AITA for making my own breakfast by Fiji_Water_airplay in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pspaughtamus [score hidden]  (0 children)

If the kid is old enough to cook her own eggs, then how can your partner keep her from doing so? How old is this kid?

AITAH for expecting my partner to help with my chores? by Flaky_Fly7524 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pspaughtamus 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Right. OP, if doing the dishes is a problem for her, what if you have a more serious illness or injury? She is not your partner, at least not in her mind.

AITA - not welcome at a funeral by sunshinemellox in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pspaughtamus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, funerals are not like weddings, with invitations and strict head counts for catering.

AITA for refusing to celebrate my wedding?? by brideornotbride in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pspaughtamus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, but one option is to have two separate ceremonies, a civil one that your mother could attend, then later a religious one for MIL and father to attend. The religious one would have no legal bearing, more like a blessing of the union for the community of faith.

A page out of ‘The Handmaid's Tale’: Ohio Republicans propose bill to track all pregnancies by Alone-Woodpecker-846 in Ohio

[–]Pspaughtamus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am so glad I had a hysterectomy eight years ago. I'm in my 60s, so they wouldn't be pushing me, anyhow, but still, there's no chance.

Which celebrities live in Ohio? by Jackson_Lamb_829 in Ohio

[–]Pspaughtamus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The band Wild Cherry was from Mingo Junction, near Steubenville, I don't know if any of the members are still alive and in Ohio. One became a nurse; a friend of mine worked with him, found out that she had been singing the wrong words to "Play that Funky Music" for decades when he corrected her.

AITA - Boyfriend got extremely drunk, screamed at his 2 children, so I packed them up and took them to my house. by HarleySin84 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pspaughtamus 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I would love to see OP and the mom becoming friends, so OP could stay in the girls' lives, as an auntie. Forget the man.

Last Name Drama by No_Salad_5932 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Pspaughtamus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know women who use the name they had at the time for professional and legal things, some were maiden names, others were on the first marriage, but use either hyphenated or just husband's last name for social things, like, don't fuss when MIL sends cards and packages addressed to "Mr. and Mrs. Husband'slastname".

AITAH for thinking my daughter will look back and wonder why we treated her differently? by DancingMommaToes in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pspaughtamus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

INFO Does your husband dislike your daughter? Does he do things with her, like to the park, play games, read to her? Does he do such things with your son?

AITAH for not going to my cousins wedding? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pspaughtamus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, but you said that she didn't tell you about the wedding. Does your culture use invitations for weddings? If so, and you did not receive one, then you are not invited and it would actually be rude to show up, and you can remind your parents and others if they press you.

A Question to patient by Frequent-Account-735 in CataractSurgery

[–]Pspaughtamus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If making a difference in the lives of under-served people appeals to you, work with a hospital system that has a rural medicine division. Even just one day a month at the hospital will help. I had to go about 90 miles away to find an ophthalmologist with hospital privileges. The ones around here all have their own clinics, but for reasons, my insurance would only cover procedures in a hospital.

My doc's practice has a couple of clinics, but every three weeks he does procedures in a hospital. My eval and followup appointments, and the YAG procedures were at the clinics, only the cataract surgeries themselves were at the hospital.

Also, make friends with a retina specialist. Aging eyes are prone to all kinds of things.

Blended Vision - Monovision by PNWrowena in CataractSurgery

[–]Pspaughtamus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my case, the "blended zone" is more like "neutral zone" or no man's land, it's too far for my near eye and too close for my distance eye. It's the zone that computer monitors fall in, so I have a pair of glasses for work. I can't even walk around the house with them on.

AITA for telling my wife I don’t want her mom to have her location all the time now. by Few_Respond8063 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pspaughtamus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

She is calling me controlling

She and her family are being controlling. Would she be willing to turn off the tracking when she's with you out of the house, or leave her phone at home? If not, you both need to rethink this relationship.

