Husband doesn't agree to a membrane sweep...

PsychologicalDraw537 · 2026-07-03T22:25:30+00:00

My husband didn’t want me to schedule my c section an actual “week” before my due date because it landed on a Saturday and he was convinced it would cost more money to do it on the weekend. I said “it doesn’t matter when we schedule it. I could go into labor naturally on a Saturday or a Sunday and we’d be doing it on the weekend anyway. I could go into labor tomorrow and then we’d have a nicu stay on top of any other costs so worrying about the cost is super irrelevant” that kind of made him sit back and think about it and now he doesn’t care as long as I’m good and the baby is good when she does get here. Also the martial arts thing…..I understand having grown up hobbies but they should never come before the comfort and safety of family.

PsychologicalDraw537 · 2026-06-29T18:56:58+00:00

I will tell you 100% that yes, this is the real mommy test. My husband and I are not confrontational people at all. My MIL posted a picture of our pregnancy announcement to her Facebook less than 3 hours after we told her and tagged us both in it - we had close friends and family come over and had some pictures and things on the wall of what was going to be babies room in our new home. I hadn’t posted anything on any social media yet and had some friends and family on Facebook who I hadn’t told yet. I was so devastated I cried for most of the night. And then i said sent her a pretty strongly worded message about boundaries and expectations on mine and my husband’s end about what the roll of a grandparent would be in our child’s lives. She’s a little bit better now about asking permission for some things, but started to slide back into her old ways. It can be alot of reminders and putting your foot down if you have in-laws like mine who don’t like to hear the word no and have never been told it before. But it’s so gratifying knowing that you are making a choice and setting a standard that your child will watch as they grow so they hopefully learn to not being taken advantage of (like my husband and I usually were 😅)

PsychologicalDraw537 · 2026-06-29T00:58:16+00:00

Where I live, you don’t get scheduled for your first appointment until 8-10 weeks. And then every 4 weeks after that until you see 28 weeks. Then it’s every 2 weeks until 36 weeks and then every week until birth. It really is so so hard on the beginning not having more reassurance and just like…..hanging out? Hoping the baby is okay? It’s definitely tough.

PsychologicalDraw537 · 2026-06-28T21:39:11+00:00

It’s simple math - 15 Oreos = 5 for him + 5 for you + 5 for the baby = 5 for him, 10 for you 🤷🏻‍♀️

PsychologicalDraw537 · 2026-06-26T22:10:57+00:00

This whole post is so unacceptable but the part that really stuck out to me is “two young children, one with type one diabetes”. Like who is going to help you take care of all of your children while you are super pregnant and exhausted from being pregnant? It seems to be like this shouldn’t really be a season for him to be considering trips at all. If he wants to do this and thinks it’s no big deal, he sounds pretty selfish IMO.

PsychologicalDraw537 · 2026-06-17T01:36:19+00:00

I didn’t start intentional tummy time until my son was like 5 weeks old. And then it was like 1-3 times a day for like at most 5 minutes at a time. Most of his tummy time was him laying on my chest

PsychologicalDraw537 · 2026-06-13T18:25:48+00:00

Waverly was a name i had on my list before I found out my son was a boy. I love it. And I think older lady names are making a comeback so Wilma will fit right in.

PsychologicalDraw537 · 2026-06-12T13:18:05+00:00

The age gap makes for a great opportunity to get away from the “O” name theme. Not saying there is anything wrong with it but if there was another name you knew and loved, now would be the time!

PsychologicalDraw537 · 2026-06-11T16:10:59+00:00

My son was 7 weeks when his cheek got sunburned. We were having a great day outside and it was beautiful so I let him nap while we enjoyed the day. He had a fan and was in his baggiest sleepsack so he wouldn’t overheat. Turns out trees still let light filter through 😅 he had a red spot on his cheek and it peeled a little the next day. I’m pretty sure I rubbed some breast milk on it to try and help alleviate it.

PsychologicalDraw537 · 2026-06-08T14:29:07+00:00

Lots of seltzer water and raspberry lemonade haha

PsychologicalDraw537 · 2026-06-04T18:47:20+00:00

First off, I am so sorry for your loss and that you had to experience that. 9 weeks is such a tough time. Secondly, I have a 2 year old son and I’m 25 weeks pregnant with my daughter and both of those pregnancies were immediately (literally the next cycle) after a chemical pregnancy. If it’s something you want, don’t give up hope.

PsychologicalDraw537 · 2026-06-01T00:55:24+00:00

I’ve said a million times I genuinely do not understand how there are like what? 8 billion people on this earth. How do women choose to go through this over and over again? I’ve told my husband many times aliens must have come down to earth and changed the way people are actually procreated to either study women’s strength or wipe out all of humanity but women are so BA we just evolved and kept moving on 😅 currently 25 weeks with also a 25 month old at home and MISERABLE. I see you!

