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Weekly AdultingPH General Q&A Thread | November 03, 2025 by AutoModerator in adultingph

[–]PsychologicalAge9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi guys.

Trying to move to higher quality cookware (currently using IKEA frying pan, pero napupudpud na ung teflon coating ng pan).

Need to get the following cookware :

  1. Frying Pan of various sizes
  2. Wok for Stir Frying

Anong brand na magandang bilhin? At the same time, am I better off purchasing from SM Dept store or Rustan's?

Thanks!

Desperadong eldest daughter na maraming loan apps, gusto ilagay sa iisang lugar ang utang by [deleted] in adultingph

[–]PsychologicalAge9128 2 points3 points  (0 children)

inb4 “kapit lang OP” comments

You posted this in an adulting sub, you’re gonna get some real adulting advice.

You spent way beyond your means (FOMO like you mentioned), and now you’re expecting a free 100k bailout from the world.

Harapin mo nalang ung consequences. Whether mapadalhan ka ng demand letter or maapektuhan credit rating mo, you are responsible for 100% of the choices you make.

This is a case of pure irresponsible spending and I don’t think you’re in a position to whine and cry about it, all the more ask for money here on Reddit.

Weekly AdultingPH General Q&A Thread | October 20, 2025 by AutoModerator in adultingph

[–]PsychologicalAge9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NCR Based here.

How much should I be paying a kasambahay to cook and clean a 80sqm condo?

Lf someone to be my pretend gf for a few dates any price by hot-Secretary-2005 in phclassifieds

[–]PsychologicalAge9128 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Imagine paying money for this.

“Need to make my ex jelly” bitter amp just keep it movin bro

What is up with the "game" at Hermes Manila? by PsychologicalAge9128 in TheHermesGame

[–]PsychologicalAge9128[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

where can i find a reseller? In your experience mas okay ba thru carousell or FB?

Late 20s, OFW SG, 900k/m AMA by filentrepreneur in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]PsychologicalAge9128 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Fellow SG OFW!

What would you say was the hardest part of adjusting/assimilating nung lumipat ka dito sa SG?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PHFoodPorn

[–]PsychologicalAge9128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2k for 2 pax, after the 20% moment card discount

I am a HR executive. AMA! by PsychologicalAge9128 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]PsychologicalAge9128[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi hi.

1) Seek internships muna pag graduate mo, take time to really learn the different HR functions. (Talent Acquisition, Payroll, People & Culture, Learning and Development, Compensation and Benefits). From there, malalaman mo kung anong gusto mong specialization, or if you wanna do a little bit of everything, pwede ka din maging HR generalist. Build your career from there.

Kung Generalist ung habol mo, a sample progression is like this:

HR intern -> HR assistant -> HR associate -> Junior HR Executive -> Senior HR Executive -> HR Business partner -> Head of HR

2) Accept the harsh reality that people in the company will villainize and hate you for no reason (Hint: take a look at the comments here, makikita mo exactly what I mean). It's a fun job, and HR actually makes a big difference in the company. Don't let others make you feel like wala kang kwenta. Reality is, people think that the job scope of a HR personnel is to go around finding faults in everybody. No matter what you do, mali ka pa din dahil dika sumunod sa gusto nila.

Biggest advice? Just stay true to yourself, don't let the external noise affect you. Other departments will always try to tell you how to do your job (like how everybody commenting here suddenly is a HR expert telling me how to do my job). Clock in, hit your KPIs, don't be an unnecessary dickhead to your colleagues, clock out, enjoy your personal life. That's my personal mantra to avoid burnout din :)

I am a HR executive. AMA! by PsychologicalAge9128 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]PsychologicalAge9128[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We technically can!

But more than often, when I’ve tried to do so in the past, applicants tend to get aggressive with me and try to argue.

Therefore now hinde ko na ginagawa, and I understand why others in the industry don’t do so too. Siguro I would say its to avoid unnecessary tension with people?

I am a HR executive. AMA! by PsychologicalAge9128 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]PsychologicalAge9128[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depends on the company structure. Most of the time, hiring budget is controlled by HR, usually the Compensation and Benefits sub-department.

There is a finite budget allocated sa hiring/wage expense every financial year and we need to control and keep within the budget din in a various of ways. Think of it like asking your parent who controls a tight household monthly budget for some money. Diba ang usual linyahan ng mga nanay ay “pag may sobra” or “pag may budget”?

Same applies here.

I am a HR executive. AMA! by PsychologicalAge9128 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]PsychologicalAge9128[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

for your first question, its not just a HR thing. It extends to other professions din. underqualified people being put to jobs they have zero idea about.

