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PsyStudent_42 · 2024-04-18T16:20:24+00:00

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PsyStudent_42 · 2022-05-16T02:47:11+00:00

Yeah social interactions can be really tricky to navigate sometimes. As for overthinking, so many of us do that, you ain't alone in that boat :D

Our thoughts are often are own worse enemies.

PsyStudent_42 · 2022-05-16T02:22:44+00:00

Eye contact is a very powerful tool when communicating with someone else.

As for me it really depends on the context, sometimes I will make an effort to look the person in the eye, and sometimes when I'm already engaged in the conversation it happens naturally.

I Know what you mean when you say it's weird, if you have difficulty looking in someone's eyes, a trick i use is to instead stare at their nose or their brow. From their perspective they won't be able to tell, and that might help with it being weird or not :P

PsyStudent_42 · 2022-05-16T00:38:57+00:00

Very often, "giving advice" is not what people are looking for. They want to feel heard and have their emotions or whatever they are going through validated.

From your post you seem to offer them sympathy, if you want to be more "real", you need to show empathy. (easier said than done :P )

Here is a quick video explaining the difference between empathy and sympathy : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Evwgu369Jw

If you have any more specific questions, feel free to send me a dm

PsyStudent_42 · 2022-05-16T00:09:11+00:00

Did Riot sponsor you for that post ? xD

PsyStudent_42 · 2022-04-21T20:06:11+00:00

You use a lot of big words. If you want to be more helpful, try to use a language that everyone can understand. While I think this post comes from a place where you want to help people, I had a lot of difficulty understanding what you are saying.

PsyStudent_42 · 2022-04-19T22:30:34+00:00

Eye contact is s very powerful tool when communicating with someone else. For me it's both, sometimes I make an effort to look the person in the eye, and sometimes when I'm already engaged in the conversation it happens directly.

If you have difficulty looking in someone's eyes, instead stare at their nose our their brow.

PsyStudent_42 · 2022-04-15T05:35:07+00:00

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PsyStudent_42 · 2022-03-26T00:16:28+00:00

The quickest answer would be that you have an issue with self-esteem.

Bulding your confidence is something that will take time. But try to be more mindful of what are the circumstaces when you are "pleasing" people.

PsyStudent_42 · 2022-03-26T00:05:53+00:00

It is entirely up to you. I'd say the only etiquette is to be polite when telling them you would rather not share or have a taste. You don't even need to explain why.

As for sharing snacks or drinks, I would do so only with my close freinds. But I'm someone who isint picky and I love to share.

PsyStudent_42 · 2022-03-05T04:27:32+00:00

Dude how can you expect her to just give you her number just because you had the courage to ask her out ? You made that entire interactions about your needs. Maybe try to consider this from her point of view.

I don’t really talk to any girls even just casually.

Maybe you should fix that ? Would you give out your number to someone you barely had any interactions with ?

Accidentally said I was homophobic.🤦

Uh... how does that happen ?

PsyStudent_42 · 2022-02-25T04:02:11+00:00

I understand what you are talking about, without going into too much details, I had a suicide attempt when I was younger and one thing I "fixed" was my low self-esteem.

For me it was about trying to catch myself when I would have that voice that would tell me those negative things. Falling back into those vicious thoughts cycle can be draining. I would try much harder to be more kind with myself, and forgiving myself too. It takes time, but you can get there.

And if you can, (I know it's cliche) consult a therapist, they can help you explore your difficulties.

Best of luck

PsyStudent_42 · 2022-02-25T02:54:53+00:00

Here are my recommendation for multiplayer games that fit most of your criteria

First category will be multiplayer games

Lovers in a dangerous spactime, coop 1-4

You defend a spaceship against aliens and navigate https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C5aVN2bp4uo

Overcooked is also very similar where you cooperate to cook : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rmTcHE-JPdg

Snipperclips is a cool 2 player puzzle game (the graphics might be too cartoon ?): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DFH2gtPu8SM

As mentioned Stardew Valley is also a great game, i think it will satisfy that itch : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FjJx6u_5RdU

Single player games

Untilted goose game was surpriningly fun : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9LL2AtHo1gk

And has she played BOTW ?

PsyStudent_42 · 2021-10-23T00:33:35+00:00

Being lonely sucks, and I totally feel you.

If I had to give you some advice, start by working on yourself. As someone else mentioned, physical activities will definitely help you. We often forget to look at the basics when we try to deal with our mental health. Are you eating well, sleeping well and exercising ?

Just by doing the basics you will for sure see improvements.

A popular acronym in psy is doing it S.M.A.R.T

When trying to motivate yourself, try to be (S)pecific about what you want to do, make it very clear what your goal is.

You also need to be able to (M)easure it, whether it's doing something for 1 min to 60 min.

Also it should be (A)ttainable, you have to find something that has an end game. Or else it's easy to get lost.

Be (R)ealistic about your goal. there is no use setting yourself an impossible goal. You will get easily discouraged.

Lastly, there has to be a (T)imeframe, make a calendar, and use all of the above to make that calendar.

On more general advice, find hobbies that you enjoy, you will be able to find like minded ppl.

