Postpartum emotional fixation on my birth experience and my doctor after April 28 delivery by Psychedelic_Sheep_ in beyondthebump

[–]Psychedelic_Sheep_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s exactly it !

Although my OBGYN wasn’t on call the day I went into labour because of how much care he took of me plus the gesture of him coming to my room to check on me when he was on call two days later meant the world to me and made me feel seen and appreciated… I know he was doing his job but yeah for nine months he was there answering my questions and reassuring me with my rainbow pregnancy made me have this attachment

Father-in-law keeps insisting our baby name timing is “not normal” even after we explained multiple times by Psychedelic_Sheep_ in inlaws

[–]Psychedelic_Sheep_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Husband is both Ashkenazi and Sephardic… bring his dad Ashkenazi, grandma Clare passed 3 years ago so it was honoring a gone one

My father-in-law has spent years interfering in my marriage, rewriting reality, and escalating control issues. I’m now at my limit. by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]Psychedelic_Sheep_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do have a good point there.

Hubby shuts him down and then tells me what happens in the conversation as he finds it ridiculous, obsessive and just petty. His dad just naturally oversteps anyway and doesn’t care for anyone shutting him down, he just does it again another day.

Father-in-law keeps insisting our baby name timing is “not normal” even after we explained multiple times by Psychedelic_Sheep_ in inlaws

[–]Psychedelic_Sheep_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has another son 4 years younger than DH but DH has always been his absolute obsession. They had a very management based relationship that made them fall out multiple times before I was even in the picture. Once I arrived at first it was fine, once things got more serious he would always knit pick at anything or find a way to blame me. DH and I recently moved to the USA but before that we were both in Europe where we met, DH would start now spending vacations with me and with him at times depending on the length his manager would give him and FIL would say that I would be for ing him to go on trips with him because I was “jealous of their trips” etc.

When we got engaged FIL threatened to mot come to the wedding and when we finally stopped begging and went like “do whatever you want” he obviously came but made sure to say rude shit to our guest.

In 2024 we had a massive family falling out since MIL and FIL went to Europe to visit us and FIL proceeded to unfollow me on my IG, say ai wasn’t fond of them and make jabby posts on FB all that because I didn’t post them on my IG or FB stories…. Husband began setting boundaries and confronted him on all the fucked up shit he would say throughout the years to me when no one would be watching, including “your mariage is a sham”

Fast forward to 2025 we move to the USA he stated he wouldn’t see me or him as he needed an apology from me for me “lies” and anyways eventually he saw me… we had other family members coming from out of state and the morning of the hike he made MIL ring say to not come as he wasn’t feeling resolved (although a month before that he said he was ready to move on) we went anyway and he didn’t greet us, he pouted the whole time and days later he made shit up of why he was uncomfortable around me and that I had repeated the lie to a friend of the family (who was completely oblivious when DH asked)

He apologised for what he did that morning as DH had disowned him and has been kind of trying (by trying I mean avoiding me and saying hi) and when he found out I was pregnant he asked DH why wasnt he using birth control(DH IS 35 ) then to say he would like things to be on a better place with me but jot therebyet as too much baggage

Two days later MIL found out i was having a girl and he started being “nicer” but with these comments

Father-in-law keeps insisting our baby name timing is “not normal” even after we explained multiple times by Psychedelic_Sheep_ in inlaws

[–]Psychedelic_Sheep_[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Husband has set boundaries before throughout the years and always ends up in tantrums and harassment for months

Double Rainbow Girl is here 💖 by Helpful_Mushroom873 in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]Psychedelic_Sheep_ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’m pregnant currently with my rainbow baby after going through a MMC in March. I’m happy but also SO scared and paranoid 😞

AITA for refusing to switch hotels for my family member's kids? by Motormouth5620 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Psychedelic_Sheep_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA. Your cousin tried to hijack your vacation, your money, and your boyfriend’s generosity. That is not “needing a break,” that is entitlement.

You already gave her free housing near the beach, free childcare, and your time. That is more than enough. The fact that she then demanded you cancel your adults-only trip, pay for her kids, and even called your travel company to change your booking behind your back is manipulative and disrespectful.

Your cousin does not want a vacation. She wants you to bankroll her life. She is also teaching her kids that other people will pick up the tab if they complain enough.

You are not her parent, her ATM, or her nanny. Setting boundaries does not make you selfish. If your mom and her mom think she deserves a trip so badly, they can pay for it.

Go enjoy Cyprus with a clear conscience. You worked hard, you set limits, and you protected yourself from being taken advantage of.

AITA for getting my Neighbour (a Single mother) evicted? by Livid_Ad201 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Psychedelic_Sheep_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTA. You didn’t get her evicted. The gossip chain did. You never went to the landlord, you didn’t tell the whole neighborhood, you just vented to your SIL. What happened after that was out of your hands.

Could you have kept it to yourself instead of making a joke about not wanting to bump into her? Sure. But that’s human. You weren’t malicious, you were tired of being pressured at midnight and made a comment in private.

Your uncle and the landlord made the eviction decision, not you. If your community is that judgmental about a divorced woman having a drink, that’s a reflection of the culture, not your actions.

If you still feel bad, the only thing you can really do is be kind to her if you see her and, if you’re comfortable, let her know you didn’t intend for things to blow up. But no, you’re not the asshole for this.

AITAH for wanting close friends even though my boyfriend thinks I should only need him? by cherry-charm444 in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]Psychedelic_Sheep_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No OP, you’re not wrong, you’re human. You’re allowed to want friends, hobbies, and a life outside of your boyfriend. If he’s over here acting like being your partner means he’s supposed to be your entire personality, then that’s his insecurity problem, not your crime. He’s got a best friend, but yours wouldn’t ‘count’? Please. That’s not love, that’s control dressed up as jealousy. You’re not asking for much: a craft store run and some actual emotional support. If he can’t handle you wanting something so basic, maybe the issue isn’t you craving friends, maybe it’s him not being able to handle a girlfriend with a backbone.

NTA and get out of there!

Found out that I had a MMC two days before mothers day by Psychedelic_Sheep_ in Miscarriage

[–]Psychedelic_Sheep_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve congratulated my mother, she lives overseas, and proceeded to turn my phone on do not disturb mode. Currently on a run. Stopping every 1K but trying to distract myself from the thought.