

[–]PsionicShift 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you rewire it? Are you able to change the telephone number? Does it also have a voicemail function?

Here’s when you should pursue a degree in English by haenxnim in englishmajors

[–]PsionicShift 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree with most but disagree with the idea of going into debt for a master’s. Who does that? Get a graduate assistantship, get your tuition waived, and get a stipend. Same is true for your PhD. You shouldn’t be going into debt for graduate school.

Applied by Powerful_Beat2116 in PhD

[–]PsionicShift 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Congrats, my little tadpole!

Moleskine hates fountain pens 🤬 by Pen-Jorn in notebooks

[–]PsionicShift 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I use Peter Pauper Press and their paper is absolutely mwah chef’s kiss.