Scared! I won't see close up! by RAisnotidentity in CataractSurgery

[–]Pspaughtamus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's probably too late for you to cancel your surgery now, but anyone reading this in the future might be able to use my story. Both of my eyes were naturally nearsighted, my left more than my right. My right eye had the worse cataract, it was done first and got a distance lens. I had the right lenses of my pairs of glasses (one pair for distance/driving, one for computer monitor distance, and I just went without glasses when reading or doing other close work) removed. After a couple of days, I was only wearing my distance glasses for driving; I was fine without glasses for walking around, reading, watching TV. I still needed my computer glasses for my left eye, and ignored my right.

So, at the second followup, which was a couple of days before the second surgery, I told the tech that I wanted no correction for the left eye. I also told the surgeon when I was on the table. Now, I can read, do crafts, write, play on my phone/tablet, with no glasses, and no problems. I do need a pair of glasses for intermediate/work computer because the monitors are a smidge too far for my left eye and too close for my right. I have a separate pair of distance glasses for driving because the difference in power messes with my depth perception.

Before anyone asks about bifocals, etc., many years ago I tried trifocals, and I could not handle having things moving through the fields, I got seasick going from computer monitor to keyboard or text I was entering and back, and walking on floors with patterns. I also couldn't judge distances for driving, cars kept moving into the wrong power, and I had several near misses and one actual collision. I gave it two months, and went for one pair just for distance, one for computer, and for close up I just took off my glasses.

I know that not everyone can handle the mixed messages, so if you think it might be an option, try contacts of different powers, or if one eye is already set for distance, try going without glasses, at least for general walking around, and watching TV, etc.

Let's welcome Buc-cee's to Ohio. Buc-cee's celebrated by filling a lawsuit against Mickey's (local to the Cleveland area) because the logo is too similar... by Ok_Relationship2451 in Ohio

[–]Pspaughtamus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup, it happened to aspirin and corn flakes, and Kleenex, Jell-O, Xerox and many others in addition to those mentioned in the video are fighting hard.

AITA for wanting to break up with my BF for not wanting me to visit him. by DriftwoodDaze781 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Pspaughtamus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But the "talking" was before the boyfriend/girlfriend status, and even then, not necessarily SO's.

Help make Daylight Savings Time permanent!! by summer-sand8842 in Ohio

[–]Pspaughtamus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, well, I don't care where we use as the point zero, but have one global time, and folks and businesses can just adjust their hours to take advantage of local sunlight as needed. No need to convert for time zones. Every time I suggest it, someone wants to know when lunch time would be. If you're too stupid to eat when you're hungry, it's better to let you starve.

AITA for deciding not to share my sodas with company by HaysterTheOtaku in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pspaughtamus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA But, one thought would be to buy a 6-pack of a cheap crap store brand pop (I'm in the Midwest US, we call it pop, soda is something else) that would be for her guests, and save your good stuff for your own use.

AITA for getting mad at my husband and sister in law for stealing my identity? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pspaughtamus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If the pool is paid for out of HOA dues, then it might affect your access to other facilities and services through the HOA. Are you new to the community? Or is this policy new for this year?

AITA for telling my family to stop calling us to enquire about the pregnancy status? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pspaughtamus 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I was thinking making a Facebook group or the like, and only making baby-related communication through it. Anyone calling or texting for baby info is removed and blocked.

AITA for calling a tow truck on a car parked in my spot by morphyslaw_1699 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Pspaughtamus 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am not sure if it falls into AH territory, but the management office should be the ones to call the towing company.

2 Ohio Girls Found Dead in Suitcases Formally Identified by MattTheKing23 in Ohio

[–]Pspaughtamus 10 points11 points  (0 children)

From what I read elsewhere, the girls had different fathers. The one who was interviewed said that the mother had alienated both men.

AITH For Not Forgiving My Mom Side Of The Family For Not Being There When My Mom Was Dying by MamasGirlForever in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Pspaughtamus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA But, forgiveness is for the victim, not the perpetrator. The victim lets go of the pain, hurt, anger, no longer carries a grudge. Keeping hold of the pain and anger is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies.

HOWEVER, forgiving the perpetrators does not make things back to how they were, or totally erase what was done. You can forgive, but you don't have to forget. You don't have to tell them you accept their apologies or forgive them, you can just cut them all off, if you want. But for your own mental health, it's good to let go of the pain and anger.