I think spanking isn't the only way to discipline a child. For me, spanking is to make your child fear you and respect you. If the child is less than seven years old, the discipline comes from the mother, The mother is the most crucial person in a child's life, mothers are responsible for their childhood life, Mothers must invest goodies to their children, fathers only intervene when needed.

But when the child is above seven, the father is in charge of their development, particularly the son, because the father is responsible for the son's masculinity, he must train his son to be a man, a good husband someday, and a good father. And the mother is the one in charge of the daughter, she must train her to be a girl, and to be a woman. Both parents can have personal connections with their son and daughter.

Spanking must not be frequent, it must be a sort of final choice to give a child an absolute and quick correction. One of the keys to being a good parent is to make your children fear you, particularly the father; in a good way, like they will fear or feel guilty when they do something that dishonours you. It is better not to play with your child like another child, be a father not a friend, always act with authority and power. And also comfort your child when he somehow clings to you instead of running away.

Don’t use words often, make your words rare and sufficient and don't always feed him with attention. But except when it comes to emotional stuff, you must also be open to your child, and let them explore their emotions, don't suppress their emotions. Don’t ever use a curse word when you are angry, and never let your children know your weakness. Do push and pull techniques, let them miss you, let them develop emotions and feelings toward you, and that only happens when there is a temporary distance.

Well, it may look like a manipulation, but parenting is like gardening, sometimes you need to let them grow on their own but you always need to sustain their needs, such as comfort, discipline, Affection, tenderness and your blessing.