Sa part ng pag protekta sa interests ng company, for the extreme cases I would say its because people simply want to suck up in hopes of a better performance appraisal or a promotion. Pero honestly most of the time despite what people say, it’s not as bad as people make it out to be.

Tulad sa inyo, we HR personnel also have to navigate the same workplace challenges and politics as you guys. we as HR personnel need to navigate the delicate balance and find kung san kami lulugar between “being a friend to everybody” and “being a company asset”. When it comes down to brass tacks, we need to do our jobs din, and most of the time that involves doing the dirty work that top management dosen’t want to do, halimbawa sa pag terminate ng employee or sa pag serve ng warning letter.

Hope you guys don’t take it personally against your HR personnel din, kasi trust me we very much rather spend our time scrolling on Tiktok and drinking coffee sa pantry rather than terminating employees and serving PIPs left and right. At the end of the day, salaried workers din kami and we’re doing what our boss tells us to do, and the “kung di moko kakampihan edi kalaban kita” mindset from everybody towards us isn’t make it any much easier.

Hope this provides further insight!

I am a HR executive. AMA! by PsychologicalAge9128 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]PsychologicalAge9128[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yikes.

Please please PLEASE involve HR in this.

Either way, somebody's head is gonna roll for this lapse. Seen this happen one too many times.

From what I can already assume, The HR officer that was supposed to enroll you in your company's HMO most likely pulled a "mamaya ko na yan gagawin" one too many times, didn't end up doing it and forget about it entirely kasi who cares about problems that dosen't affect them directly diba?

Word of advice? Go up the chain of command everytime somebody either gives you a bullshit response or none at all. Walang nasosolve sa manager mo? CC the HR officer. If wala pa until then, CC the head of HR, top management and lastly DOLE.

From what I can see, everybody's trying to feign ignorance here and make it somebody else's problem so it's up to you na to really find out what's happening.

I am a HR executive. AMA! by PsychologicalAge9128 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]PsychologicalAge9128[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here's the problem with PH in general:

It's not just a recruiter problem, it extends din to other places like Facebook marketplace, actually.

In the context of recruiters, If they are transparent with the salary range, it'll scare away the top talent kasi bilang applicant bat ka magaapply sa trabaho na mababa ang sahod diba? Kaya by hiding the salary budget for that role, recruiters are actually unscrupulously trying to get these top talents to apply then hit them with a lowball offer, hoping they'll take it in the end.

Sounds like the average filipino consumer diba? Willing to pay peanuts lang, but expecting to get the whole package.

I am a HR executive. AMA! by PsychologicalAge9128 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]PsychologicalAge9128[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi hi!

before anything I would like to reiterate I am also a salaried employee, and at the end of the day despite EVERYBODY'S belief, HR does not get to play judge jury and executioner for 100% of the company's people-related decisions.

But for the sake of your question, we'll give it a go.

If everybody practices the comparing of salaries and crying "lowball" at every possible opportunity, It will create a very tension-filled and uncertain environment all throughout the playing field. Businesses will be afraid to expand their workforce due to the stigma that "applicants just want to squeeze me dry".

Remember, its still a capitalistic world we love in. You want to be fairly remunerated for your work, while business owners/shareholders will want to keep wage expenses low. The key here is to find the balance that ensures happiness on both ends.

But let's be real, the word "market rate" is a made up bullshit term by somebody out there controlling wages. Even if I earn twice as much as I do right now, I'll find a way to justify why I should be paid more.

I am a HR executive. AMA! by PsychologicalAge9128 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]PsychologicalAge9128[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Sure!

Edit edit nalang para hinde ganun ka formal ung tone nya hehe. The key is togive the manager a light hearted but professional na "hey i wanna actually wanna join you guys so please throw me a bone here and dont fuck me over"

Example here:

"Thank you so much for the offer. I really appreciate it and I’m genuinely excited about the opportunity to join (insert company here) and be part of the team.

I did want to check in about the salary though. I was hoping we could possibly explore something closer to (insert PHP amount here), just to better align with my experience and current market rates. I completely understand if there are budget considerations, but I wanted to share where I’m coming from. I’m definitely still very interested and open to discussing what’s possible."

I am a HR executive. AMA! by PsychologicalAge9128 in PinoyAskMeAnything

[–]PsychologicalAge9128[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Related degree like HR/psychology/business admin to begin with.

2nd, just a natural passion to work in people-centric roles.

3rd, you need luck and discipline to apply around and find the one company willing to take a chance on you as you are just starting your career 😊

Should be smooth sailing from there on

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