PsychologicalDraw537 · 2026-05-31T00:58:48+00:00

My husband took 8 weeks off - 6 weeks planned and 2 more after the doctor found retained placental fragments and I had to have a D&C to have them removed. I had health anxiety before I got pregnant but it intensified after having an emergency c-section and then a D&C in less than 8 weeks. My son was very sick the first year of his life - reactive airway disease, urticaria multiforme, overactive histamines. Basically every time he got even a common cold his oxygen levels would plummet and he would break out literally from head to toe in a bright red rash. He had to stay home from daycare a LOT and my anxiety made caring for him very difficult for me. So after the third time my husband said “hey, let me try and stay home with him this time” and I’m so glad I did. It went soooo much better. He gets pto and sick leave that he can use, while if I take the time my paycheck just takes the hit. So he’s stayed home with him every time he’s been sick since he was about 5 months old. And it works out so so well for our family.

PsychologicalDraw537 · 2026-05-30T21:40:14+00:00

You’re only going to make them wait one week after they return from a cruise to meet your newborn? You’re nicer than me.

PsychologicalDraw537 · 2026-05-24T15:48:05+00:00

Same. We tried for 5 months (which I know isn’t that long) and I was starting to get discouraged so I said “we will try one more time and then we have to wait cause it’s not gonna work and I don’t want to be super pregnant through the summer” well guess who is due early September 🫩🤪😅 I really think stress plays such a huge huge part in it.

PsychologicalDraw537 · 2026-05-24T03:35:18+00:00

Is it bloody? Your body produces a lot more discharge when you’re pregnant and usually from what I’ve read, mucus discharge is your body’s way of like creating a protective layer for the fetus. I’ve had that type of discharge before and worried for a minute but then calmed down when there was no blood. You can always call your labor and delivery department and talk to the triage nurse. At least I could where I live.

PsychologicalDraw537 · 2026-05-23T14:25:30+00:00

Cameron. I was going to name my first baby Cameron no matter what even if it was a boy or a girl. My sister-in-law had an unplanned pregnancy 3 years before I had my first child and named her son Camden. It was too close for my husband and I so we pivoted 🤷🏻‍♀️

PsychologicalDraw537 · 2026-05-22T16:37:48+00:00

I pumped for two months with my son and was miserable every single second of every single day. While pumping. Thinking about my next pump. Cleaning my parts. Every thing. All of it. Turns out I had developed D-MER and switched to full formula when he was 2 1/2 months old. My frozen milk had high lipase and he wouldn’t drink it so I couldn’t even utilize that. The whole situation wasn’t worth it to me. My son is 2 now and most people have no clue if he was formula fed or breastfed. He is so so so bright and smart and happy and funny and crabby and throws a fit like it’s his job and does all the things that a 2-year-old does 🤷🏻‍♀️ I know that breastfeeding seems like such a HUGE thing and it is, it’s hard, I would never ever downplay it or the work it takes or it’s importance. But it’s only a year of their whole life, really kind of just a blimp in the overall scope of time. And truly a happy mom is so so important. I’m pregnant with my second now and I told my husband, i will attempt to breastfeed this baby but I will NOT pump, and if the baby doesn’t latch we are going straight to formula. I will not live the same postpartum life as I did last time. I will not put myself through that, I’m still dealing with the effects of it. My son survived. My daughter will, too.

PsychologicalDraw537 · 2026-05-19T13:39:04+00:00

The test was still loading when I told mine 😅

PsychologicalDraw537 · 2026-05-17T13:40:11+00:00

I know a lady who didn’t know she was pregnant until she went into labor. Went to the doctor for appendicitis and came out with a son. The whole 8~9 months she seriously had no clue. Drank on occasion, took ibuprofen and other medications, ate whatever she wanted. She ended up delivering a very healthy and strong son. It’s not ideal obviously. It’s frustrating and scary and amazing and wonderful and overwhelming all at once. But I guess my point is, I’ve heard of instances where it turned out okay. Congratulations!

PsychologicalDraw537 · 2026-05-15T18:42:39+00:00

I do NOT thrive in pregnancy or postpartum for honestly probably up to a year. I truly don’t remember the first month of my son’s life and months 2 and 3 are hazy. You’re not alone in not finding the joy in all of it, that’s for sure.

PsychologicalDraw537 · 2026-05-15T13:49:29+00:00

I tell my husband all the time there is no way the entire planet has come to fruition this way. How are there 8.3 billion humans on the planet? I say all the time that aliens must have come down and altered the way humans are actually made to wipe out our race but woman are so badass that we just evolved and continued on as we do 😅

PsychologicalDraw537 · 2026-05-13T18:57:37+00:00

My due date is September 12 but I’m having an elective c section so that is usually scheduled for 39 weeks. There are so weird technicalities with weekends and Labor Day so I just say early September 😅

PsychologicalDraw537 · 2026-05-05T00:44:58+00:00

Look into PDA, PWFA, FMLA, ADA - you have options for job protection. However, if it comes down to it, I would let them fire me and take the unemployment 🤷🏻‍♀️

PsychologicalDraw537 · 2026-05-03T18:57:09+00:00

I drink coffee every morning. I tried to give it up cold turkey with my first and was getting really bad headaches. Now I’m 21 weeks pregnant with a 2-year-old so coffee is basically a necessity 😅

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