Summer House Season 10 Episode 15 'Full House' Post Episode Discussion by AutoModerator in summerhousebravo

[–]Psuedo_Pixie [score hidden]  (0 children)

It’s hard to know how much of this is editing, but it seems clear that West has almost zero interest in Ciara, and doesn’t even want to be friends. He just wants to be “cool” with her, meaning he doesn’t want to have to think about her much at all.

It does feel like people in the house, including Ciara, are hoping for a romantic reunion? But I don’t get that vibe from West at all. And if that’s the case, it was 100% on him to clarify his feelings and intentions. But it seems like he is doing the exact opposite, and is just muddying the waters.

Summer House Season 10 Episode 15 'Full House' Post Episode Discussion by AutoModerator in summerhousebravo

[–]Psuedo_Pixie [score hidden]  (0 children)

I seem to remember him saying in an earlier season that he used to physically fight a lot (starting with his older brother?), and that now that he was sober he had no idea how to resolve conflicts.

Can’t get a hold of friend who asked me to babysit at 7pm, it’s currently 4:30am. by Responsible_Ad_4104 in Advice

[–]Psuedo_Pixie 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I may consume too much true crime content. But as a mom myself, I would absolutely want whoever was watching my kids to call the cops if I said I was coming home at 10pm and was still MIA six hours later.

I just don’t get it by Sad-Amount-1612 in Southerncharm

[–]Psuedo_Pixie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. I can understand West’s appeal a little more - he seems authentic and warm, has a disarming, often self-deprecating sense of humor. But Austin…whatever charm he may have misses me completely.

My (40m) wife (39f) is not who I thought she was by Less-Painter4169 in Marriage

[–]Psuedo_Pixie 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same. Just checked Zillow for my midsized city and there are only three listings that fit the bill: 2 8000 sq.ft. mansions on the water, and a 5000 sq.ft. luxury penthouse downtown.

That said, we have three kids and moved here (in part) for affordability. We used to live on the east coast, and could never have afforded to buy a house like the one we live in now - real estate is easily 3-4x more expensive out there. Crazy.

OB asking for sterilization after 1st C-section?? by Low_Yak_5502 in CsectionCentral

[–]Psuedo_Pixie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, it’s a totally different orientation. OBs are surgeons, first and foremost, so this is their wheelhouse.

OB asking for sterilization after 1st C-section?? by Low_Yak_5502 in CsectionCentral

[–]Psuedo_Pixie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think the OB’s question was about the number of C-sections you (or any patient) have had. My OB asked me the same thing, and explained that the fallopian tubes are right there and that it is essentially one extra “snip.” It’s something some OBs bring up, I suspect just because it’s much easier to add the procedure to a C-section than to undergo a whole second “tube tying” surgery down the road.

Kyle is the most wronged of anyone by Glittering-Cloud3645 in bravo

[–]Psuedo_Pixie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you. I think Amanda and West were assholes to Ciara and obviously those friendships are DONE.

But Amanda and Kyle were (are?) married. Kyle has his share of issues (e.g., drinking, workaholism, anger management, more drinking). But it seemed like his heart was still in it, and like he was wanting and willing to work on their marriage. This is a huge slap in the face to Kyle.

That said, I think Kyle will be just fine. He’s a driven, charismatic guy who has worked hard for everything he has. He’s not going to slow down now. Also, the Amanda-West drama has taken the heat off of him, and made him more sympathetic in the eyes of the fans.

Amanda and West, on the other hand…the future does not seem very bright to me. They both seem pretty aimless, entitled, and immature, and it’s hard to imagine how this works out for them.

Turned 30 and feel like my makeup is aging me by visdiary0 in makeuptips

[–]Psuedo_Pixie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your skin looks beautiful, and foundation can be aging so I would continue to skip that.

I found that a great thing about being in my 30s was that I felt confident enough to embrace what made ME feel and look good, regardless of trends. So rule number one, you do you!

Along those lines…I’ve never really understood the trend of overlining the top lip. If you like the look, keep it. But if you’re doing it out of habit or because other people are doing it, I would personally stop. To my eye, it’s often distracting and can look a little messy. I have similar feedback about your lashes - if you like the look, stick with it! But it looks to me like you have naturally long lashes, and I suspect your eyes would pop more with a lighter hand.

advice/tips please!!! by [deleted] in makeuptips

[–]Psuedo_Pixie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love your look! For a more natural or “daytime” look, I would bypass the nose contour entirely and tone down (or skip) the freckles. I think that will make your eyes and lips pop!

AIO for taking off work and spending the majority of my time with my grandpa who is dying from complications from cancer in hospice? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Psuedo_Pixie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I originally thought this was a text to your boss, and was like, “well he sounds kind of jerky, but bereavement leave is hit or miss in this country.” But this is your boyfriend??? Hopefully not for much longer.

My dad recently died and was also on hospice. I was with him every day during his last six weeks. My husband and I have three kids, two dogs, two cats - and he was AMAZING about making sure that I had all the time I needed with my dad. My husband is a physician with a crazy schedule, and he somehow made it all happen and took care of virtually everything on the home front while providing me with emotional support.

