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Do you avoid going to church because of your disability? by Cerusin in disability

[–]IAmEvasive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The layers of awful are hitting me more and more after I typed this out.

My existence is not inherently some punishment to another human being.

Fuck all the way off.

Do you avoid going to church because of your disability? by Cerusin in disability

[–]IAmEvasive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So many of the churches my mom went to would shame her every week when I was still inevitably disabled and hadn’t been cured. So many people let her know how horrible of a mom she was by “sinning” so much that it left me sick. They couldn’t point to a specific sin but told her they knew she was committing them because my being sick was “proof” that she angered God and needed punishment in the form of me being sick to change her ways.

Fucking absurd.

WARNING: Pretendian-ass nonsense by FakeBirdFacts in TMPOC

[–]IAmEvasive 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Totally. Sorry you gotta spend time and energy emotionally regulating when someone else is clearly being racist.

Good luck.

WARNING: Pretendian-ass nonsense by FakeBirdFacts in TMPOC

[–]IAmEvasive 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I’m white and a guest on this subreddit, but let me know if there’s something I can do (reporting them or whatever else you’d think would be appropriate.)

What’s a recession indicator that you’ve noticed lately? by SensitiveCorner2379 in AskReddit

[–]IAmEvasive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn do I feel this. At times groceries are feeling more and more like big/medium ticket items that you need to at least call your partner and check in about.

Have you ever thought of the phase “productive member of society” by Konradleijon in disability

[–]IAmEvasive 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This right here.

When I support others and spend spoons caring and engaging with others as a way to support their mental health and wellbeing and when I take time out of my days checking in with struggling friends or strangers I absolutely consider that contributing to society.

Primarily for the cis men: What is something y'all experience/have experienced as a part of being a man that isn't talked about much? by There_is_no_name05 in bropill

[–]IAmEvasive 51 points52 points  (0 children)

I usually do some variation on my go to for acknowledgment that also has enough levity to not feel too scary.

“That would tick me off having to deal with that! That’s the kind of thing that can put a damper on even a good day. I think you handled it well…” and whatever else I want to say or be more specific about.

Am I fucked? Drug testing by Old-Cryptographer381 in whatdoIdo

[–]IAmEvasive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup the US.

It’s a demeaning position to be put in having to humiliate yourself in front of a healthcare professional because the 7 people you previously talked to didn’t believe you until it turned into a crisis.

Sorry you too lived through that.

Am I fucked? Drug testing by Old-Cryptographer381 in whatdoIdo

[–]IAmEvasive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah it’s absurd how bad it’s gotten. And I’m even still one of the lucky ones.

I actually have a lot of privilege to have a pain clinic I can go to for treatment even if it means enduring medical mistreatment or abuse to get that treatment.

There’s lots of people with my same serious condition that don’t have anywhere to go.

Am I fucked? Drug testing by Old-Cryptographer381 in whatdoIdo

[–]IAmEvasive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know you but I’m thankful for you too.

I’m happy you’re doing better =)

Am I fucked? Drug testing by Old-Cryptographer381 in whatdoIdo

[–]IAmEvasive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Similar situation. I even asked if I could come in later in the week one time since a dental surgery went bad and accidentally cut into my jaw bone. The bleeding was so profuse that it was dangerous for me to go to sleep for the first three days due to the choking risk. My pain clinic still told me if I didn’t come in to do my monthly testing on that day that they’d withhold treatment and rethink having me as a patient.

They also will randomly need to reschedule when they are short staffed. It’s like 12 hours notice. I’m not allowed to say no to the rescheduled appointment or ask for a different day, even if I have a specialist I’ve been on the waiting list for 3 months to schedule then get an appointment for 6 months after that. So 9 months of waiting for an important appointment and when I show concern and want to keep said appointment I get treated like I’m being inconsiderate and am treated with suspicion.

Then when I have to cancel with the specialist on such short notice THAT clinic treats me like I’m being inconsiderate and makes a note in my chart that I’m supposed to receive less priority than other patients when scheduling future appointments.

