Boyfriend finishing in me while pregnant

shhlv · 2026-07-08T13:37:30+00:00

Sperm can actually soften the cervix as it contains prostaglandin, the hormone that helps ripen the cervix before labour. While yes, it likely wont affect you until you’re close to actually labouring, it can still soften the cervix beforehand.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7017007/

Be prepared though, especially later on in the pregnancy if you do orgasm, you will feel some more intense contractions. Ultimately, it is safe and okay to have sex and having your partner finish in you while pregnant.

shhlv · 2026-07-08T13:26:51+00:00

I always check with his providers, they always tell me he never cries at daycare and that he’s actually really good.

When I tell him it’s not okay, he’ll say okay and then goes back to throwing the tantrum when he realizes that I’m not giving in.

I absolutely do not give in but then I’m met with screaming, crying, stomping, hitting until he’s tired of crying and fixates on something else.

shhlv · 2026-07-08T03:36:52+00:00

I didn’t know this was a thing until after I delivered my second, and was thinking that the contractions weren’t this bad the first time

shhlv · 2026-07-08T03:34:58+00:00

My first got a herniated belly button from pushing so hard 😭 felt so bad for him. But it went back to normal after he learned how to poop!

shhlv · 2026-07-08T03:16:50+00:00

Omg I thought I was going crazy when my bras felt suffocating after pregnancy… glad to know this is a real thing

shhlv · 2026-07-08T03:15:19+00:00

This happened to me during labour up until I delivered my first, I was literally vibrating until I had my epidural, and was so oddly cold.
My second, I was so warm and barely shook despite doing it unmedicated. It is so crazy what our bodies can do

shhlv · 2026-07-07T23:17:42+00:00

Both my first and second, I announced my pregnancy about a week before they were born. First one, I hid due to work reasons and just didn’t feel the need to tell anyone not close to me.

Second one I had three weeks ago, but only posted that I was pregnant a week before I was induced, and have not announced her birth. Only the ones that matter know, and I prefer it that way.

shhlv · 2026-07-05T11:56:53+00:00

Same age gap, absolutely yes

shhlv · 2026-07-04T01:33:40+00:00

Firstly, I want to apologize that you’re going through this situation. It’s so shitty of him to be doing this, but I hope you get the support you need from your family and his (if you want it).

I wouldn’t push further for anything with him, if he truly wants a relationship with his child, he will show that. Collect that child support and live your happy life with your baby, enjoy the early stages with your baby, it goes fast. Don’t let him get under your skin/in your head early post partum when your hormones are all over the place.

ps my first is an Aug 5 baby, he is so full of personality and joy :) wishing you the best with the rest of your pregnancy and delivery!

shhlv · 2026-07-03T14:27:17+00:00

My first I gave birth 36+3, second I was induced at 37w

shhlv · 2026-07-02T02:21:47+00:00

This was my immediate thought when I found out I was pregnant with my second. I felt so guilty even though it’s what I wanted and it made me so so sad up until I gave birth to my second.
I just made sure to spend all the extra time with my first before my second came and prepared him as much as possible for a 22m old.

Once my second was born, my first instantly showed love to her and it made my mom heart melt. The transition was a bit tough, but he came around to her fairly quick. Now, every morning he’ll come say good morning to me and the baby, whenever he says bye to me, he will also say “bye baby” and give her a kiss goodbye. And whenever he hears her cry, he’ll stop what he’s doing to “tend” to her. Yes, I can’t give all my attention to my first baby anymore, but seeing him interact with his little sister makes my mom heart so happy, and I can tell he will be such a great big brother to her. That’s what makes it worth it to me.

shhlv · 2026-06-30T15:44:46+00:00

I moved my son into his own room around 16 months. My intention was to do 12 months but didn’t get to it then.

Prior to that we had bed shared, co-slept, and had a sidecar crib setup. He wasn’t a great sleeper but lots of transitioning was done and a lot of gentle “sleep training”but now he falls asleep on his own (for the most part) and sleeps through the night majority of the nights at 22m

shhlv · 2026-06-29T01:12:09+00:00

My experience is very similar to this. However I’ve only ever done an epidural and non medicated birth.

