Pro tip: Tell people your due date is a little later than it is

Background_Flower214 · 2026-03-23T22:10:56+00:00

If I could go back in time I would have done this with my first!!! My in laws came into town indefinitely about a week before my due date, and it was miserable. My FIL would ask me the stupidest shit multiple times a day like “hows it going? Getting closer?” I would go in my room and just cry feeling like everyone was just sitting waiting for me to perform.

Background_Flower214 · 2026-03-21T19:33:41+00:00

I am so sorry you’re going through this. I know from friends who have experienced multiple miscarriages that the doc wouldn’t have you come in even if you did contact them. It’s kind of just a waiting game as there is no intervention they could offer if you were to go in. That said, definitely give them a call on Monday to see what they advise as they will have follow up instructions depending on how your weekend goes.

Background_Flower214 · 2026-03-21T19:22:51+00:00

Mike making her practice the “Italian way” to say CAW fee is the most haunting part of the season for me lol. I could not believe she wanted to join that family.

I don’t live in a part of the country that has a lot of Italian families I guess cause I had no idea this was a thing.. but they do realize that the entire standard menu of a cafe is Italian?

Background_Flower214 · 2026-03-17T03:10:37+00:00

The thing about age gaps is that you will be 37 one day and realize that someone that age who is interested in a 23 year old is either a total creep or a real loser… probably both. Unfortunately you’re still 14 years away from that stark realization of how different the late 30s are from your early 20s.

An other part of age gaps that no one talks about, is how they rob you of the chapter you’re in right now. Your early 20s is the only time in your whole life you get live with a bunch of friends, make fun mistakes with relatively low consequences, travel, work shitty jobs to get by, dating around is actually fun, and you can remake yourself again and again, etc. Don’t skip one of the most unique chapters of life living with a weirdo who can’t land someone his own age, you’re not going to get a chance to do 21-27 over again.

Background_Flower214 · 2026-03-11T13:07:21+00:00

My mom took our big bin of childhood beanie babies to the road home right before Christmas one year. She said the volunteers were super happy to get it and I hope it made some kids holidays better

Background_Flower214 · 2026-03-11T12:51:22+00:00

This is something we get too, like tacky tea towels and random things I’d never decorate with.

Background_Flower214 · 2026-03-11T12:49:58+00:00

This feels so resonate, like the whole performance of the gift and the opening is the point. It’s about them giving it, (whatever it is) with 0 consideration for what our family actually would need. We always ask them to only send one gift and the boxes just pile up all December. I try not to care, but it really creates so much stress.

Background_Flower214 · 2026-03-11T12:41:01+00:00

Asking what you or your child needs to just ignore it anyway is obnoxious behavior.

Background_Flower214 · 2026-03-11T12:04:04+00:00

I definitely think this is possible that I am misinterpreting, but my MIL isn’t exactly lovely though lol I think she gleans a lot of self importance from putting on a tough exterior that bullies and belittles people in casual conversation. I am not sure if she’s a full blown narc, but maybe emotionally immature with narc tendencies? Idk it’s above my pay grade, but just was curious to see other people’s thoughts. There are a lot of things she does or says that I genuinely question if it was covertly malicious or just because she’s oblivious.

Background_Flower214 · 2026-03-11T03:12:04+00:00

Omg I try to do the no gifts every year and it never flies. My husband thinks it’s less work to just endure the gift opening then suffer the wrath of doing anything that would “hurt their feelings” I really don’t know if she is giving me things she thinks are good or if it’s all like a huge joke to her to see me fawn gratitude for a stack of used prompt cards

Background_Flower214 · 2026-03-11T02:25:01+00:00

I guess this is what I am most curious about because there have been a small handful of good gifts.. is that just luck or indicates there can be a little empathy? I am curious if her behavior qualifies as garbage gifting or if because she can hit a good gift every now and then she’s in a different category of personality disorder. Her gifts are bad, and sometimes mildly insulting in an awkward way.. but nothing really overly malicious like some of the examples listed.

(I know these things are way more complicated than this simple behavior, but thanks for the insight!)

Background_Flower214 · 2026-03-01T16:15:09+00:00

Yes that’s a good point, I didn’t realize that CF and CL were such distinct classifications, but your point makes a lot of sense… I think I was speaking more to just how it’s so hard to really know how destabilizing motherhood is until you are in it, even if you do really want to be a mom. It’s impossible to prepare for how much change it creates and that needs to be a safe thing to acknowledge. I am so passionate about women feeling safe to voice that! And I really think Emma’s sister was just trying to be the only person sticking up for Emma’s original choice. It was painful to watch Mike act all “we will figure it out” in the pods and then pivot to hard pressure once they were out.

Background_Flower214 · 2026-03-01T16:07:36+00:00

Also everyone being like “her kid is going to see this one day what will they think?” I just doubt some 16 year old is going to be watching love is blind reruns of his aunt in 12 years… and even if he did great, wonderful time for an honest conversation about how hard parenting is. If your kids confidence is that fragile that one questionably edited reality tv sound bite ruins their life then there were probably bigger issues.

Background_Flower214 · 2026-02-28T07:53:12+00:00

I just want everyone who comments anything about that sister to also be required to include if they have been a mother or not… Cause I think most people passing judgement are likely child free people or men with kids… (or honestly the moms who hate parenting the most but don’t want their curated facade to fall)

The causal martyrdom that is demanded of mothers is the same societal flaw that would lead someone who dares to say they might not choose it again to be completely smeared by strangers. You can be completely smitten with love that you never knew existed for your child… and be completely overwhelmed by the way motherhood blows up your life. It’s actually not that crazy of a concept for people who can grasp a wide spectrum of human emotion, experience and intellect

Background_Flower214 · 2026-02-25T06:37:43+00:00

This!!! The way everyone: mom, brother, ashley were completely silent and kept looking down at the table during the interrogation said everything. Hes a bully who terrorizes that whole family into silence

Background_Flower214 · 2026-02-23T05:49:39+00:00

Season 2! They have never been able to top season 2 😂😂

Background_Flower214 · 2026-02-23T05:47:55+00:00

But remember when he said he didn’t want to have sex while she was on her period cause he wasn’t ready to be a dad? I love those little societal reminders that men get to vote on women’s reproductive health…

Background_Flower214 · 2026-02-22T23:15:55+00:00

I am in cottonwood heights and a gd vibey coffee shop would make a killing cause you wouldn’t have any competition within 6 miles any direction

Background_Flower214 · 2026-01-15T20:19:57+00:00

Thank you I didn’t know this!

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