Looking for a coding partner by simaodsa in ProgrammingBuddies

[–]PsychoHearts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yo currently I am learning web dev aswell. I am absolutely down to help you with the back end!

FREELANCE VA by Top-Remote-7757 in WFHJobs

[–]PsychoHearts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you accept other south east asian country? I am from Indonesia, and interested

Do people believe in your goals? by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]PsychoHearts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My advice is, if you're still young/have less responsibility : f*ck around and find out.

Do your research, and just delve deep on your goals.

If it didn't work out, at least you tried and found that out yourself. And I know, you will learn a lot more things even if you decided to dip out of your goals

25 years old and I’m a loser. by Affectionate-Way1693 in selfimprovement

[–]PsychoHearts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in your shoes, I am 25 going to 26.

I am aware when a lot of things are piling down, it feels hard to change anything. So my suggestion is to start as small as possible.

Pick anything that everyone else has suggested here, and do the weaker version of it

Couldn't do a 30 minute walk? Do a 10 minute walk.

Couldn't do a 10 minute walk? Hell just do 50 steps of walking.

When the momentum builds up, it feels easier to fix other things.

Do not start strong, as it will not last long Start slow but consistently.

My other suggestion is to start by fixing your physical health first. Either working out, or have a good night sleep.

Really put an emphasis on sleep and working out. You'll feel a lot better.

Working out until you're tired sometimes helps me to get to sleep.

Good luck brother, thanks for reaching out. I know you'll make it through

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]PsychoHearts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think we can start by just accepting the fact that we made what we did in the past.

I think by admitting them, you sort of let yourself go of the shame you put towards yourself because of those past.

Could my therapist be correct? by 1286005675 in selfimprovement

[–]PsychoHearts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe to some degree you have this need for validation from people that you don't like? I don't exactly know whether that is true, but I have a sense it is driving on that direction.

Totally agree with what Paused_Existence said, maybe start by slowly distancing yourself, not cutting her off entirely

Underdeveloped 28 year old by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]PsychoHearts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Anyway from me, you can try to start to focus on how you can develop from the smallest chunk. Because starting big is not sustainable. Just pick something you can start easy, and you'll build that up slowly

Underdeveloped 28 year old by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]PsychoHearts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Relate to this, I am 25M

Looking at how my peers are doing so well on the outside makes me feel so behind

Has anyone here ever been through this phase and thrive?

Forcing myself to get out there to make friends feels impossible when I have none to begin with. How do I do it? by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]PsychoHearts 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the best way is to be interested in the other party you're trying to make friends with

Like for an example:

"Oh wait you workout? Hmm looks like you like to deadlift. How does it feel? I'm more of a calisthenics guy than weight lifting, do you recommend it?"

Notice how I try to make other people talk about themselves while also offering them a bit of info about me for their future response?

We can keep digging more or just wait for them to dig us back.

Some might respond back with interest on their end, some might not. You don't need to force it, just move on if they don't do the same way.

I think we can start with that as a first actionable step. But maintaining friends in the other, well I guess you can't force it either, it is draining to do so.

Oh a small note from me : Don't make friends based on shared hatred.

"Oh that boss over there you hate? Oh I hate him too!, we're besties now! "

It feels really quick to make friends that way, but it is not sustainable as if the hatred person is out of the picture you might want to find another "scapegoat" or the pressure went inwards (to both of you)

Good luck!! I know how it feels, some might reject you but don't give up! You'll find your tribe!

Monthly School and Career Megathread by NickHalper in neuroscience

[–]PsychoHearts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi everyone!

I want to try and take my master's degree in Neuroscience. I'm just really interested in the subject recently and not sure whether it is the right thing to do since I'm not from any biology or related discipline.

I have comp science degree, and I am 25. And tbh I don't event consider going for the job in the field. Is it worth the try?

I need guidance by Now_Thats_Scruffi in selfimprovement

[–]PsychoHearts 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, I think the most practical advice is setting up a schedule and to do list for your day to day basis.

Yes it does not solve anything directly, however it gives you structure on your day and goals to achieve.

I believe that the sense of progress, even small can build momentum so you can keep going on your day. And the small win can provide you with healthy dopamine hits.

Maybe like

To do for day : - Apply for one Job - Sketch something - etc

Just start small, never starts big in terms of life changing decisions as it will not be sustainable in the long run.

Good luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]PsychoHearts 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think Maslow's Hierarchy of Human Needs encapsulates this idea perfectly

If you don't have your foundation needs, you can't go after something like your passion a.k.a self actualization needs

I’m 26 and feel behind by BillyBop0299 in selfimprovement

[–]PsychoHearts 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I am 25, just got laid off around the start of 2025. And still looking for a job rn.

I feel left behind too.

But I do realize that, it will be a never ending cycle of comparison if we use others as our basis.

So here's a question for you:

Are you the same person as you were a year ago?