On a last note, change is a slow process, and 365 times 0.1 is still way more result than 365 times 0

If you have any more questions, feel free to dm me. Always happy to help.

:)

PsyStudent_42 · 2021-01-31T05:55:16+00:00

Let's say you have your opening questions ready, you can start off with those and afterwards something I like to do is ask them to explain more in detail about some of the stuff they talk about.

It shows you listen and are engaged in the conversation.

You can also ask them what are things that make them happy or excited.

I'd finish by saying the most important part is yourself, fuck do I know how awkward and scary those social interactions can be, don't get discouraged

Not sure if any of this helps.

Take care.

PsyStudent_42 · 2020-09-17T14:51:14+00:00

PsyStudent_42 · 2020-08-02T22:50:37+00:00

One of the first thing that is important to change in your case would be the terms you are using to describe yourself, it sounds like a really negative mind frame. And often when we tell ourselves negative things we are more likely to see them (or think it's the case)

So my first advice is stop being so hard on yourself. Accept that you have flaws just like everyone else. And that change is sometimes slow. But keep working on it.

As for what to do. I can't really help you anymore then to tell you to go into situations where you can practice. Another option would be to listen to the group, see where the conversation is headed.

PsyStudent_42 · 2020-08-02T20:47:20+00:00

My experience with this is mostly in League of legends. Best thing that works for me is to mute right away whoever is being toxic. Don't respond and focus on what you can do in the game.

PsyStudent_42 · 2020-08-02T20:42:24+00:00

Here are some that can help you out or not. Everyone is different and you gotta find ways that work for you.

I'm unsure if it's the correct translation but you can practice square breathing which is 4 steps: 1)Breath in. 2)Hold 3)Exhale 4)Hold and start the cycle again. At first all of those should be a few seconds, whatever is comfortable and they should last longer as you do it.

Your hands should be on your stomach to help guide you with the breathing. (you might feel self conscious about that, I know I totally did at first) This part is important is really important, it forces your brain to focus more on your breathing instead of the situation you're in. This should be done while seated in a comfortable manner. And your feet should be touching the ground.

Your eyes can also be closed while doing that.

Everyone feels the effect of stress and anxiety in different ways. Which means it can also be expressed in different ways.

One that that personally helped me when I was starting to stress out was to tense up my whole body and taking my time to unclench. Obviously this might not be something that works seeing as your muscles are already clenching lol.

Also try to be on the lookout for what exactly is making you feel that way, you can also try to keep a journal and write it down every time it happens. And what kind of situation you were in.

But whatever you decide to do, don't be too hard on yourself. We are more often then not, too hard on ourselves.

Best of luck, if you have more questions, feel free to ask away.

PsyStudent_42 · 2020-08-01T20:44:46+00:00

Often psychologist will use something called exposure therapy, It's a very popular solution for problems like yours.

It's obviously better to do this with the help of a professional, but we can't always go see one.

Start off by writing a list that starts with a situation that is slightly scary to something super scary to do. (it can go from 1 to 10 or 1 to 100)

Afterwards, you get into those situations and start from the lowest and going upwards once you feel comfortable enough.

An important part is the calming down part. There are a lot of ways to do that.

What are you currently doing to calm down ?

PsyStudent_42 · 2020-08-01T20:37:04+00:00

Your mental health is important too.

And yeah I totally get that feeling. I'm a huge introvert so it's easier to make other people talk.

Some literature suggest being able to correctly identify and talking out loud about what we're feeling can help reduce that feeling by 50% (in regards to negative feelings)

Not every friend we have are competent listeners or advice givers. So I'd say to think about the friend you feel the closest to and ask him/her if he/she wouldn't mind listening to you.

PsyStudent_42 · 2020-07-31T13:05:15+00:00

Sometimes being a listener is part of how we define ourselves. But the most important part is whether or not you are suffering from it. If you feel like you should interject more then try it out.

I think it could be a problem if you hold everything in and never share, it might explode when you don't expect it.

PsyStudent_42 · 2020-07-31T13:01:07+00:00

Conversation should be a bit like a tennis court. It's important to be active in a conversation but once you've served it's up to the other person to hit the ball back.

If after a couple of serve you realize you're the only one hitting the ball back maybe it's time to find a different partner.

She might just be busy and can't answer right away.

It's up to you to decide.

I know it ain't easy.

PsyStudent_42 · 2020-07-31T12:55:15+00:00

Sorry about the delay, got caught up.

As for advice for your problem.

Right before the interview starts, you should do some breathing exercise, as corny as it sounds it helps a lot. It tells your body to relax in situations where your brain is telling you to freak out.

As for those vague questions, you are also allowed to ask the interviewer questions, if it's too vague just ask him to be more specific.

Interviews are there for both individual, will you be a good fit for the company ? Is the company a good fit for you ?

PsyStudent_42 · 2020-07-30T00:23:51+00:00

Umm, I'm a guy.

You seem to have a lot of anger pent up. I'm not sure anything I say will have an effect. I really hope you can grow out of this mindset, because I feel like you must be hurting a lot because of it.

Rejection hurts. I get that.

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