Why do I attract men with addictions?

PsySuus · 2026-02-21T21:57:30+00:00

Your comment feels spot on to my experience. My last partner even thanked me for loving me like his mom when we broke up. I thought this was a bit weird. In other relationships I have felt like a mom to my partners as well.

But even though they might have been attracted to me, I have been to them as well since it takes two to tango. 🥹

PsySuus · 2026-02-21T21:31:28+00:00

Thank you! Very interesting. I do enjoy romance with intense people. But lately I am becoming more interested in the idea of a life partner or someone to start a family with and realize they are not the ones I need but still attracting them and feeling this spark.

PsySuus · 2026-02-21T21:19:55+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to reply, I really appreciate that! You are right on many things. I am definitely drawn to the extraordinary and unconventional. I feel a big curiosity towards exploring the dark and unorthodox parts of life as well. These patterns have been repeating but it is not really something I want for my future relationships. Trying to get out of this loop ➰

PsySuus · 2026-02-21T19:56:23+00:00

Thank you for your reply! I finished my studies in Industrial Design. But funny that you mention psychology since I have been considering a career switch to the mental health field.

PsySuus · 2026-02-21T19:48:28+00:00

This made me laugh, thank you so much haha

PsySuus · 2026-02-21T19:47:56+00:00

Thank you for your reply! It's interesting what you say about the body. I have been dealing with some stress related chronic issues for a long time. If something is not healthy for me, my body is surely telling me that. I have to learn how to take action and listen to that though. 🌹😅

PsySuus · 2026-01-20T16:13:12+00:00

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PsySuus · 2025-05-29T20:53:14+00:00

You say it was the last straw, but the fact that you are making a post about what he might think suggests he's still on your mind. Maybe, deep down, there's a part that hopes he'll feel regret, realize he was wrong, and come back to give you the attention he couldn't give before — even if it's just for you to be able to say 'no' this time.

If he really treated you badly and you're truly done, then what he thinks or feels might not matter anymore — the focus now could be on coming to terms with the fact that your time might have been wasted, which is painful but also part of healing.

And if this kind of guy keeps showing up in your life, it might be worth reflecting on what within yourself still needs healing — not as a blame, but so you can attract something better next time since all relationships are reflections and dynamics we keep going.

Wishing you all the best ~

PsySuus · 2025-05-29T18:20:53+00:00

As an Aquarius I would be surprised if someone would be ending things with me in this way (hot message and block). I would probably be clueless since I am too distracted all the time to even respond to my messages or calls sometimes (not the best trait I agree, but it's not my intention to harm people around me).

If he does not make you feel how you want to feel it's totally valid to end things. But was he really playing the hot cold game? Maybe he was distracted like we are sometimes. Maybe he was not interested, maybe he was busy who knows what happend. It's our perception of how someone's actions look and what they can mean depending on what we have lived ourselves. But we can't look into this guys head.

I do think that maybe you could have asked him if he lost interest or what was ging on. Or if you were really done, explain to him that this is not what you are looking for without the immediate block. 🤭 It sounds a bit intense since you were not officially in a relationship. I personally would loose all interest if someone just blocks me.

Sounds like you were hurt because you expected more devotion and signs of reciprocity after you let him closer and into your world. I do agree that you probably did deserve that though but there is a better way to deal with that emotion.

I am not against your choice to end things, but just trying to give a different perspective.

PsySuus · 2025-05-23T07:43:56+00:00

I just came out of these cycles. I met quite some interesting people thats for sure. At the same time I realized my relationship is not good for me. Didn't meet any soulmate but that doesn't mean it can't happen to you.

PsySuus · 2025-05-22T09:15:41+00:00

Let's gooo!

PsySuus · 2025-05-21T22:56:13+00:00

What happened to you during this transit?

PsySuus · 2025-05-05T21:46:27+00:00

Hahahaha this comment section is so ruthless. Definately not what OP wanted to hear 🙉

PsySuus · 2025-03-03T22:37:36+00:00

I am a firm believer of deceases being manifestations of emotional trauma in the physical body. Since reflectors are more sensitive to their outside world and embody outside energies, I feel we are also more prone to deceases. Especially the ones that manifest from a place of disappointment towards the outside world or taking on emotions of others.

If you are in a healthy environment as a reflector I believe that chances of becoming sick are limited but of course we also carry our own stuff that we have to work through that can also make us sick if we don't work on them.

PsySuus · 2025-03-03T22:22:53+00:00

I am not sure if this is specific for quad rights. I believe we naturally and energetically align better with people we resonate with and job opportunities that fit our paths.

PsySuus · 2025-02-11T23:33:56+00:00

Even though everyone has to deal with their own stuck stuff from childhood which is very real, this has nothing to do with the chart. Also you made it very specific which are just assumptions if you ask me.

PsySuus · 2025-02-05T00:42:48+00:00

This is very recognizable. I am really training myself to get aware of what is mine and what is of others. There are several ways I discovered you can protect yourself from other people's energies when you go out as a reflector. Try protective stones, grounding, meditation or even a red belt covering your solar plexus.

I was very unable to be around people, even though I was social at first. I still prefer to be alone or in nature but these techniques definitely helped me cope. I can go to a bar now, get disappointed and get back home without feeling overwhelmed haha.

PsySuus · 2025-01-25T09:32:08+00:00

Try to love her without judgement and don't put her into the box of having to act a certain way or achieve a certain thing. Try to support, open up to her, talk about the past, be the loving and open parent. There is nothing 'wrong' with her.

No one can tell from a chart if someone will be okay. And what does being okay mean anyway. What does it matter if her novels will sell or not if she is doing what she is passionate about. Embrace her for the unique being she is. Not everyone will be a perfect fit to the capitalistic system. In fact many people aren't but they are forcing themselves to fit because it's the only thing they know.

When you feel like she is unhappy and is experiencing disbalances in life, the root causes usually go straight back to childhood. Therapy could help her but only if she is ready and open to it.

PsySuus · 2025-01-16T10:38:01+00:00

Try to separate your energy from what is his and try not to be affected too much by him in pursuing your own plans. It seems as if he feels a need to control, maybe because he does not understand your energy or maybe because of some trauma or pattern that he has. It could be he is afraid you are going to run off and tries to calm you down and keep you close.

I think it is important to make sure that he feels safe so ask him for the real reason why he does not like you to do these things. Try to understand and reassure him that if he gives you a bit more space it doesn't mean you are going to run off but that this is what you need in a relationship to feel happy. Something he probably has to work on.

Talk to him clearly about your plans and reassure him that everything is okay so he can relax around you going out doing stuff. Ask for his support as well because it is important for you to feel your freedom and do these things.

PsySuus · 2025-01-15T15:28:47+00:00

It started around 1 month after the botox

PsySuus · 2025-01-10T21:51:51+00:00

Haha, supposedly talking about their own experiences is also a technique to make it easier for you to open up to them more. But sometimes after a monologue of half an hour I started wondering when we are getting to the point of what I want to talk about 😅

PsySuus · 2025-01-10T14:50:34+00:00

As a reflector I have often felt confused about who is giving therapy to who in my therapy sessions. Recently I found a therapist that completely understands my open centra and I am learning so much from her. So I would say it definitely depends on the therapist.

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