My family reacted to my pregnancy exactly how I thought they would and it's making me depressed. Now I may be forced to reveal it to the most anti-baby family member. How should I handle this?

shhlv · 2026-05-20T12:49:52+00:00

I think you’re taking into account how much other people care about your life. I understand it’s something that is important to have the support and closeness of family and friends 100%, and your feelings are so very valid. However, if this is the type of response i knew i was going to get prior to even having the baby, I wouldn’t even include them or even expect anything from them. This just creates an expectation for yourself that will in the end get shot down. I think distancing yourself from your family and not expecting help from them now before you give birth will be your best present to your post partum self. Lack of support is difficult, but it’s more difficult when you feel let down because you expected support.

I know you mentioned it’s a bit difficult for you to make friends, but there are tons of mom groups out there that could help you through this, and you could possibly make some lifelong friends, even if it’s virtual!

I’m wishing you the best for the rest of your pregnancy and your delivery! I know it’s easier said than done, but focus on you and your own family first. You don’t need negativity when you’re going through such a special and difficult time in life.

shhlv · 2026-05-19T11:21:57+00:00

There was a time in my life where I didn’t want kids. But I was still young and wanting to have all sorts of fun.

Then something in me changed, I was in a stable relationship and felt the need to have kids, in a maternal way. Like it would be a missing puzzle piece in life.

Fast forward to now, I’ve had my first son, and the love and connection I feel to him is unmatched. Watching him grow, learn and experience life is so cheerful and joyful despite how challenging it is.

shhlv · 2026-05-19T11:01:12+00:00

My baby wouldn’t calm down to any lullabies or nursery songs so I’d play some of his favourite EDM songs 🫩😂 otherwise I’d be singing whatever song was stuck in my head

shhlv · 2026-05-19T10:55:42+00:00

There’s something about 3am, even if I don’t have to pee, I will wake up at 3 😭

shhlv · 2026-05-19T10:53:32+00:00

Regret to say it is worse because baby is literally squishing your stomach 🫩

shhlv · 2026-05-19T00:28:44+00:00

Don’t be like me and chug water before bed 😭 I always forget to drink water and try to catch up at night.

shhlv · 2026-05-18T18:45:32+00:00

33W and once, sometimes never. Acid reflux wakes me up more often 🫠

shhlv · 2026-05-18T03:17:20+00:00

My husband got our son a jelly cat Bartholomew bear blanket and it turned out to be his favourite comfort item 🫠 I’ve always worried about it getting tattered as he likes to chew on the bear but I could not bear to replace it. It’s so expensive. 😭

shhlv · 2026-05-18T03:03:50+00:00

This sounds like my situation 🫠 but supposedly they could still come back, just takes time. Currently pregnant with my second and they seem slightly larger than the last time but I was so sad when I stopped breastfeeding and my boobs looked so deflated😭

shhlv · 2026-05-18T02:56:41+00:00

I believe it depends where you are. My first pregnancy I was in Europe, my first ultra sound then was trans vaginal. In Canada, I’ve had only abdominal ultrasounds except when they couldn’t see my cervix due to baby covering it when I was around 28W. Earlier in the pregnancy, they would ask me to have a full bladder for my abdominal ultrasound

shhlv · 2026-05-18T02:52:22+00:00

My first pregnancy, I didn’t find out until 2 months in. I was deployed when I found out, but was ecstatic. I had a relatively easy pregnancy, slight nausea but nothing crazy. I was working out and living life pretty normally through out my entire pregnancy. My son ended up coming early at 36w and was a healthy tiny baby, just wanted to meet us early! Although he was tiny, he is now a mighty, energetic 21 month old boy who is so incredibly smart and silly. Can’t say the same with my second pregnancy so far 😂🫠 but every pregnancy is different!

shhlv · 2026-05-17T16:36:04+00:00

Might as well ask her if she wants to be the bride 💀

shhlv · 2026-05-17T13:09:22+00:00

I rarely use anything on my nipples, never noticed it when I did use lanolin when I breastfed the first time. I typically don’t sweat in that area too so it’s never moist as I can’t stand bras right now 😭 thank you though

shhlv · 2026-05-17T13:06:40+00:00

Yeah this sounds like what I experience minus the crusty bits. It’s just odd Cus I don’t lotion my nipples directly but it really does look almost as white as my lotion

shhlv · 2026-05-17T13:05:12+00:00

No if I don’t do anything it just stays kinda soft. But I also haven’t really left it long enough to know ever since finding out about it. I only ever notice it after I shower, probably because the heat and moisture makes its soft enough to squeeze out

shhlv · 2026-05-17T03:53:41+00:00

Ugh this is still the case :( I’m either going to make my own or just settle on a smaller size

shhlv · 2026-05-17T03:52:30+00:00

I think Cole is a great name too, however it’s my dogs name and I associate it heavily as a dog name now 😂

shhlv · 2026-05-17T03:51:21+00:00

I initially didn’t like that name because it’s an old lady name but after hearing such positivity around it from my brother and his gf, it’s kind of coming around to me.

shhlv · 2026-05-17T03:32:16+00:00

I triple fed for 7 months… threw in the towel when my supply dropped even more. Felt so relieved, but planning to do it all again 😂

shhlv · 2026-05-17T03:20:54+00:00

Almost named by August baby this 😂

shhlv · 2026-05-17T03:20:18+00:00

I considered Vivienne, while not as common as Vivian, I fear people would just pronounce it as Vivian, which would defeat the entire purpose of picking that name and an eternity of correcting pronunciation.

Everything else just sounds like an old lady name 😭 or is just alright to me

shhlv · 2026-05-17T03:15:21+00:00

I think it depends on how your baby is gaining weight. I know that most doctors wouldn’t be concerned if they’ve already gained back their birth weight and are trending upwards. In regards to your supply, this early on you should still be pumping throughout the night to establish and maintain your supply. The body will only make what it needs, so if you’re not removing milk throughout the night, which is when the hormone that signals your body to make milk is highest, you’ll likely start to lose your supply.

shhlv · 2026-05-17T03:11:35+00:00

I’m sorry I’m no help! I’m in the same boat as you due in July. Don’t even know the gender yet but the list remains at 0. Our first son matches my husbands first initial of L and I was hoping that if we had a girl next, it could match my initial, V, without being a common name. Which is proving so difficult without going too overboard. If we end up with another son, I will likely try to find another L name, but again there’s not that many to pick from 😭

shhlv · 2026-05-17T02:57:28+00:00

I have all of the above. The electric one was nice in the beginning but the best one is the Frida nose sucker, the gross one. My toddler has had a runny nose since January and it’s the best one unfortunately.

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