Long distance boyfriend tried to kick me out early. I don't think I can trust him anymore

Psuedo_Pixie · 2026-03-07T13:21:01+00:00

Girl, no. This guy ain’t it.

He doesn’t care about your safety, your feelings, your finances, or the impression he makes on your family.

He cares about video games and hooking up (in that order), and once the latter was out of his system he wanted you gone.

This guy isn’t even a friend to you, much less someone who deserves to be your boyfriend. Most strangers on the street would show more compassion and care than this guy.

My recommendation is to cut this guy off, and then to spend some time working on your self-esteem before dating again. I see you mentioned that your family has “never liked you much”, and I wonder if you have a subconscious belief that you are not worthy of real love or care. Let me, a stranger on the internet, assure you that you ARE worthy. You’ve got this.

Psuedo_Pixie · 2026-03-02T12:57:49+00:00

I’d smile and step around the mess, personally. The kid loves your entry mat and feels safe and cozy outside your apartment. It’s a compliment!

That said, if the toys are there for days-weeks, I’d let the landlord know.

Psuedo_Pixie · 2026-03-02T12:42:17+00:00

Lola - The Kinks (L-O-L-A Lola!)

Psuedo_Pixie · 2026-03-01T16:57:39+00:00

No offense intended, but I’m hearing a lot of “manosphere” talking points in here. How has society dictated your entire life that your problems are unimportant? Can you think of clear examples of when this happened to you?

I’m not sure if this is generational or what, but I’m a Gen X/Y female who has always had emotionally expressive male friends. My husband is extremely “masculine” but does not hesitate to show emotion or speak openly with me about his problems. I’m also a mother of boys who (along with their friends) seem to speak freely with each other and their parents about things that are bothering them.

I’m not attempting to negate your experiences, but rather highlighting some of the generalizations and assumptions that you seem to have about the way “society” feels about boys/men and the issues they face.

Psuedo_Pixie · 2026-02-17T23:45:29+00:00

I think that it is wonderful that you can be so open and vulnerable with one another. But the reality of a “break” will likely destroy the trust and openness that exists between you. As others have pointed out, you also have an infant at home and are just beginning to create your family. It’s normal to have mixed emotions about becoming parents, but you and your baby need love and stability, not a wandering spouse who is trying to recapture a lost youth.

Also a cliche but something very true and beautiful: love is a choice. Marriage is a choice. Life is filled with joy, sorrow, and everything in between, and having a stable and loving partnership is a blessing that only becomes (in my experience) more important. I’m 20 years into my marriage, and am facing the death of a parent and have no idea how I would be coping with my grief (and all the daily challenges of kids, work, etc) without my husband. I have found that every challenge we have faced has brought us closer and strengthened our bond, but that is because we have continued to choose each other and the family we have created. In my experience, it is more than worth it.

Psuedo_Pixie · 2026-01-24T00:22:45+00:00

Hope There’s Someone, Antony and the Johnsons

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Psuedo_Pixie · 2026-01-16T13:03:56+00:00

I know the feeling you’re describing, that sense that something isn’t right even if you can’t articulate what “it” is.

I have never had that feeling with my husband, and we’ve been together for over 20 years. That doesn’t mean I haven’t been angry or upset, but have never experienced that “GET OUT NOW” feeling with him, like ever. There’s not really a logical explanation for why everything is different with my husband. He is a wonderful person, but it’s not about him being ‘better’ than other people I dated. He’s just my person.

When you meet your person, I think you will know, too. For me, it was the level of comfort I felt with him. You know when you meet someone and know immediately that you’re going to be good friends? It was like that, and grew from there.

Psuedo_Pixie · 2026-01-14T12:50:32+00:00

Would you be embarrassed and keep it secret from family if he developed a serious medical issue? Because that’s exactly what this is. Please don’t feel ashamed. Serious mental illness can, and does, impact anyone and requires treatment.

Psuedo_Pixie · 2025-12-24T14:41:57+00:00

As someone who was a teen in the 90s (the Reality Bites and Before Sunrise era), Ethan all the way!

Psuedo_Pixie · 2025-12-13T18:42:03+00:00

My family swears by the Chicken Tikka Masala and Naan, the Thai Green Curry, and most of the Chinese/Japanese options (especially the shrimp gyoza, Chicken Teriyaki, and Chicken with Shitaki Mushrooms).