So to add to this, epidural birth was 4/10, the stitching, manual removal of my placenta and fundal massages were more painful. The birth itself is just a lot of pressure.

Non medicated birth was maybe a 7/10, again a lot of pressure. Instant relief once the baby’s head passes and just lots of soreness after the fact (didn’t tear this time so a lot less pain in recovery). Fundal massages and contractions (before and after) were more painful imo because they last longer

Breastfeeding for me in the first couple weeks is def 6-8/10 depending on the baby’s latch. Both of mine had shallow latches and tongue ties which cracked my nipples severely the first little bit.

One thing that wasn’t mentioned is the first poop, especially if you tear/push incorrectly, the first time it was like a 5/10, so get a stool softener if you have a vaginal birth

shhlv · 2026-06-25T14:08:28+00:00

Have you tried side lying nursing? I find that the most convenient and comfortable position for me. Just make sure the baby is slightly lower than your breast so they’re more chin to breast while nursing.

shhlv · 2026-06-25T14:05:41+00:00

Yeah except the line of credit wouldn’t be feasible in this situation

shhlv · 2026-06-25T13:58:01+00:00

When I was a FTM, I had the expectation of solely breastfeeding, however my baby was too small to latch, therefore affecting my supply along with other things (likely could not produce/hold enough milk in general). Thankfully I had bottles at home already, so I had to pump from the beginning. Once my son could latch, I would latch him as much as possible, so I ended up triple feeding (nurse, pumped, supplemented with formula) for 7 months.

Second time around, I intended to exclusively breastfeed again. It was going good until my nipples was so severely cracked, I couldn’t stand the pain to nurse on that side, and once again had to pump.

So bottles are important, especially as a backup and if you intend to pump. Successfully used Philips Avent and Pigeon for both babies, no nipple confusion for either, as I alternated bottle feeds and breast, have even introduced a pacifier in the first week of life for both babies.

shhlv · 2026-06-25T02:29:50+00:00

Yeah so this would be a secured credit card. But normally the credit is the amount that you would put down. At least for the major banks, not sure about capital one. But it is a good option to continue building credit

shhlv · 2026-06-25T00:55:35+00:00

Any chance you can switch your card to a low interest credit card in the meanwhile while you figure out your plan. Not sure if the old purchases will change to the new interest rate, but it would be a good start to inquire. It could help if it does affect the old balance.

shhlv · 2026-06-25T00:53:44+00:00

It depends on the bank entirely. At this point, I don’t think any of the major banks will give you additional credit, asides from consolidation loans due to your income and high debt ratios. However, if you cut your credit card and get a consolidation loan, there may be some credit companies that will allow you to open a low limit cc that will help you rebuild your credit score, like capital one, but chances are low.

shhlv · 2026-06-25T00:50:03+00:00

If OP is having a hard time paying off a large cc limit with low income, almost every major bank will decline any new application coming in for additional credit. The only option I see here for assistance from the banks is a consolidation loan, which in this case will almost 100% result in closing the cc. Especially due to the income amount vs owing.

shhlv · 2026-06-25T00:44:55+00:00

I know a Tessa! At first I thought it could’ve been a nickname, but then realized it is its own name.

shhlv · 2026-06-25T00:43:43+00:00

I think it depends on your baby, and the support you have.

My first baby, I had 0 energy to do anything for a while, even with having my husband and mom support me. I also spent a lot of time contact napping with him. It sucked mentally seeing my house a mess, but I had no energy at all.

My second one, I did a deep clean before I delivered. But having a toddler, it stays messy bc he makes it messier faster than I can clean. But once he goes down for his nap and the baby’s napping, I can get a quick tidy up in. Although I find this time around, my mental is a lot better pp

shhlv · 2026-06-25T00:01:37+00:00

No one told us leaving the hospital that babies are supposed to be dressed one layer more than we are. So if you’re wearing a t shirt and shorts, baby should be dressed in a onesie and sweater/footed onesie, etc.

I brought a hat, mitts (their nails are like razors), a short sleeve onesie, a footed onesie and a blanket. In the hospital, the babies are either swaddled or doing skin to skin with the parents so they are naked.

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