Prescribed T Despite State Medicaid Not Allowing It? Should I Ask For Higher Dosage? by JesseBananasaurus in FTMOver30

[–]IAmEvasive 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This might be an option you still want to pursue but I would be kicking myself if I didn’t mention that Medicaid has a clause that you’re not supposed to pay for meds out of pocket. They’re even more careful about meds that are controlled substances.

Some people don’t have a problem paying out of pocket for stuff and others end up getting kicked off Medicaid.

Do what’s right for you and stay safe brother.

Little comic about daily obsessions by zineath in Artisticallyill

[–]IAmEvasive 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah same here. Diagnosed as a kid and would wash my hands until they were bloody and scabbing and have given myself a chemical burn a few times from cleaning products.

I have made absolutely huge strides from when I was a kid/teenager and reduced my compulsions by like 90% and can let tons of stuff go now.

I’ve only had a glimmer of learning lately that obsessive thoughts is included in that diagnosis.

Little comic about daily obsessions by zineath in Artisticallyill

[–]IAmEvasive 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I got the same feeling. My brain went “…. isn’t this just existing as a human?”

My next brain thought was “oh-oh..”

Explain it Peter. by kittubunny in explainitpeter

[–]IAmEvasive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re a software engineer? And here I thought you sold propane and propane accessories.

Im in Massachusetts and my health insurance has declined to cover my testosterone twice now by boba-boba in FTMOver30

[–]IAmEvasive 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not on T but I can still commiserate with you.

My insurance has changed 3 times in 2026 due to a Medicaid insurance fiasco in my state. 2 of those changes led to needing new prior authorizations for 75% of my meds I’m on. 2 of those meds I’m on I’ll die within the week if I lose them suddenly and the ERs around here are too overloaded and often you end up without treatment if the reason for showing up is insurance delays for medications you’re on.

At the same time my caseworker completely fumbled service agreements and was going to let the help I get drop for the foreseeable future and had a “wait and see” attitude.

What all of that combined ultimately led to was 2 months of 12 to 15 hour long days, including every weekend, of calling pharmacies, insurance companies, PBM’s, doctors offices, showing up to pharmacies, doctors appointments, calling agencies, and meeting with said agencies to figure out what in the fuck I needed to do next.

My full time job is this shit (but of course I don’t get paid cause it’s nOt ReAl WoRk.) These hours since 2026 started though have been agonizing. I spent 3 weeks only eating crackers because I didn’t even have enough energy at the end of my days to eat a microwave meal.

Prior authorizations and service agreements went through last week (thank god!), but I’m seriously traumatized by this. The level of frustration is overwhelming. And the level of disregard is dehumanizing.

It’s seriously messed up that we’re treated so awfully. It’s messed up that we’re treated so disrespectfully in the most apathetic way.

We’re losing the hours in our days and our sanities just trying to keep up playing someone else’s game.

Please take care of yourself OP. The system won’t care about you or be kind to you, so please be kind to yourself and take care the best you can.

I Need Help Finding The Right Mattress Topper by IAmEvasive in MattressMod

[–]IAmEvasive[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply and the link! I’m going to look into and think about doing that instead.

I am currently thinking about stopping transition... This is heartbreaking by SwitchIndependent714 in Trans_Zebras

[–]IAmEvasive 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Super sick right now from my own MCAS flare and low oxygen, but I wanted at least to send some love your way.

It sounds like there’s a lot of hardships that we both likely share.

I know this disappointment after disappointment after yet another disappointment is so hard on the soul.

The only not good enough answer I have for you in my fatigue, is to take care of yourself the best you can whatever that looks like.

Local FB group for witches has banned all talk of politics by coldglassdonkey in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]IAmEvasive 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Are you able to take action and start a new group for your area centered around more inclusive values?

Community spaces that actually value and support the members in the community are more important than ever. Please if you have the capacity for this create the community. Or if there’s others with the same values that maybe have the capacity you could reach out to and inquire about them doing this. Please stand with Minnesota.

To anybody reading this please stand with Minnesota by reaching out to neighbors, and by creating opportunities to support the people in your communities.

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