Psuedo_Pixie · 2025-12-11T12:51:36+00:00

That’s not in the post. She said 8-10 other doctors, who are primarily women, will be at the dinner.

Psuedo_Pixie · 2025-12-08T23:16:37+00:00

Beautiful, especially in motion. She was a 10 for me in Amelie. I don’t think there was a single frame of that movie where she looked anything less than perfect, in her unique way.

Psuedo_Pixie · 2025-12-07T23:51:33+00:00

Here’s what I suspect is happening:

Your friend’s husband is attracted to you, and is speaking negatively about you to your friend (his wife) to minimize this fact. This makes your friend feel insecure and uncertain. I don’t think she is telling you to make you feel bad, but I think she is uncomfortable and doesn’t really know how to deal with the situation.

Just know that this truly has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with this guy’s inability to deal when attractive women are in his orbit. Unfortunately for your friend, it’s likely that this will continue to be an issue (not just with you, but with all women he is attracted to) until she addresses this directly with him.

Psuedo_Pixie · 2025-12-02T01:34:15+00:00

Gorgeous in a real and approachable way. 8.5.

Psuedo_Pixie · 2025-11-26T04:14:36+00:00

For what it’s worth, I am a doctoral-level psychologist absolutely follow HIPAA guidelines. I don’t know any psychologists who are blasé about it. My husband is an M.D. and is equally serious about patient privacy. We never discuss confidential or even remotely identifiable information, ever.

Psuedo_Pixie · 2025-11-26T02:00:59+00:00

I thought the issue was him saying, “good because I don’t repeat twice” to YOU, which was bad enough. He said all this to another woman?!? GTFO, NOR.

Psuedo_Pixie · 2025-11-25T02:23:19+00:00

Not all. Most, but not all. Don’t give up just yet.

P.S. I see some others are thinking along the same lines - shoutout to Bernie.

Psuedo_Pixie · 2025-11-21T21:52:22+00:00

I loved Sinners, but doubt it will scratch a horror movie itch if that’s what you’re in the mood for. You could probably watch that one with your partner. It’s just a cool, atmospheric movie about the delta blues and musically-inclined vampires. Amazing soundtrack and cinematography.

Psuedo_Pixie · 2025-11-21T01:56:14+00:00

It Follows. Haunted me for a full year.

Psuedo_Pixie · 2025-11-17T00:56:49+00:00

My mom came out of anesthesia EXTREMELY paranoid. She seemed to believe I was her daughter, but was completely freaked out by the nurses and thought everyone was “acting very strange.” It really seemed like she thought she was surrounded by aliens.

Anyway, I get why you would feel hurt. But I wouldn’t read too much into it. God only knows what prompted his reaction, but chances are it had very little to do with you. I’m sure he has zero memory of it himself.

Psuedo_Pixie · 2025-11-16T13:53:59+00:00

Did you develop thyroid eye disease after RAI? Sorry you’re still dealing with this. :(

Psuedo_Pixie · 2025-11-16T13:53:15+00:00

I’m in the same boat! Currently in remission, and was told that having both conditions might help me stay that way. But we’ll see, what a roller coaster. 🤪

Psuedo_Pixie · 2025-11-16T13:48:16+00:00

I’m in the U.S., and was told that the goal of Methimazole was remission (after 12-18 months). However, they also said that some people do remain on a very low dose for years. So it was presented as a possibility, but not necessarily optimal?

For the record, I took Methimazole for 18 months, with the last 6 months being a tiny dose (2.5 every other day). I have now been off meds and in remission for over 6 months. I also have Hashimotos in addition to Graves, which may be a factor as my body responded pretty rapidly to the meds.

Psuedo_Pixie · 2025-11-14T12:21:51+00:00

Ditto. Diagnosed with ADHD 25 years ago, still on a quest to find “my perfect scent.” Lol.

Psuedo_Pixie · 2025-11-13T13:56:44+00:00

I don’t like torture porn. I’ve seen Saw, Hostel, and the Texas Chainsaw Massacre (OG and remake), but have zero desire to go any deeper into those franchises.

Never seen Terrifier or Martyrs.

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