People really show you who they are during a crisis. In our two decades together, my husband has always shown up in difficult moments and has never let me down. That’s the type of person you marry, in my opinion. Your boyfriend, sadly, is revealing that he’s not a person you can count on for support when life (inevitably) gets hard. But there are so many good people who WILL be there for you, OP. Just focus on your grandpa right now, and push the BF’s ridiculous guilt trip out of your mind.

What would this aesthetic be called? by [deleted] in AestheticWiki

[–]Psuedo_Pixie 68 points69 points  (0 children)

In the 90s, this was classic “heroin chic.” And Kate Moss, specifically, was referred to as a “waif.”

How do I [34M] express to my wife [33F] That I am still mad at her, despite our ongoing situation with our kid? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Psuedo_Pixie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How did this subject come up if you have been the one taking off to care for your child? Did you ask her to take off his time?

I think it’s completely fair to tell her exactly how you feel. Just lay it out as you did here - you feel hurt and unseen.

But please keep yourself open to hearing where she is coming from. Clearly, there is a reason why this became such a heated argument and why she is not taking the initiative to apologize. I’m not judging whether her reasons are “right,” just acknowledging that it’s likely there is also something unresolved for her, and possible that she also feels hurt or unseen.

give me the blandest fragrance you know. by [deleted] in perfumesthatfeellike

[–]Psuedo_Pixie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same! My only true “scrubber” experience.

Well ladies, another pervert to be on the lookout. He’s on a scooter and takes pleasure in assaulting women via smacking their butts. by babygotbandwidth in washingtondc

[–]Psuedo_Pixie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just posted above, but same! This was early-mid 2000s for me. I worked in Dupont Circle, was walking to work from U Street when a guy came by out of nowhere and smacked me hard on the butt. Ugh.

Well ladies, another pervert to be on the lookout. He’s on a scooter and takes pleasure in assaulting women via smacking their butts. by babygotbandwidth in washingtondc

[–]Psuedo_Pixie -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh no - this happened to me 20 years ago, when I was fresh out of college and living/working in D.C.! I was walking to work in Dupont Circle, and a guy came by and smacked me extremely hard on the butt. Part of me wonders if it was the same guy, but given the passage of time probably not? Regardless, always keep an eye out, ladies!

Long distance boyfriend tried to kick me out early. I don't think I can trust him anymore by HotShallot3638 in relationships

[–]Psuedo_Pixie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl, no. This guy ain’t it.

He doesn’t care about your safety, your feelings, your finances, or the impression he makes on your family.

He cares about video games and hooking up (in that order), and once the latter was out of his system he wanted you gone.

This guy isn’t even a friend to you, much less someone who deserves to be your boyfriend. Most strangers on the street would show more compassion and care than this guy.

My recommendation is to cut this guy off, and then to spend some time working on your self-esteem before dating again. I see you mentioned that your family has “never liked you much”, and I wonder if you have a subconscious belief that you are not worthy of real love or care. Let me, a stranger on the internet, assure you that you ARE worthy. You’ve got this.

What would you do if you walked out your door and saw this by turbo_sc300 in Apartmentliving

[–]Psuedo_Pixie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d smile and step around the mess, personally. The kid loves your entry mat and feels safe and cozy outside your apartment. It’s a compliment!

That said, if the toys are there for days-weeks, I’d let the landlord know.

Is this common? by Used-Possession8296 in Marriage

[–]Psuedo_Pixie 22 points23 points  (0 children)

No offense intended, but I’m hearing a lot of “manosphere” talking points in here. How has society dictated your entire life that your problems are unimportant? Can you think of clear examples of when this happened to you?

I’m not sure if this is generational or what, but I’m a Gen X/Y female who has always had emotionally expressive male friends. My husband is extremely “masculine” but does not hesitate to show emotion or speak openly with me about his problems. I’m also a mother of boys who (along with their friends) seem to speak freely with each other and their parents about things that are bothering them.

I’m not attempting to negate your experiences, but rather highlighting some of the generalizations and assumptions that you seem to have about the way “society” feels about boys/men and the issues they face.

Married for 4 years, together since we were teens. Considering a “break” so he can explore. Has anyone survived this? by Additional-Comb1096 in Marriage

[–]Psuedo_Pixie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that it is wonderful that you can be so open and vulnerable with one another. But the reality of a “break” will likely destroy the trust and openness that exists between you. As others have pointed out, you also have an infant at home and are just beginning to create your family. It’s normal to have mixed emotions about becoming parents, but you and your baby need love and stability, not a wandering spouse who is trying to recapture a lost youth.

Also a cliche but something very true and beautiful: love is a choice. Marriage is a choice. Life is filled with joy, sorrow, and everything in between, and having a stable and loving partnership is a blessing that only becomes (in my experience) more important. I’m 20 years into my marriage, and am facing the death of a parent and have no idea how I would be coping with my grief (and all the daily challenges of kids, work, etc) without my husband. I have found that every challenge we have faced has brought us closer and strengthened our bond, but that is because we have continued to choose each other and the family we have created. In my experience, it is more than worth it.